MISSMANNERS Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 About six months ago my relationship with my MM ended, and it was difficullt. About a month ago I emailed the ex MM for closure because it didn't end well. I didn't get a response from the email, but I'm not sure that I should have expected one. It seems to be more difficult now as time goes by and it seems to be much worse since I emailed him. Anybody have similar feelings after hitting the six months mark?
Tomcat33 Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 [COLOR=black][FONT=Times New Roman]Missmanners: I think perhaps what you were hoping to achieve by contacting him was to get some answers so that you could finally move on and get on with your life or possibly even the hope you could mend what you ended. You probably thought that he would respond and that his response would send you on your way to recovery but what happened instead was that his non reply has kept you waiting and hanging on for a response therefore hindering that chance at a recovery. Sometimes we need to find our own closure in life"s situations and sometimes we need to act as if the other person was taken away almost as like in death, with no answeres and too soon. Life doesn"t always offer us answers to our quandries and we have to find our own answers in order to move forward proceed in the line of progress. Try to find your own closure and focus on all the things that were just not right for you, that will help you understand and close the chapter once and for all.[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=black][FONT=Times New Roman]It seems harder now because contacting him and not getting a response just prolonged your attachment to him.[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=black][/COLOR] [COLOR=black][/COLOR]
kymberann Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 Is it possible you have hit an anniversary of something you did with xmm. THe date of when you two met, or revealed feelings. Sometimes those mile markers can bring us back to what had happened and how it ended and basically what we got ourselves in to! Closure or not! I am about one year out of the R and there are still reminders of what we did, what happened between us through out the months! I think though that when I get to a year and have gone through everything, it will be much easier. Just give yourself time!
OpenBook Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 Sometimes you never find the answers. You just have to keep moving forward in your own life. One foot in front of the other. After awhile, it gets easier, and you start noticing tiny little GOOD things. And then, after another while, you are back to your old self. Be patient with yourself. It took me two YEARS to get over my MM, unfortunately. It's never taken me that long to get over a guy since. (It was almost 20 years ago.) Not nearly as painful either. That was the worst. You're going to be all right.
kymberann Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 It took me two YEARS to get over my MM, unfortunately. It's never taken me that long to get over a guy since. (It was almost 20 years ago.) Not nearly as painful either. That was the worst Isn't that interesting!!! I have found that I can "get over" losing someone quicker since having been with mm. Now I figure if it works great, wonderful. If things fall apart I can move on. Accept the loss, hurt but move on!
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