Donza Posted September 22, 2007 Posted September 22, 2007 Never in my life have i been burdened with so much hurt for a long period of time. No Contact is very difficult, knowing that the longer we are apart the less chance there is ever of any reconciliation. Why does she not see the light? Why does she not call? How can she possibly find someone who loved her as much as i did? Its crazy... One weekend and it all went to hell. If i could rewind the clock i would never have gone away with her.. But move on we must..
Diplok Posted September 22, 2007 Posted September 22, 2007 Give us a little more information on the relationship and what happened to cause the breakup so we can give you better advice. But, from your post, the only thing I can advice is to keep the NC. If she wanted to contact you, she would have. Always remember that.
Author Donza Posted September 22, 2007 Author Posted September 22, 2007 Give us a little more information on the relationship and what happened to cause the breakup so we can give you better advice. But, from your post, the only thing I can advice is to keep the NC. If she wanted to contact you, she would have. Always remember that. We went away to London a weekend in June. We went to a club. In the club were podium dancers. Whilst dancing i was looking at them dancing. We get outside she starts shouting at me. "Why were you looking at those girls, do you know how many men came and talked to me tonight. DO you know i could have been with anyone of them tonight" My heart sank there and then. She had said the same thing once before but i let it pass. After that it just went downhill. We bickered, argued etc. I told her the next day i needed time apart to re-evaluate what i was in this relationship for. She called my bluff and called it quits on the tuesday. I was absolutely devestated. In the midst of the breakup convo, she said a lot of hurtful things. How it was all crap from the start etc, and made a lot of hurtful accusations. I asked her to leave my home. Afterwards i pleaded for another chance. She told me to stop contacting her and move on. I did. Then a few days later she kept asking me why i ruined it... Then we both agreed to meet for reconciliation. She backed out. After a few more days. We decided to meet again. Only for her to back out again. The second time she raised my hopes and failed to appear simply destroyed me. I was an absolute emotional wreck. From that point onwards i told her i would go into NC. She rang/texted/emailed me.... Not to apologise. When she rang, she said nothing. I could not believe what i was hearing. I then told her i would have to ring her back. Which i never did. I told her sister i wanted nothing to do with her, she then initiated NC. A few weeks later in July i recieve a happy bday. I was angry/shocked and i went back to square one. I replied poiltely. She then replied again! I left it after that Come september and 2 months of NC , her grandfather passed away. I know she was close to him. And i sent a simple condolence meesage to her. She replied with a thankyou. Even though i found out she was upset.. All polite etc.. We were going to be engaged to be married around this time. Now its all gone downhill. I dare not contact her since she is mourning her grandfather. I did love this girl, i wish i had not reacted the way i did though on that weekend. But i more than apologised. Post break-up i was treated terribly by her. It nearly sent me over the edge.. I will be seeing her at a mutual friends wedding in a few months. It will be the first time we have seen eachother since our breakup. Dont know how i will react.. I am looking to see a therapist soon though..
Curious139 Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 It's confusing isn't it. I guess we never completely know another person. It sounds like she has some issues, a little insecure, but ultimately the two of you just didn't work out. That is so sad and hard to bear. I agree that you should see a therapist/counsellor - that can really help. The fact that you haven't heard from her suggests she is moving in other directions in her life. You must do the same even though it must seem impossible right now. You will heal. NC and counselling, friends, keeping busy, exercise, all of these strategies together will help. Keep the faith.
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