Saxis Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 Last night at the bar, the waitress came by our table and I picked up on her perfume. This is a very special scent to me... I would know it anywhere. My STBXW wore this on our first date. Anyway, the next trip up to the bar, I commented on it, and she got all giddy that I recognized it and knew exactly what it was. Stupid me, I should've kept talking to her at that point, but she was a busy lady (Yeah, that's my excuse!). So for the question: Do you ladies find this flattering? I assume you don't just wear this stuff because you stink...
whichwayisup Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 Commenting on a woman's scent (her perfume) and letting her know she smells good, IS a compliment! Flirt abit and see what happens.
JamesM Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 Commenting on a woman's scent (her perfume) and letting her know she smells good, IS a compliment! Flirt abit and see what happens. Related question..... Can a guy compliment a woman on her perfume and NOT sound like he is flirting? As you know, I am married. And a few times I have complimented a woman on her perfume. I will even ask what kind it is. Of course, my ulterior motive is to get some for my wife. But on occasion I get this look like..."What are you after?" So related to the OP's question...can it be done without flirting? Do women take offense if a married man makes the compliment? (Add the response to the response to Saxis question?)
Touche Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 I wouldn't take offense but as a married woman, I would certainly wonder what the man's motives were. So yes, rightly or wrongly, I admit I would immediately think he was flirting with me.
Trialbyfire Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 I consider it flattering when someone compliments me on whatever fragrance I'm wearing, even if it's just the very light scent from my bath products. It's always nice to know that I don't smell bad.
Cobra_X30 Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 I consider it flattering when someone compliments me on whatever fragrance I'm wearing, even if it's just the very light scent from my bath products. It's always nice to know that I don't smell bad. LOL... If he is smelling the light scent of your bath products... How close is he standing to you? I cant smell doggy poo until I step in it!
Trialbyfire Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 LOL... If he is smelling the light scent of your bath products... How close is he standing to you? I cant smell doggy poo until I step in it! You don't need to be that close to someone if you have stronger olfactory abilities. I'm very sensitive to smells as well, which is why you'll never catch me wearing strong perfumes. I prefer very layered perfumes, lightly applied.
JamesM Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 You don't need to be that close to someone if you have stronger olfactory abilities. I'm very sensitive to smells as well, which is why you'll never catch me wearing strong perfumes. I prefer very layered perfumes, lightly applied. So WOULD you be offended if a guy stands close to you so he can smell your perfume? Does this make you think he is after something? Or can he simply like your perfume?
Trialbyfire Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 So WOULD you be offended if a guy stands close to you so he can smell your perfume? Does this make you think he is after something? Or can he simply like your perfume? If I'm interested in him, he's more than welcome to stand as close as he can get.
melodymatters Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 So WOULD you be offended if a guy stands close to you so he can smell your perfume? Does this make you think he is after something? Or can he simply like your perfume? If I knew the guy, like you a mentioned co-workers, I would just take it as an innocent comment. If a guy at the store or something said that, then I would think he was hitting on me.
Cobra_X30 Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 You don't need to be that close to someone if you have stronger olfactory abilities. I'm very sensitive to smells as well, which is why you'll never catch me wearing strong perfumes. I prefer very layered perfumes, lightly applied. I have alwaysed liked sweet kind of lavender smells on a girl. Ex used Vera Wang... love that stuff! LOL... I do 2 direct shots... then I avoid people for an hour or so! Hate guys that smell like they used a whole bottle of old spice! At least they could buy something less grandpa-ish!
Cobra_X30 Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 Related question..... Can a guy compliment a woman on her perfume and NOT sound like he is flirting? As you know, I am married. And a few times I have complimented a woman on her perfume. I will even ask what kind it is. Of course, my ulterior motive is to get some for my wife. But on occasion I get this look like..."What are you after?" So related to the OP's question...can it be done without flirting? Do women take offense if a married man makes the compliment? (Add the response to the response to Saxis question?) It is flirting if you do not announce your intent. I dont think its rude to say, I like that smell and I was wondering what it is and were I might be able to get some for my wife?
Trialbyfire Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 I have alwaysed liked sweet kind of lavender smells on a girl. Ex used Vera Wang... love that stuff! LOL... I do 2 direct shots... then I avoid people for an hour or so! Hate guys that smell like they used a whole bottle of old spice! At least they could buy something less grandpa-ish! My preferences are mostly french or italian perfumes. A touch of floral, sometimes a light kick of spice, with a hint of sweetness. Layered. Dousing for men and women has got to be the worst. Please, please, do not bath in it. There are some nice Armani colognes for guys.
Road Rage Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 If a guy is married and wants to ask a woman the name of a perfume she`s wearing it should be easy. In fact easier than a single guy. All he has to say is "excuse me, that perfume you are wearing is really nice and I would like to get it as a gift to my wife. If you don`t mind may I ask you the name of it? " I`d bet my arse not one out of a thousand married guys would approach it that way though. Funny thing is, the way these OW seem to multiplying like mosquitoes he probably would have to fight her off:eek:
Star Gazer Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 Commenting that you recognize the scent - in and of itself - isn't flattering, really. It's simply...recognition. But if you told her she smelled good, then yes...that would be flattering.
Cobra_X30 Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 My preferences are mostly french or italian perfumes. A touch of floral, sometimes a light kick of spice, with a hint of sweetness. Layered. Dousing for men and women has got to be the worst. Please, please, do not bath in it. There are some nice Armani colognes for guys. I like the french stuff! Armani was good 3 years ago, but this year they did something wierd. I cant remember what it was but I didnt like it at all. There is a guy that douses that works in the same building... I refused to get on the elevator with him one time(just the two of us). He started to say something but I just cut him off and said "sorry phobia from my time in prison".... LOL! Now the guy avoids me like the plague!!! Not that I cant smell him an hour later in the lobby!
