lovesparis Posted September 22, 2007 Posted September 22, 2007 i posted my first post in 2nd chances b/c tha'ts what i want- a 2nd chance with my ex. we broke up on aug 9 and i went a little nutty calling and emailing and trying to see him. i've been NC since aug 27, so it's been over a month since we've broken up, and coming up on a month that i've been NC. i feel no better about us breaking up now than i did a month ago and i'm still crying nearly everyday. i am NOT a cry-er. i don't even know what i want by posting. i guess just to get it off my chest. thanks for having a place for me to do that.
marty Posted September 22, 2007 Posted September 22, 2007 it will get better. trust me. let yourself feel the pain. if it means crying and crying untill your sick of it,, so be it. one day you'll get sick of feeling like crap, and you'll start to move on. you will,,,,,,, honest and well done for going NC for a month!!!!!!
Curious139 Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 It is awful isn't it - that empty feeling of loss that no amount of thought or action can overcome. Allow yourself to grieve, cry as much as you want to, there is no harm in it and eventually you'll start to heal. Well done with the NC too - wish I had your strength! Write down your thoughts, keep a journal, exercise, anything to get your mind onto other things. In time it will get better. We tend to obsess over the person we lost but thinking about them changes nothing and somehow those thoughts have to fade away. Keep going, you are actually coping well.
Author lovesparis Posted September 24, 2007 Author Posted September 24, 2007 justwannago, i don't feel any better today. i'm pretty much a constant mess. everything makes me want to cry. curious, i do everything i can to stay busy and do other things. i've been trying to keep a NC journal. i also write a lot of letters to my ex. i write them to get my feelings off my chest and outta my head. i don't send them, just save them to my computer. i was doing a lot of exercising for awhile. i've stopped now, though. i was house-sitting for a week. i've been going to the theater a lot. 3x since last sat. oy. i've been scrapbooking and pulling ivy. i've been packing things up for a garage sale i want to have in the spring. i've been calling my friends and discussing my feelings with them, unfortunately, i'm pretty sure most of them are about tired of me. i've also been posting here. thing is, i want to reconcile with him. as i posted on 2nd chances. i'm torn about respecting his time frame of not communicating with him until oct, and breaking NC and telling him how i feel. blah. i think a long weekend to paris will cure my blues.
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