KenzieAbsolutely Posted September 22, 2007 Posted September 22, 2007 i have a friend i don't want anymore. i know that sounds harsh, but this didn't happen overnight. she's driven me nuts with her neediness and clinginess for over a year now. she doesn't seem to realize that i have my own life and that i don't need to check in with her when i am doing something else. she will send me emails, comments, IM's, texts, and will call repeatedly if i don't answer, leaving me sing-songy messages that drive me crazy. she always needs to know where i will be, when i will be back, and how it involves her. she is a few years younger than me, but we're both at ages where that shouldn't really matter anymore. she has a job, and she acts inappropriately there too (i'll just say she works in a school.) she's more worried about being friends with the kids than doing a good job and acting like an adult. the other adults working in the school think the same things, and i know this because she tells me about the problems she always has with them. she smokes a lot of pot, and i am not saying i am angel, but i really don't want to be around it anymore, at least not that much. anytime someone she knows quits smoking it, she calls them losers and makes them feel stupid about it. she acts like it's a personal thing. i have managed be away from her for two weeks-- i've been busy and out of town, it was my fiance's birthday the one weekend, so i did have things to do...and excuses to keep me away from her. now that these two weeks are over, i realized how stress-free they have been (well, except the constant calling and whatnot, but i haven't seen her at least) and i want it to stay this way. we have had conversations about her behaviour before, and it gets better for a while, she'll lay off a little. but then it goes back to the same thing. i'm just done. i don't need the aggravation. do i just stop calling her? this wouldn't be a "we're friends and i wish you would stop this stuff" conversation, it's more of a "no more of this, i'm moving on, don't call me" conversation. i'm not mean, i don't want to hurt the girl's feelings, but i really just don't like her anymore. how do i approach this? thanks for your help, i know there are far more pressing matters on this board, and i appreciate any advice on this issue. i've never had to do this before.
Author KenzieAbsolutely Posted September 22, 2007 Author Posted September 22, 2007 she has now sent me about 5 texts asking where i am, what i am doing, and why am i ignoring her? how irritating. and it makes me feel like a huge bytch, because i hate feeling like this about someone i really used to like. ugh, hasn't anyone else ever had a friend they simply had to get rid of?
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