Author Saxis Posted September 19, 2007 Author Posted September 19, 2007 I'll let the cat out of the bag now... The perfume she was wearing is Lovespell. I'm sure a lot of you women know it. It is an indescribable sweet fragrance and it seems to wear off fast, so it is pretty faint after an hour or two. You can usually only smell it up close or catch it passing by. All I said was "Are you the one wearing the Lovespell?", and she whipped around, got the giggles and said "Yeah, I can't smell it anymore! Thanks for noticing!". Yes, I will be kicking myself for a while for not proceeding.... But if you told her she smelled good, then yes...that would be flattering. It seemed like she got that impression without me having to say it... I just felt kinda odd after saying that; Unless I worked in a perfume store, how else would I know what it is without it being tied to an X somehow. Doesn't sound as flattering anymore...
Trialbyfire Posted September 20, 2007 Posted September 20, 2007 I like the french stuff! Armani was good 3 years ago, but this year they did something wierd. I cant remember what it was but I didnt like it at all. There is a guy that douses that works in the same building... I refused to get on the elevator with him one time(just the two of us). He started to say something but I just cut him off and said "sorry phobia from my time in prison".... LOL! Now the guy avoids me like the plague!!! Not that I cant smell him an hour later in the lobby! I'm not much for trends. When something smells good, who cares what year it was made in. Haha...I'll have to think about what to say the next time someone baths in a rancid perfume like Shalimar, Poison or musk of any kind. All three of these perfumes/kind of perfumes make me gag and for some reason, women always spray the entire bottle on.
AriaIncognito Posted September 20, 2007 Posted September 20, 2007 I dont think it's necessarily a come on if you tell someone they smell nice. If I like a scent, I'll tell the person. 99% of the time it's not out of attraction to the person and just out of attraction to that scent. I used to go roller skating on adult night, and this older guy was there weekly as well. I'd purposely skate down wind of him because he smelled so good LOL. Finally the last week I mentioned it to him that I loved the scent and he thanked me. I think it was curve. I'm definitely a sucker for curve, but not every man can pull it off. My recent ex wore chrome (all of two or three times when I asked him to as he's a dumba$$) and that was really nice too. Yum. I need a boyfriend lol.
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted September 20, 2007 Posted September 20, 2007 I agree, asking someone what perfume they're wearing isn't anywhere near flirtatious. I've had men and women asking me this question. And it's always been asked very nicely / politely, and I don't take it as a flirtation. I wouldn't say it's "flattering", either. It's just a question. Most of the time, it's not asked with the intent to flatter, it's more out of curiosity (so they can buy the same for someone or themselves). Or perhaps it's a memory being refreshed (like what happened with the OP). I guess the woman might feel flattered, though. Asking someone about their perfume is like applauding their choice or opinion. Which is usually flattering.
Izzy B Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 Lovespell is a very cheap Victoria's Secret fragrance, it only comes in body lotion and el cheapo body spray, it's not a "perfume". It stank so much they discontinued it.
Izzy B Posted September 22, 2007 Posted September 22, 2007 One more thing, yes, what you said to the waitress was very creepy. Wait staff are going to be friendly and "giddy" as you say, because they are...service people. I'm sure she was totally creeped out by your flirting by pointing out her fragrance and no, she's not interested. I agree, to say that out loud to a waitress is totally odd and I'm sure she did not appreciate you singling her out like that. Just because she is a waitress doesn't mean she is soliciting comments about what she is wearing from customers and no, she wasn't flattered, she was creeped out. You seem to be hung up on your ex. It's absolutely true that would be clear when you commented on her fragrance so boldly, sorry but that's just absolutely true it is tied to your ex an you totally come off as creepy (which you are). Leave the poor woman ALONE. By the way, when she said "Thanks for noticing" she was saying "Leave me the he** alone, I'm not interested." Otherwise she would have found a reason to talk to you again. "Thanks for noticing" is pretty formal and not inviting further conversation, in fact it is discouraging it. Nothing else to say after someone says "Thanks for noticing." She was ending the conversation.
Star Gazer Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 Lovespell is a very cheap Victoria's Secret fragrance, it only comes in body lotion and el cheapo body spray, it's not a "perfume". It stank so much they discontinued it. It also comes in an eau de toilette, and it's still very much on the shelves. I know many girls who wear it, and they're always getting complimented...my best friend is one of them.
shoesies05 Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 I love it when a guy compliments me on the perfume im wearing. Its a great compliment... or if im cuddling with a guy and he smells my hair thats sweet... its all good cuz it makes you feel beautiful As for if the guy is married: it would depend, is this someone i know? how well? and wut way is he saying it? if he sounded sleezy when he as saying it then id think he was picking up on me. otherwise i like to assume the best of people, so id think he was just paying me a nice compliment just as i do with random strangers whether it be guys or girls all the time without meaning to pick up on them. Just be careful with the way u say it
shoesies05 Posted September 24, 2007 Posted September 24, 2007 Lovespell is a very cheap Victoria's Secret fragrance, it only comes in body lotion and el cheapo body spray, it's not a "perfume". It stank so much they discontinued it. they didnt discontinue it... and its cheap because its not a perfume and doesnt hold the fragrance as long. no other reason. and im sorry but whenever i wear it i get a ton of compliments, and i hapen to know many other women and men that love that fragrance.
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