Amelie Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 He cannot be faithful. He has been unfaithful to varying degrees several times in our 16 years together. I finally had the nerve to tell him I can't deal any more, and we've separated. I know this is the right thing, and I've even been tested as to that, because a friend recently asked me, if he had nowhere to go, no friends, and came to you on his knees asking you to take him back, would you? I answered that I would give him a place to sleep for the night like I would anyone in that kind of need, and that in the morning he'd have to go. So I know I don't want him back... then why do I, every time I see him on the phone, or see him emailing (we still work together) do I feel so sick? I feel physically ill... I feel rotten, betrayed, jealous and just sick. I'm done with him, I know I stopped being in love as much as 3 years ago... so WHY does the thought of "another woman" cause this reaction in me??
tinke Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 you may not be IN LOVE with him anymore, and may not want him in your life........but, the pain is probably the disgust from his betrayal. he disregarded you and your relationship with his infidelity, so naturally you feel hurt. the thought of another woman may be the fact that you two have moved in separate directions, and after sharing so many years, it is hurtful. but, i would have to believe the hurt stems more from his betrayal to you. he discounted you and what could have been.
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