Mandy5 Posted September 22, 2007 Posted September 22, 2007 so ive posted my story before, but basically my ex broke up with me about 2 months ago, because he wanted to be single, and now he is with a new girl after he said he woudl never date her. So tomorrow is our mutual friends birthday party, we are having dinner, and then heading to a few bars. Im so nervous, i haven't talked to him in just over 2 weeks, he says he doesn't want to talk to me, ive tried e-mailng but he never resonds. So i know i should just have fun and not worry about it, but I just wonder if he will talk to me, or will he totally ignore me! I want to have fun so i think i should let him tlak to me if he wants to, and if he doesn't then i guess theres nothing i can do right? thankfully his new gf wont be there, I don't think i could handle seeing that. any suggestions in how i should go about the night?
fabulousgal Posted September 22, 2007 Posted September 22, 2007 honestly i wouldn't go. i did this exact thing once (well there was no other girl)...and i held it together DURING the party, but then sobbed for two days after. i felt like crap knowing i was going to have to continue seeing him because my best friends wanted to remain his friend even though he dicked me over. so, eventually i got new friends and just avoided him for months until i could face it.
ijustwannago Posted September 22, 2007 Posted September 22, 2007 wow girl. are you sure you are ready to him? you really want to see him with that other girl? sounds like you are more worried about what he will do and how to react than having a good time. if you go will this event set you back or help you move forward? don't know your situation though, but ask yourself some questions.
Double D Posted September 22, 2007 Posted September 22, 2007 I also have to see my ex tomorrow http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t130077/ Hope it helps. Please post back.
Author Mandy5 Posted September 22, 2007 Author Posted September 22, 2007 welll....im not giong to not go just because he is going, that stupid.. im going to tell myself to have a good time, and ignore him:) im just curious to see if he will say hi or anything. i dunno i guess ill see how it goes..
ijustwannago Posted September 22, 2007 Posted September 22, 2007 just reread. so glad the other girl isn't going to be there. go if you are going to have fun. good luck. let us know how it goes.
Double D Posted September 22, 2007 Posted September 22, 2007 Please dont expect anything though and do not initate contact. Hopefully this will help protect you and MAKE SURE YOU HAVE FUN!
Author Mandy5 Posted September 23, 2007 Author Posted September 23, 2007 Well...The night was alright, i had fun, however i ended up getting pretty drunk and crying by tthe end because he wasen't talkign to me...which was a bad move. but its over and doen with now, the night just made me miss him more, but oh well. He has a new gf, and he doesnt want me in his life, so i guess there is nothign i can do. thanks everyone for their suggestions..i wish break ups were easier! ahah I just really hope one day we will be able to be friends, i gues it just takes a lot of time..
ijustwannago Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 hey Mandy...i hope you are ok. i wish you best.
Author Mandy5 Posted September 25, 2007 Author Posted September 25, 2007 so my ex wrote me an e-mail this morning, because i had called him to say sorry for sat night...cuzi have no idea what i said to him...and i thought i should say sorry.. and he said in the e-mail..."you have said and dont enough, don't talk to me" i burst out in tears, how can he just be like that, and not even care.. so i guess thats the last of that, i have to force myself to forget about him, but its sooo hard im taking this course at school and its a lot of studying, and everytime i sit down to study im constantly distracted thinking about him. I dont know what to do, any suggestions in how to force yourself to get over someone? It just sucks, that he can just be mad at me, for a night that i was not even myself because of alcohol..ahh.. i feel so stupid
alwayshurt Posted September 25, 2007 Posted September 25, 2007 hey Mandy, don't be hard on yourself. You did nothing wrong. We all are here in the same situation trying to win our exs back and by doing so we sometime end up doing stupid things. That's the way it goes. I am feeling the same pain. I posted a while ago and got no answer other than stay away from her. That is what I am doing but still it is hard for me to concentrate at work. There is nothing we can do. The NC is the best medicine because at the end we need to keep our dignity and integrity as persons and human being. eventually it will go away. Be well. Ciao
CaliGuy Posted September 25, 2007 Posted September 25, 2007 This is why sometimes it's better to avoid contact with your ex until you're well over them.
ijustwannago Posted September 25, 2007 Posted September 25, 2007 so my ex wrote me an e-mail this morning, because i had called him to say sorry for sat night...cuzi have no idea what i said to him...and i thought i should say sorry.. and he said in the e-mail..."you have said and dont enough, don't talk to me" i burst out in tears, how can he just be like that, and not even care.. so i guess thats the last of that, i have to force myself to forget about him, but its sooo hard darnit i'm sorry. i was worried about that happening. just take it one day at a time and resume NC!!! i do have to confess...........i accidently broke NC today. i was sending some friends a link to a story on burma and i have a group email that i use to send such things out. i forgot that his email is attached to it. Confonit! and it was only just two days ago that i looked at my cell phone and got rid of his contact info. accck. we are all here for you! let me know if i can do anything for you K..
Bosiell Posted September 25, 2007 Posted September 25, 2007 Mandy Granted, without knowing the the past situation of your relationship and how and why you broke up. This guy certainly doesnt seem like worth getting to upset over. He initially told you some crap about wanting to be alone then soon after had a new gf. To top it all though, totally regardless of what you said to him, and I doubt it was anything to nasty, for him to reply to you as he did was cutting. If he had any sort of heart, he would have realised how much you were hurting and been far more understanding. Yes you have to forget about him, move on. You deserve better, anyone would. Take care Bosiell
Author Mandy5 Posted September 26, 2007 Author Posted September 26, 2007 thanks everyone for the responses, i really appreciate them. I guess now i just have to take it one day at a time, slowly getting over him.. I know NC will help it just sucks for the first while, even though if i did try and talk to him he wouldn't give me the time of day to answer. It just sucks cuz when i was with him i was so happy, and he seemed so much different then he does now. I guess maybe he is trying to impress his new girlfriend by not talking to me or being negative towards me. I find it easy throughout the day to not think about him, but as soon as i get home or am ready to go to bed,i can never sleep because im constantly thinking about him, and him being with another girl.. I know i will get over him, but im just scared im never going to be able to talkto him again, butmaybe thats for the best. Thanks again to everyone, this site has helped me a lot, it gives me confindance to know that i can get over him,and there are other people out there in the same sort of boat. I just hope it will soon become easier.
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