Do I Have To Cut Off A Close Friend To Get Over the Ex? (Not the same people)

[LoveDeluxe78]

Broke up about almost a month ago now. Right now, 2 weeks of NC after a closure conversation! Been doing great the last 2 weeks! Wonderful, didn't even think about him! But for some reason, something was triggered today. Well, I talked to my close friend today, and found out the ex is moving in with my close friend so my close friend always talks about the ex when we talk so I'm a bit sadder today than usual. I wonder if I should NC the close friend as well. It's not that he intentionally tries to make me relapse, just that they are roommates and he just talks about what he's been up to and that sometimes involves mentioning the ex. Or....when he talks about going to a bar or a concert or whatever, I know he went with the ex, and then my mind wanders to that again!

 

Do I need to NC with my close friend? That doesn't seem fair. Not sure what to do right now!

 

Advice, please? Thanks.

[gman0hsev]

Why are they moving in together are they in a relationship or is it just for financial reasons? If it is a relationship I think it would be good to keep your distance for a while. If it is financial just explain how uncomfortable it makes you. Its a close friend so he should understand.

[heartoutside]

When my ex asked for a break, I went and stayed at our mutual good friends house for 4 days, and in the weeks following I would always go to him to talk about it. Bad idea, now 3 months later, I really don't talk to him really, and haven't hung out with him in 2 months. The reason why is because every time I would hang out with him I would just be reminded of my ex, and tempted to talk about her with him. Or he would say something about her. It was hurting my healing process so I just got busy and did my own thing, and haven't seen him since. It might be selfish, but right now I've got to make my self priority number 1. And if they are a good friend, they'll understand that....

[LoveDeluxe78]

Why are they moving in together are they in a relationship or is it just for financial reasons? If it is a relationship I think it would be good to keep your distance for a while. If it is financial just explain how uncomfortable it makes you. Its a close friend so he should understand.

 

 

Oh no they are both males, and they are very close friends. They are both in school and my friend's roommate just broke his lease so his close friend, my ex, decided to move in. It's not a relationship, but it still makes it very difficult everytime I talk to my close friend.

[gman0hsev]

Yeah im gonna have to agree with HO you gotta break off the friendship for a bit. If he is a good friend he will understand.

[Jmina]

Do I Have To Cut Off A Close Friend To Get Over the Ex?

 

If that is what it takes to really start getting over the ex. then yes. if they are a real friend then they will understand.

 

those that mind dont matter and those who matter never mind.

[fabulousgal]

yes i did this, cut off MY best friend ... very hard but it had to be done. i tried at first, but realized it was only setting me back and making me miserable. i didn't need my friends knowing how well he was and hanging out with him knowing how miserable i was....

 

just do it until you are cool with not bringing him up to the mutual friend.