missconfused Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 I have known my neighbor for over 18 years. She currently got me a job at her work place. Everything was going ok. Suddenly she started acting weird as if she didn't want me working there anymore. I'm not sure why but it is feeling very uncomfortable. What should I do?
solo_flyer Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 Ask her how she's doing and if everything's OK? Perhaps you have friends in common that might know something?
monkey00 Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 I have known my neighbor for over 18 years. She currently got me a job at her work place. Everything was going ok. Suddenly she started acting weird as if she didn't want me working there anymore. I'm not sure why but it is feeling very uncomfortable. What should I do? There's nothing you can do. Perhaps find another job elsewhere? Anyway the workplace can be a competitive place, (not to seem negative) which is why although it may sound good on paper its not the best decision to have family or even friends work with you. Similarly the same goes with roommates, if you want to salvage a friendship dont become roomies. And sometimes people's ego gets the best of them. Perhaps she feels you don't deserve to work there because she got you in the door. well, who knows!
Liquinn Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 Hmm, not really sure, can't help, sorry xD
curiousnycgirl Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 This could be touchy - is it possible that you are not performing well and she is regretting giving you a recommendation? I think you need to aproach her outside of the office and have a candid disucssion. Ask her if everything is ok and explain that you ahve been picking up negative vibes from her. Ask if you are just being paranoid or is it real. Be warned however - you may need to decide which is more important to you - the job, or the friendship with your neighbor.
reboot Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 Hmm, not really sure, can't help, sorry xD Why reply then?
BklynGuy Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 In my experience it is never good to work with a friend. It's best to keep life compartmentalized. Approach your friend, but she may not be honest with you.
popey Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 definitely think you should ask her how she thinks things are going since you've started there. maybe even ask if she has any advice for you, now that you've been working there for awhile. is it possible that you are taking attention away from her professionally or socially there?
suzy61 Posted October 8, 2007 Posted October 8, 2007 Yeah maybe you should have a word.I recently did something similar, very reluctantly.I recommended a friend for work, and now I'm working very closely with him. He's good, but sometimes I get put in a bad position because our direct boss is good friends with me (we are the only 2 girls in a male-dominated work place). Also I've been there over 2 years, I know the people, the system, etc.I know what works and what's ok to do or not do. Thing is that our boss occasionally says stuff to me about him...she speaks to him now and then if he's not doing something right, and he tends to ignore her.I'm stuck then because I don't want to tell him how to do his job (he's also got a bit more experience than me), but I feel I should maybe try and direct him a bit more towards our way of doing things. Most the time I've no problem with him there, but sometimes it gets very awkward.It's nothing to with him as a person, it's just the situation we're in. I definitely won't be doing that again...you live and learn!!!
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