ThisGirlNameKD Posted September 22, 2007 Posted September 22, 2007 Where do I begin? Early this year, my friend broke up with his girlfriend. This girl treated him like crap. There was an accumulation of things, but eventually it ended between them this way: she had children from a previous relationship, and while he was home watching her kids, she was cheating around on him with the other guy. Since I was already moving, he asked if he could move in with me for some time and I agreed to it. Some time had pass, and the both of us got together. When we were together things were good. He was making a lot of personal progress, and started feeling good about himself. Just last month, he was talking about wanting to commit to me and start a family, and we actually did start going through the process (thank god I did not become pregnant!!). Then along the way she came back into the picture and that's when things got rocky between us and we broke up. Eventually they continue to talk to each other, and the other night he stayed over at her house and they were back to making love, just one month after he was trying to have a child with me. Of course I was devastated, and now I'm torn between staying his friend only and just leaving him alone all together. I told him awhile ago before all of this happened, that we would always be friends if nothing else, and he feels that if he went back to her, I should stay friends with him no matter what. Part of me feels I can be his friend, and part of me feels I can't. I feel like I can't because I find it difficult to respect someone he was trying to make a baby with someone in one month, and sleeping with someone else the next month. My mind just can't get pass that as being acceptable. And secondly, I still have those feelings for him. I can't just push those feelings away and act like nothing happened and be friends. I know I said we would be friends no matter what, but I think there's a line you cross in a relationship that you can't go back to. Any advice??
gman0hsev Posted September 22, 2007 Posted September 22, 2007 Quite honestly I think that he was and plans to use you as a rebound relationship. And earlier this year? It may just be me but i dont think you should be planning for a family after being in a relationship for like a maximum of 7 months, especially if he just got out of a rocky relationship.... Anyway I say don't be friends with him, because from his actions its clear that he doesn't consider you as one!
Spinderella Posted September 22, 2007 Posted September 22, 2007 dont be friends. it does sound like you were a rebound relationship. it might hurt but you will only prolong things if you have any communication with him at all. just move on with your life, be happy.
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