bonehead Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 Wow, I can't believe you are back. Just when I needed you most. Well almost two weeks NC. No calls,no getting angry, no talking,nada. He has got to know I am serious now-right? Why is he acting like a baby and using the kids against me? Do you think this was a ploy to get me out of NC? Well it did not work and I still not biting. Everyday I get stronger,but I just feel like the worst is yet to come. I thik he is going to more of a d""" than I have ever seen What do you think? No he doesnt know your serious. Two weeks is a temper tantrum. He still knows he can break you. He is doing it to get a reaction out of you. As long as he gets ANY reaction he still has a hold on you. And yes you very well may be right. Things may get worse before they get better. Right now you are damaging his ego and his sense of control. Men do not like that. Though most men deal with it better then he is.
Author forbidden fruit Posted September 23, 2007 Author Posted September 23, 2007 No he doesnt know your serious. Two weeks is a temper tantrum. He still knows he can break you. He is doing it to get a reaction out of you. As long as he gets ANY reaction he still has a hold on you. And yes you very well may be right. Things may get worse before they get better. Right now you are damaging his ego and his sense of control. Men do not like that. Though most men deal with it better then he is. I have not given him any kind of reaction. For once I have not engaged and he is now avoiding me. Does he think I will get mad at him for avoiding me like I have done in the past? I am feeling better today and I figure why should I engage if things will be going back to being the same and the same heartache. I think he is finally honoring my NC and maybe he is trying to get over it by ignoring me. Whatever the case it is what it is,but for some reason I think he is going to crack because he such a egomaniac and he is going to be really mean to me and then of course when that does not work he will turn on the charm. At least I know his game. What do you think B?
bonehead Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 I have not given him any kind of reaction. For once I have not engaged and he is now avoiding me. Does he think I will get mad at him for avoiding me like I have done in the past? I am feeling better today and I figure why should I engage if things will be going back to being the same and the same heartache. I think he is finally honoring my NC and maybe he is trying to get over it by ignoring me. Whatever the case it is what it is,but for some reason I think he is going to crack because he such a egomaniac and he is going to be really mean to me and then of course when that does not work he will turn on the charm. At least I know his game. What do you think B? He is basing everything on past actions/reactions. Of course he thinks it will get to you that he is avoiding you. It always has. You need to not give him the chance to be mean. Its only mean if you allow it to get to you. And dont fall for the charm. He will know what buttons to push, dont allow him.
Author forbidden fruit Posted September 24, 2007 Author Posted September 24, 2007 He is basing everything on past actions/reactions. Of course he thinks it will get to you that he is avoiding you. It always has. You need to not give him the chance to be mean. Its only mean if you allow it to get to you. And dont fall for the charm. He will know what buttons to push, dont allow him. Hey B, Answer this one question. If he knows this is what I have to do to get over him and he wants me to get over him or he would do something,then why cn't he see things for what they are and not hate me so much and be so mean? I guess there is mature way to deal with things and not so mature thing. Maybe it is because I am doing what is best for me and not him. What do you think?
Author forbidden fruit Posted September 24, 2007 Author Posted September 24, 2007 Hey B, Answer this one question. If he knows this is what I have to do to get over him and he wants me to get over him or he would do something,then why cn't he see things for what they are and not hate me so much and be so mean? I guess there is mature way to deal with things and not so mature thing. Maybe it is because I am doing what is best for me and not him. What do you think? I think he has given up and realized finally that trying to get what he wants from me is a lost cause!!!
woe_is_me Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 Why is he acting like a baby and using the kids against me? Do you think this was a ploy to get me out of NC? Well it did not work and I still not biting. Everyday I get stronger,but I just feel like the worst is yet to come. I thik he is going to more of a d""" than I have ever seen What do you think? FF Why do you care? Why don't you put this much effort into thinking about your own H and your own kids? you seem to have analysis paralysis when it comes to this guy... You need to stop 'caring' and i don't really think you want to...GL
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