SteveW Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 Hi, My name is Steve and I have a special request of everyone on this forum. I am writing mainly to get a woman’s perspective -- but guys your opinion will also be valued. I’m 31 years old and would like to propose to my girlfriend of 2.5 years. The ‘how-to-propose’ is more nerve-racking to me than actually getting married. I have had an idea on how to do this for quite some time, yet I’d like to hear others’ thoughts. This is where you come in! I had a short career as a video editor, so I’m pretty good with putting together video montages. My idea involves collecting all the most romantic cinematic moments in history and producing a highlight reel full of riveting romantic scenes (e.g. Casablanca, etc.). These would be assembled together in a rapid pace, where the video finally transitions to my girlfriend and me and pictures of our special moments together. I thought I could make a monetary donation to a charming movie theater / projectionist, inviting my girlfriend for a night at the movies. This video would then play when we walk in the theater. So, two things… 1)What are your initial thoughts on this as a way of proposing? I fear it would come off as more cheesy than romantic? 2)if you think it’s a good idea, what movie scenes jump into your head that I could include? Your time and feedback is greatly appreciated. Steve
Trialbyfire Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 Firstly, it's sweet that you want to do something special for someone you love. It doesn't matter what we think as women. It's reliant on what type of personality your g/f is. My opinion would be that it's too much but then, I'm a fairly simple person when it comes to romance or romantic gestures.
Lizzie60 Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 Hi, My name is Steve and I have a special request of everyone on this forum. I am writing mainly to get a woman’s perspective -- but guys your opinion will also be valued. I’m 31 years old and would like to propose to my girlfriend of 2.5 years. The ‘how-to-propose’ is more nerve-racking to me than actually getting married. I have had an idea on how to do this for quite some time, yet I’d like to hear others’ thoughts. This is where you come in! I had a short career as a video editor, so I’m pretty good with putting together video montages. My idea involves collecting all the most romantic cinematic moments in history and producing a highlight reel full of riveting romantic scenes (e.g. Casablanca, etc.). These would be assembled together in a rapid pace, where the video finally transitions to my girlfriend and me and pictures of our special moments together. I thought I could make a monetary donation to a charming movie theater / projectionist, inviting my girlfriend for a night at the movies. This video would then play when we walk in the theater. So, two things… 1)What are your initial thoughts on this as a way of proposing? I fear it would come off as more cheesy than romantic? 2)if you think it’s a good idea, what movie scenes jump into your head that I could include? Your time and feedback is greatly appreciated. Steve Do you need ideas on what to write... or just opinions about your scenario? I say that the theatre thing is cheesy.. a little too much... the montage is sweet... a nice souvenir... What scene.. How about Demi Moore and P. Swayze in 'Ghost' with the song from the Righteous Brothers... sexy and romantic.
melodymatters Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 Nah, it's a once in a lifetime thing, and we are not talking about a football score thingy lighting up, I think it;s amazingly romantic ! I'll think on movie scenes that might work, but my vote is : it's romatic, sweet and memorable ! she's a lucky girl
sweetbutcheeky Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 Perfect just the way you described it! I don't even know you and you have me saying yes!! hee hee I agree, lucky girl!
kymberann Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 I say do it! It's different and what matters to you. Probably something your soon to be bride will always remember! As for movies Gone with the wind Keanu Reeved and Sandra Bullock can't remember the name The Princess Bride THe Notebook And have fun!!!
jcster Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 I think it's great! Romantic=cheesy - it's a fact. Go for the cheese!
amber1 Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 Great idea. That's awesome that you are being so creative about this. Here are some links to some of the most romantic movies. Maybe you can take scenes from these: http://movies.about.com/library/weekly/aaafitoplista.htm http://www.ivillage.co.uk/newspol/movies/mood/articles/0,,532359_533975,00.html http://www.hollywood.com/news/Top_25_Highest_Grossing_Romance_Movies/3479872 Hope she says yes.
Author SteveW Posted September 23, 2007 Author Posted September 23, 2007 Thanks everyone! Some really great feedback and recommendations!
MystifiedByMen Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 I would just keep the ring with you at all times. Then, when you feel this absolute special moment together, no matter where you are, then pull it out and go with whatever comes out of your mouth. She'll remember HOW she felt more than she'll remember what happened. What if she's in a bad mood that night? Cranky, sleepy, etc.. That's why I'd wait for a special moment you two are sharing. It could be at a fancy resturant, walking the dog at night in your pj's, or at dairy queen! Good luck!!!
Star Gazer Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 Given the creativity and effort you're even willing to put into this proposal, I'd say you could propose anywhere, at any time, and it would be romantic! That said, I actually have fantasies of being proposed to in EXACTLY THE SAME WAY that you suggested. I almost teared up reading it! GO FOR IT, all the way, and let us know how she says YES!!!
underpants Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 I vote yes. This is creative and romantic. Also...she will have evidence to play back later when you are not being romantic enough. If you can convince the movie theater owners/workers to let you use their theater and run your short montage onto the big screen that would be key. Maybe they could do it at an off time so you two have the theater to yourselves. Tell her a buddy of yours is offering to show a work of yours on the big screen and you would be delighted if she would join you to get her opinion. Popcorn or her favorite movie snack. Make sure you have the ring. Then the movie is cued up and all of these romantic moments in history are montaged against each other with clips or photos of your relationship mixed in. At the end of the video experience why not have the last scene be the question...Name, Will You Marry Me? Then have the ring open and presented as she turns to you. Repeat the question. Don't forget tissues. As far as romantic movie moments. Princess Bride (I agree that is good) Shrek Terminator Cindarella ...nevermind....other people might have to offer you movie clip ideas. I do like inserting pics of you two and memories you have shared. Maybe some abstract clips of flowers opening, hearts, old couple holding hands. Good luck. Post back and let us all know how it goes. Even cynical me could not say no to this.
Storyrider Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 I think it would be great, unless she is the type of woman who doesn't like a lot of fuss and would prefer something low key and intimate. It all depends on her.
shoesies05 Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 It depends on the woman. But i think most women would LOVE it if a guy put that much thought and effort into making the "perfect proposal"... i love your idea. i think id melt if a guy proposed to me like that
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