krknose Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 hey, i need some help with a wee situation that's troubling me lately. at the moment i'm single and i've been spending a lot of time with my ex. we've always been really close, and i'm sure this is said all the time but yeah, when we get together it gets kind of heavy sometimes. don't get me wrong, i don't want a friends with benefits kind of gig, i do want something more in the way of a proper relationship but i'm not sure if it'd work due to me moving about an hour away. we ended quite stupidly due to me being quite young and impulsive, but we've both matured. just wondering how to put forward the proposition of us dating especially over a wee distance.i really do care about her, and from what she's told me, the feeling's mutual. ah i need help, i'm sure i'll elaborate if i get a reply.
niceguy27 Posted September 20, 2007 Posted September 20, 2007 An hour away is not bad at all. My ex and I dated for almost 8 months and she lived 35 min. away from me before she eventually moved to the area. Keep things exactly like you have been. Just go out, have fun, and after a few weeks or so, bring up the subject that things have been going really well lately and ask her if she is looking at you guys "dating." Kind of like starting thigs fresh. Good Luck! There is a A LOT of people on here that would kill to be in your shoes right now.
Author krknose Posted September 20, 2007 Author Posted September 20, 2007 thanks for the reply mate. recently the issue of sleeping together was brought up, and somewhat uncharacteristically i turned it down. that's what people on here would do right? i need to justify what i now think was a stupid decision. i think i turned it down because i thought i'd rather be in a secure relationship. i must sound like a ladyman...
niceguy27 Posted September 20, 2007 Posted September 20, 2007 If she is not seeing anybody else its up to you. If you think that you two are on way to reconciling, then before you get into things, it is probably best to lightly bring it up to her about you two seeing each other again. No labels or anything, just test the waters with her. Make it seem like theres no expectations from either of you. That way you get to protect yourself a little bit before jumpin in full force. Good luck and let us know!
XxBacktoBlackXx Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 I think you should go for it as long as you both agree on the terms. I don't think that amount of distance should be a problem.
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