andref Posted September 20, 2007 Posted September 20, 2007 Hi everyone, I'm new here and just discovered this community when trying to search for advice for what happened today. Let me explain really quick what happened (i might have to into into a few issues I had myself so everyone can understand). I have been diagnosed Celiac Disease a few days ago. I had this disease for at least 6 years, and it managed to change the way I was (i feel better then i ever felt before now), as I am one of those few that had their neurological system affected. Hence, I gained phobias, compulsive behavior, irritability etc. This isn't something that *really* affected her because she met me when I was already like that. Until I was diagnosed, I used to spend hours a day researching on the internet as I did have physical symptoms and none of the 4 doctors I been with were able to tell me what I had. Ok so moving forward, being a Celiac it means you cannot eat gluten, neither to be contaminated by it. This is at the extreme, meaning that you shouldn't even share a knife with someone eating a non-gluten bread or cake for example. She neglected to understand this and contaminated my food on purpose which made me immediately sick 3 hours after. When I talked to her about such thing, she admitted she had done it on purpose and that it was supposed to show me that it was all on my head. (This is unacceptable and I even cried right then because I would have to basically re-start my recovery). I explained this to her several times prior to this action, and she never even cared about it, plus I never even seen her researching on the internet about it... anything. Didn't see any care at all. She didn't even try to understand what I had. (She compared my gluten allergy to her strawberry allergy, which is just ridiculous. If I eat something with gluten, my body responds by actually damaging my small intestine and by not getting any nutrients, which is what lead me to the deficiencies I have now) We used to argue everyday, especially because I do have a son from a previous relationship. She would accuse me of dating my ex and using my son as excuse (not true, I never cheated on her or anyone else). She tried by every means to prevent me from seeing my son. Everything would be a reason for her to verbally attack me, simple stuff like "where should I store the rice?" » We argued about this yesterday. Usually a few hours later she would come to me and beg me to forgive her but this time I just wasn't able to. I asked her to return my appt keys and asked her to leave. I did this on a very very calm temper by the way. She did left and even when I was helping her out packing her things (i was trying to be nice) she immediately started to argue again, telling me that I didn't help my ex when we broke up, and if i was helping her it was because I never loved her etc etc. I do think that she got somewhat traumatized with someone else who cheated on her, but honestly I cannot cope with it anymore and I guess this is a final decision. Has anyone had someone like this? What have you done? I have tried everything (believe me, I was even annulling my own personality just so she wouldn't have an attack all of a sudden), she even slapped me twice and I tried to forget about it. This is really weird as I usually see and hear about this behavior on men rather then on women. I tried to convince her that she needed psychologic help, but she always thought I was calling her a maniac or something, so we would fight always when I used to bring the subject. I am feeling free now and confident to cope with my health problems, I seriously think that she was a big part of them. In the other hand I do care about her, and I'm sure that she's completely devastated and probably regrets it AGAIN but I just cannot cope with this for the rest of my life. I need someone who actually gives a dime about me, and understand my health problems if I'm ill. By the way, even though I have an auto immune disease this is all due to gluten, I will be fine without any kind of gluten contamination and my body will normally heal itself within a maximum of 2 years. Please let me know what you think about this and what I should do. So far she left me 3 messages on my phone and I really don't want to seem like I don't care about her; I do... but I just don't want to be with her anymore. I definately prefer to be a friend. Thanks!
Scorpio13c Posted September 20, 2007 Posted September 20, 2007 Hey man, i'm sorry about your condition. If she can't even take the time to read up about it, then she really doesn't care that much about you. Move on & find someone who does CARE about you, you'll find her! Best of luck! Scorp
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