overanalytical Posted September 20, 2007 Posted September 20, 2007 My fiance just lost his job...YESTERDAY. He is dealing well and interviewing a lot already...it was a lay off so he was 2 weeks prepared. there is a girl he met a year ago when he had training. he has kept in touch with her since then, maybe talking/emailing/texting once a month. well i've noticed he has talked to her at least 3 timest the past 2 weeks and yesterday i saw a phone call on his phone (looking for a friend in his call list and happened upon her) and it was a 6 min call then there were numerous texts. i only saw one and it said 'i know' is all...for some reason this is really getting to me. sure maybe since he got his severance pkg and checks she called to see how that went and what he got but for some erason i think it may be her flirting too much. i have seen previous texts and she flirts horribly. she has a man but he is away for another 4 months in the army so she's lonely. what do i do? say anything? let it go...i'm so upset because we've been engaged a year and together over 3 and i'm letting her rule my mind when i should be thinking about me and him but i cant' quit thinking about what are they talking about...is she sweet talking him? is ti about work? i can't ask him...i know they talked sunday and then i know they talkd yesterday...wtf. now he's home without a job for prob another week or so and i'm going to friggin worry...i hate that i'm this way but i can't help it. where do you draw the line on this? - should i even worry or think twice about their contact?? ugh...thanks for the opinions/advice
curiousnycgirl Posted September 20, 2007 Posted September 20, 2007 Interesting, I would have assumed the contact was job/networking related. It would never have dawned on me that he or she was pursuing something more intimate. Is something else going on that makes you not trust him?
Author overanalytical Posted September 20, 2007 Author Posted September 20, 2007 nothing else is going on, i have no reason to think this but i know how this girl is. i also know that every time they text or talk he erases, before he thinks i see it. it was a huge deal last july and we he saw how much it upset me for them to talk after he met her because she would write him 'hey big sexy' and crap like that thati don't appreciate. so he stopped. now i have noticed they started back again, now he never talked to her that way and she's just 'a flirt' is how she's classified by him but i guess he's erasing thigns because he doesn't want me to see and get hurt or think something or get mad. i dotn' know. this girl is just bad news. i hate that i'm even having to bring this up. i'm sure it was about the job and it was on his last day of work but i dont' liek it.
Krytellan Posted September 20, 2007 Posted September 20, 2007 If this is the only reason you have to think something is going on I would let it go. The more you try to fill in suspicions the farther from truth they will be.
LakesideDream Posted September 20, 2007 Posted September 20, 2007 I'd take a "wait and see" attitude. Newly unemployed, with a wedding coming up he's got to be under a lot of pressure. Adding your suspicions to it cannot be a benifit. Most likely he's networking for a position.
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