uniqueone Posted September 26, 2007 Posted September 26, 2007 It is much easier for a good woman to find a good man than it is for a good man to find a good woman. You should have put a warning on you post.....someone just had to give me the Heimlich maneuver after I read this......
Woggle Posted September 26, 2007 Posted September 26, 2007 You should have put a warning on you post.....someone just had to give me the Heimlich maneuver after I read this...... It 's the truth. A good man will most likely date a couple women who get bored and then cheat on him with some scumbag while a genuinely good woman has her pick of him who will treat her like a queen.
uniqueone Posted September 26, 2007 Posted September 26, 2007 On this subject.... There's these two guys that I know of who are thirtyish and I've seen them both recently. One is at least 300 lbs. The other is 100 lbs. soaking wet and looks 15 years old. They're both married. I don't know how long each has been married. I started to think about this thread when I saw them and wondered if women married them (or vice versa) because they were feeling desperate at "that age" when everyone else was getting married.
uniqueone Posted September 26, 2007 Posted September 26, 2007 It 's the truth. A good man will most likely date a couple women who get bored and then cheat on him with some scumbag while a genuinely good woman has her pick of him who will treat her like a queen. Oh great.....now I just spewed Pepsi all over the screen.......
Road Rage Posted September 26, 2007 Posted September 26, 2007 and woggle has backup troops. Yes, it is much, much easier for a woman to find a good man than vice versa. Anyone who spends some time on LS will have abundant evidence of it. This place just drools of women doing stupid things with the wrong men. It seems very seldom there is a woman just looking for a decent man. The women are repeatedly groveling at a**holes feet over and over again. I`m getting tired of it:mad:
uniqueone Posted September 26, 2007 Posted September 26, 2007 and woggle has backup troops. Yes, it is much, much easier for a woman to find a good man than vice versa. Anyone who spends some time on LS will have abundant evidence of it. This place just drools of women doing stupid things with the wrong men. It seems very seldom there is a woman just looking for a decent man. The women are repeatedly groveling at a**holes feet over and over again. I`m getting tired of it:mad: Ok, let's clear up this confusion..... First off, some men seem to confuse something. They ration that if THEY are a nice guy and the woman isn't interested in THEM, then it means she doesn't want a nice guy. In other words, they tend to de-personalize things and assume it's a TYPE she doesn't want and not THEM that she doesn't want. It's funny....women tend to personalize things whereas men tend to externalize things. Women tend to attribute rejection as there being something wrong with themselves,("I must not be pretty enough"), but men tend to attribute rejection to "external" reasons (for instance: "she must not want a nice guy".) Another factor......some men think that "niceness" is the entire package. Women tend to be drawn to other things as well, such as leadership traits and strength. The guy who is nice but who shows no leadership or strength isn't going to impress many women. And yet he's going to say to himself: "But I'm a nice guy! Why don't women want me? See! Women don't want nice guys!" Niceness is only part of the package. Now let's take the "***hole that you say a lot of women go for. He's a leader because he does his own thing and he's got strength because he doesn't put up with anyone's BS. He can act nice at all the right times...especially at the beginning. It's THIS package that pulls women in. Later on, they might find out that he's really not so nice. But by that point, they've already been pulled in too far. And THIS is why you see women with ***holes.
Cad Rake Posted September 26, 2007 Posted September 26, 2007 There's too much desperation at that 25-30 age. It's much better later on....more relaxed......except everyone's screwed up...... Haha so true! There's nobody LESS fun than a 29 year old never-married woman. 40 year old chicks are fun but screwballs. Look to have a good time with women, nothing more. If you end up someday in a happy marriage, consider yourself lucky. If you don't, then continue having fun.
uniqueone Posted September 26, 2007 Posted September 26, 2007 40 year old chicks are fun but screwballs. Why thank you!
Melocoton Posted September 26, 2007 Posted September 26, 2007 Being single and 30 is THE BEST time to go shopping for a mate, IMO. Yeah, many of the "good ones" may be taken, but that is just your perception. I look at it like this, -all the desperate to get married and family ladies are, well married -all the "trashy ones" are easily idetifiable -your dating age range can be from 24-39, even more.. leaving you a ton of options - women and men younger than 25 are still in college, no solid carreer, not sure where they will be or what they will do in life, they are figuring it out for themselves during this time. Not a great idea for someone who wants a serious relationship. -men and women in their late 20s early 30s that have not been married are strong and independant enough to wait for their "ideal" mate and do not panic and settle for less. I agree, yes, they may be harder to find but they are out there, you just have to creative in meeting them. Curious though, what you consider "trashy"? I'm assuming people who have casual sex easily.
Star Gazer Posted September 26, 2007 Posted September 26, 2007 I am in that age group, single, and not one ounce of "trashy."
