Dammit

[BklynGuy]

Okay, got involved with the wrong girl a few years back. I was the MM. She was involved. At the time, I was too naive to understand what I was involved in. I was thinking all girls are good, innocent, and want to be with you in a ltr. Got burned badly, she didn't treat me well at all. Looking back, I was just a little toy to her. I am still in college and not a bad looking guy. She would put me down in every way, find all my faults and rub them in my face. Never dealt with someone like that before.

 

Ultimately we got emotionally attached, but she was still living with HS bf. I got sick & tired and slept with another girl, after which she promptly got rid of me, or didn't really seem to care if I was in her life. She tells me she'll come back when she moves out. She does, but is involved with another ex. I try to get back with her and she tells me Im not her type. Ok, screw you, Im done & moved on. Blocked her totally for a year and did the NC thing. Became afraid of romantic relationships and have basically slept with each girl Ive met since once & gotten rid of them.

 

The icing on the cake was the last girl I was intimate with. She worked with me, was highly attractive, kept flirting for a year & finally used her sex appeal to draw me in. So much sexual tension between us we did it on the 2nd date. She uses all this to get her bf jealous & then basically sends him after me. Got out of that one.

 

Now the first one comes back & is still acting the fool. Doesn't show me any respect, is involved with another guy yet is harassing me to go out on dates. I gave her a few chances, and she continues with bad behavior. She asked me for sex one night, I said not tonight as we hadn't seen eachother in years. She left, Im sure she had sex with someone else and came back to her apt at which I was hanging out. I left. We go to dinner and for drinks, this night I thought I was gonna get laid, she runs off with her man as soon as the check is paid by me.

 

I got really mad at her behavior as I had to do a lot to recover from our initial relationship. She made my self esteem take a real nose dive then. Now she is asking me to go to the movies with her and telling me I rejected her. I reminded her of what she has said & done to me & now she's like 'you're my ex, been there, done that.' Okay, Im not the one chasing her down or trying to get into her pants anymore. I realize she's just one woman, not the pride & joy of the world. My problem is Im still plagued & afraid to get close to someone else. I'm not going back with her at all. I also realize that all the girls I dissed was just a sign of how unhealthy I was at the time to be with in a R. Do I need therapy? Can't totally get her outta my head & I think it's cuz she treated me so badly.

[LucreziaBorgia]

I was the MM.

 

You realize, of course that MM means 'married man'. I went back and looked over some of your old posts. Are you saying now that this whole time you were married?!

[herenow]

I don't understand. You say that you were the MM. What happened to your wife? Are you still together or did you get divorced? Are you still in college? I'm so confused.

[BklynGuy]

Have to get with the lingo. I meant other man. I thought MM meant MailMan.

[Lyssa]

Have to get with the lingo. I meant other man. I thought MM meant MailMan.

 

:lmao: I'm sorry but that was really cute.

 

So was she the MW?

[BklynGuy]

LOL, that's a good one.

[herenow]

Do you think you would feel different about her if she treated you well? It sounds like you are saying that you can't get her out of your mind because she treated you badly. Do you feel like your ego has been hurt and that is why you can't let go? If so, your feeling has nothing to do with her and everything to do with how you feel about yourself.

[TogetherForever]

Bklyn,

Just say NO to her demands from now on.

Watch your esteem skyrocket!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Oh & mm = mailman / :lmao: Good one!!!

[bish]

Okay, got involved with the wrong girl a few years back. I was the MM. She was involved. At the time, I was too naive to understand what I was involved in. I was thinking all girls are good, innocent, and want to be with you in a ltr. Got burned badly, she didn't treat me well at all.

 

Let me get this straight....you cheated on your wife....but it was YOU that got burned and not treated well??....uh......ok

 

Looking back, I was just a little toy to her.

 

And your wife?

 

I am still in college and not a bad looking guy. She would put me down in every way, find all my faults and rub them in my face. Never dealt with someone like that before.

 

Did that make you appreciate your wife more?

 

Ultimately we got emotionally attached, but she was still living with HS bf. I got sick & tired and slept with another girl

 

 

Now I did read it right didn't I? You said in the first paragraph you are/were a married man at the time? So you get treated badly by your OW, then go off and just sleep with someone else?? Why the hell don't you just divorce your wife then and set her free?

 

after which she promptly got rid of me, or didn't really seem to care if I was in her life. She tells me she'll come back when she moves out. She does, but is involved with another ex. I try to get back with her and she tells me Im not her type. Ok, screw you, Im done & moved on. Blocked her totally for a year and did the NC thing. Became afraid of romantic relationships and have basically slept with each girl Ive met since once & gotten rid of them.

 

Oh this just keeps getting better? Unless you are ommitting some pertinent information....are you still married and keep sleeping around?

 

 

Now the first one comes back & is still acting the fool. Doesn't show me any respect,

 

Well if you are married and fooling around, you don't deserve any respect.

 

Are you freakin kidding me? Or are you not married any longer and fail to add that to the story?

 

Do I need therapy?.

 

No...if you are married, you need to get a divorce because you are not fit to be married.

 

Now if you forgot somehow to mention you aren't married anymore, then my bad...with the exception of you messing around on your wife the first time.

[bish]

Ok...just now saw you meant you were the OM...not MM.

 

Either way...no sympathy for you here. You hooked up with a girl that was betraying her bf's...you knew it...and didn't care.

 

so not only did you knowingly get sucked in by a tramp over and over...you were an accomplice to her cheating on her bf's.

 

So really....you have no right to complain.

[herenow]

Ok...just now saw you meant you were the OM...not MM.

 

Either way...no sympathy for you here. You hooked up with a girl that was betraying her bf's...you knew it...and didn't care.

 

so not only did you knowingly get sucked in by a tramp over and over...you were an accomplice to her cheating on her bf's.

 

So really....you have no right to complain.

 

Bish,

 

I usually agree with you, but this is a young guy who has some real issues that he doesn't understand.

 

He is hung up on a selfish woman who treats him badly and he keeps going back for more. He needs to figure out what it is he finds appealing about this woman and then deal with his own issues.

[whichwayisup]

MM- mailman! LOL that's funny.

 

Okay well, it's obvious that you're attacking a certain kind of woman, and I agree with afew others, you need to fix that about yourself. Seek some counselling and build up your self confidence. Learn to trust again because one day you WILL meet a good (single) woman who is more deserving of your love than the other two you were involved with.

 

Go NC (no contact) with both of them, you don't need'em in your life at all.