Capricorn Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 I just wanted to talk to some other people that have morals. In my day to day life I am basically surrounded by people that have no morals at all. Besides my mom and a few of my friends everyone else I know sleeps around,does drugs,drinks daily and just goes with the flow. I feel so alone it's just depressing. I feel like I'm from another planet sometimes! I feel like I can't trust anyone! Most of the time I just stay home and don't even want to go anywhere! Everyone my fiance works with cheats,drinks and does drugs. Everyone in my fiances family drinks or does drugs. My 2 best friends are married to abusive alcoholics. I'm just tired of feeling alone, it seems like it's normal to cheat,lie and whatever. I love my man and he takes pretty good care of me but he basically just wants to come home from work and drink everyday. Him and I have had many arguments over his drinking the past 4 years we have been together and I'm to the point where I just give up. My man was in a car accident back in June, his friend was drunk and crashed into a tree, my fiance got hurt but was lucky it wasn't worse. His friend was more worried about his smashed up truck then my man getting hurt!! Even after the accident my man still drinks. I am just a nervous wreck and depressed 90% of the time. I just wanted to vent a little and see if anyone can relate.
Trialbyfire Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 While I'm not in your shoes and can't begin to fully understand the implications of being surrounded by people who are like that, it's good to see that you haven't been dragged down with the crowd and choose to take a different path. In taking a different path in life, would it not make sense to take it even further and begin to slowly distance yourself from people who are self-destructive, one person at a time?
JackJack Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 In taking a different path in life, would it not make sense to take it even further and begin to slowly distance yourself from people who are self-destructive, one person at a time? *I'm going to agree with this. It sounds like you might would benefit more by surrounding yourself with people who are more positive, and share the same kinds of out look on life, such as morals, values etc that you do. I know sometimes we can't always pick and choose our family or even friends sometimes, we just connect with people at times. But, when you're around people who have alot of negative views on themselves, the world, or are toxic to themselves, they can become toxic to those around them, and start to rub off on them too in a negative way. Him and I have had many arguments over his drinking the past 4 years we have been together and I'm to the point where I just give up. *This is a negative/toxic way to live. I'm sure you love him and care for him, but I will say I highly doubt his drinking will just go away, and stop altogether. This might be something else you want to think long and hard about. You can talk to him or have arguements with him until you're blue in the face, but until he decides he wants to get some help and not let drinking be his way of dealing or not dealing with things, then chances are it will continue in this same unhealthy pattern.
love necessity Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 I agree with everyone else...It's great that you haven't fallen in the crack of their ways, but you should really try distancing yourself for good. These people you speak of, obviously have no self-respect, so I highly doubt that they could ever respect anyone else...Truthfully, I think you are making your first step by speaking out about this depressing situation, now if only we can make you see the light... I think you should start the search within yourself and figure out what it is you want in life? Then, later on, you can find a way to straighten out the mess around you... Good luck...My best is with you...=)
Author Capricorn Posted September 22, 2007 Author Posted September 22, 2007 Thank you guys for sharing your thoughts. I do feel I am surrounded by a huge amount of negativity. I don't want to be judgemental or hate anyone but I am beyond tired of dealing with destructive negative people. My sister in law got in a car accident with my 3 yr old niece and my 6 yr old nephew in the car. Excuse my language but the stupid bitch was high on herion when it happened! My little niece almost died cause the roof of the vehicle hit her in the head, thank god my niece lived but every bone in her little face was broken and her one eyelid doesn't open now, she has to get more surgery. This accident happen also this year. I'm thankful that my niece,my nephew and my fiance survived the car crashes but I'm just a nervous wreck all the time. Honestly I myself drink maybe 2 or 3 times a month. I can go years without drinking though. I don't drink and drive and I'm not really into the whole bar scene. I'm 26 now, when I was younger I had an issue with drugs but haven't done drugs in almost 8 years. For the longest time I just tried to ignore things but ever since my niece and nephew got hurt I am very angry and even kinda hateful towards people that think it's ok to drink and do drugs all the time with no regard for other people.
Darkzen Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 I know how you feel quite well. I lost myself for a while, getting depressed because of feeling lonely. It's not, that you don't believe that there are people who share your beliefs, but it's more that you don't know any, well enough to feel the connection. My suggestion is to keep strong in your beliefs and look for that connection where ever you can find it. Be it online, in life or even in fantasy. It's not so much that you want to be around people exactly like you, but you do feel like no one around you can identify with you, right? It's like you feel out of place in your environment. I'm with you, as some people here will tell you, my outlook is extreme and very few share my views. It makes you feel lonely. I'd suggest taking a few philosophy courses or something similar. You may not find people that share your ideals, but they should at least be open to talk about what makes you tick. This will make you feel a little more accepted and a little less lonely. The fact that your SO doesn't share some of your ideals is also making you feel lonely, you have to accept the fact that not everyone will agree with you, but be convicted enough to not let it bring you down... People want to feel connected with others, I think that's my problem, I refuse to back down when I believe I'm right. Merely for the sake of feeling like I fit in.
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