Author frd150 Posted September 26, 2007 Author Posted September 26, 2007 Being single and 30 is THE BEST time to go shopping for a mate, IMO. Yeah, many of the "good ones" may be taken, but that is just your perception. I look at it like this, -all the desperate to get married and family ladies are, well married -all the "trashy ones" are easily idetifiable -your dating age range can be from 24-39, even more.. leaving you a ton of options - women and men younger than 25 are still in college, no solid carreer, not sure where they will be or what they will do in life, they are figuring it out for themselves during this time. Not a great idea for someone who wants a serious relationship. -men and women in their late 20s early 30s that have not been married are strong and independant enough to wait for their "ideal" mate and do not panic and settle for less. I agree, yes, they may be harder to find but they are out there, you just have to creative in meeting them. Curious though, what you consider "trashy"? I'm assuming people who have casual sex easily. Thanks. Maybe trashy was too sweeping of a term. What I was trying to describe was the late twenties early thirties girl who still parties in clubs on a regular basis, bounces from guy to guy (for sex in some cases) Dont get me wrong.... I love sex. Basically still leading the early twenties kinda life. My ex who is twenty six is hanging out with one of these girls and it was rubbing off on her. It seeems though that my ex has mellowed some. This girl just a female player. She goes beyond casual sex. I dunno, I see your point about the strong independant head on their shoulders types. Its what im looking for. If what your saying is true then there shoud be alot out there for me. Creative....hmmm??
Author frd150 Posted September 26, 2007 Author Posted September 26, 2007 I am in that age group, single, and not one ounce of "trashy." Never doubted you for a second:)
Woggle Posted September 26, 2007 Posted September 26, 2007 No matter what age you are trying to find a good woman is like searching in a bag of trash for a diamond. The diamonds do exist but you jabe to dig through a lot of crap to find one. I had a diamond just sort of fall on my lap but most men are not that lucky.
Trialbyfire Posted September 26, 2007 Posted September 26, 2007 There are tons of good men and women out there so be patient. You'll meet them in the most unexpected places and sometimes at the most unexpected/inconvenient times. When you're not looking, they come to you. It's happened to me enough that I can honestly say it's true.
Author frd150 Posted September 26, 2007 Author Posted September 26, 2007 Ok, let's clear up this confusion..... First off, some men seem to confuse something. They ration that if THEY are a nice guy and the woman isn't interested in THEM, then it means she doesn't want a nice guy. In other words, they tend to de-personalize things and assume it's a TYPE she doesn't want and not THEM that she doesn't want. It's funny....women tend to personalize things whereas men tend to externalize things. Women tend to attribute rejection as there being something wrong with themselves,("I must not be pretty enough"), but men tend to attribute rejection to "external" reasons (for instance: "she must not want a nice guy".) Another factor......some men think that "niceness" is the entire package. Women tend to be drawn to other things as well, such as leadership traits and strength. The guy who is nice but who shows no leadership or strength isn't going to impress many women. And yet he's going to say to himself: "But I'm a nice guy! Why don't women want me? See! Women don't want nice guys!" Niceness is only part of the package. Now let's take the "***hole that you say a lot of women go for. He's a leader because he does his own thing and he's got strength because he doesn't put up with anyone's BS. He can act nice at all the right times...especially at the beginning. It's THIS package that pulls women in. Later on, they might find out that he's really not so nice. But by that point, they've already been pulled in too far. And THIS is why you see women with ***holes. Ahh unique...the voice of reason;) I especially agree with the last paragraph. In my line of work i see this all the time. I feel sorry for girls in that type of relationship but at the same time they chose to stay. Yeah im not ashamed to say that I'm a nice guy and yeah my self confidence was tampered with for a while but its working its way back. Ive said it before but the gym is a great place. I feel better and im on my way to looking better. My ex told me once that it was my confidence ant attitude that attracted her to me. I guess its true. Confidence does not have to equal a**hole.
Author frd150 Posted September 26, 2007 Author Posted September 26, 2007 There are tons of good men and women out there so be patient. You'll meet them in the most unexpected places and sometimes at the most unexpected/inconvenient times. When you're not looking, they come to you. It's happened to me enough that I can honestly say it's true. I wa not looking when i got into my last couple of relationships. They just happened. How soon I forget. I guess desperation puts off a nasty odor that women can smell a mile away.
Author frd150 Posted September 26, 2007 Author Posted September 26, 2007 No matter what age you are trying to find a good woman is like searching in a bag of trash for a diamond. The diamonds do exist but you jabe to dig through a lot of crap to find one. I had a diamond just sort of fall on my lap but most men are not that lucky. So trashy was the correct term?? Yup just go about my life, respect women but maintain my confidence. I hope im as lucky as you.
Trialbyfire Posted September 26, 2007 Posted September 26, 2007 I wa not looking when i got into my last couple of relationships. They just happened. How soon I forget. I guess desperation puts off a nasty odor that women can smell a mile away. I don't think you're desperate frd. Just be patient and when someone of interest crosses your path, snap her up by asking her out. Don't mull forever, concerned about rejection. Just do it. No risk, no return.
Author frd150 Posted September 26, 2007 Author Posted September 26, 2007 I don't think you're desperate frd. Just be patient and when someone of interest crosses your path, snap her up by asking her out. Don't mull forever, concerned about rejection. Just do it. No risk, no return. Concider it done. Im just going to let it happen and then sieze the opportunity.
uniqueone Posted September 27, 2007 Posted September 27, 2007 I wa not looking when i got into my last couple of relationships. They just happened. How soon I forget. I guess desperation puts off a nasty odor that women can smell a mile away. I don't think it's whether you're looking or not. I think it depends on your attitude. I haven't gone around in my day-to-day life "looking" for years now. I remember when I used to be that way though. I DO have a personals ad, however, so that DOES mean I'm consciously looking. However, when I occasionally meet someone off of there I go with the assumption of making a friend and nothing else. So you CAN make a conscious effort to look but have a different attitude about it.
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