tirp Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 Over a year ago my partner and i broke up because he went away to work for 3 months and I found out he cheat on me while away from me. this was it I had enough we fought alot and this was the final straw I was obsessive towards him and he couldnt handle me. I moved cities and he followed as he is is genuinley in love with me. as he likes to explain his cheating- I dont love her I just used her for sex- Im in love with you. IN the last year we have seen other people I introduced him to a friend of mine who was very lonely and she has no friends of her own I was partying and rubbing it in his face and incidently they hooked up there were no feeling in it but more so two sad lonely people keeping each other company. She knew I still loved him but also knew I was seeing other people. Now she has accidently fallen pregnant to him- now she is shady and I ahve cut her off all together but I have kept in touch with him as we get along so well as friends like no other and I know he doesnt love her and it was a mistake but he intends on doing the right thing by the baby. She has trapped him and the baby may not even be his. He kept this baby a secret for months as he couldnt tell me. I have not met anyone over the last year and a half that I feel the same way about or love like I love my ex. We are different to most very uninhibited people and tell each othe roften how much we love each other despite ourt past. its not till now that i have realised that I completely love him as I have bee trying to deny it and he makes me smile and makes me happy- he is not in love with her and tells me all the time how he wants me and me only- I am so confused i love him and realise how much I lost and miss him and everything we had. Vene now over a year later I am crazy in love with him. He has made so many mistakes over the last year but I just seem to get why and how he gets himself into these situations. My heart loves him my head knows the past. what should I do?
shoesies05 Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 this is tough- it always depends on who you are and who he is so its hard to give the right advice. I'd reccommend not seeing him, but at the same time it depends on these things: Has he changed? Do you trust him to never do it again? Are you doing it because you think you will never find someone else again who will love you the same and vis versa? If you take him back, what is going to stop him from thinking its okay to cheat again since u took him back? How would u feel with him having a child from another woman? What were u biggest issues in the relationship, and do u think it would be diff. now? Just ask youself a lot of questions, and wait it out til you can answer them rationally.
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