flowergirl Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 Yesterday, I was talking to my boyfriend of nearly two years about when I might move in, since he'd mentioned that he'd like to have me move in with him soon. A couple weeks ago, he said possibly November or January, but then when I went to his job to ask about it, due to figuring out moving out of where I live now, he said that I misunderstood him and that he's not ready yet, and that, although he may be ready in November, he doesn't know, and that what he meant was that he was just putting it out there that by "soon" he meant in the near future. WTF??!! What kind of crazy stuff is that? I'm conflicted between jsut dumping his butt on the curb, and trying to be patient. What do you guys think? I don't know if knowing he's 27 and I'm 32 helps at all, but there it is. Arrrghhh, I'm goin' nuts!!
LucreziaBorgia Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 He is trying to tell you what you want to hear, while having no real intention of following through just yet. Why would he do that? Because he wants to keep you around, without having to take a step in your relationship that he isn't comfortable with or ready for.
Allison85 Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 Guys are weird, let's face it! haah We have our moments too. He is probably thinking that since you have been together for quite some time that that naturally is the next step in the relationship. He also might be torn between wanting to take the next step and enjoying things as they are now. I agree with Lucrezia, he also may be telling you what he thinks you want to hear. My best advice is don't pressure him into making a decision... although I'm sure your frustrated with his indecision, putting pressure on about the next step in your relationship could ultimately lead to some resentment on his part. As hard as it is, and I'm sure you want a answer now sooner than later, I think you should just respect his confused state as much as your sanity will allow (lol) until he makes up his mind.
bluepoppy Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 I'm conflicted between jsut dumping his butt on the curb, and trying to be patient. What do you guys think? really it depends on if you think he can sort his committment type issues out. If he's making progress, that's good, then be patient. If he's just stalled in the headlights - I wouldn't dump his arse but I would take a step back, to see if he misses you enough to realise he needs to take steps to sort himself out. The dates aren't important Nov, Dec Jan - but a sense of going somewhere is. That's my 2p worth
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