DateAnalyzer Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 I know that must be a horrible feeling, that will be me soon as I approach the age of 40. still 8 years left but i'm not sure if I can ever do that. I mean i don't want to be with a woman just to say I have someone. I hope it never comes to that because that would really be depressing
a4a Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 Dude look in the mirror...... if you see this written backward on your forehead you might want to do something about it. D-E-S-P-E-R-A-T-E If you come off half as bad in RL as you do here you will have to lower your standards to a woman who is a comatose vegetable. friggin' chill out! and their is always the preisthood..... there are some hot nuns. and maybe these women you date don't want to lower their standards so they keep pulling the - good luck lets be friends thing.
Touche Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 There's a difference between lowering your standards and just having them be more realistic. Think about it.
Saxis Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 Nah, the beer and the wingman usually try to do that for me...
oppath Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 Exactly, Touche. I'd rate myself as a 7.5, which means I could pull a 9, but I'm still going to get blown out of the water if that is all I go after. On average, people tend to date people around their same level of attraction, and to each other, they are 10's. The girls I date who are 7.5's I feel much more attraction for, making them 10's. But you do have to be realistic about what your own looks/traits are and you will have the most dating success if you find someone similar.
magda Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 I know that must be a horrible feeling, that will be me soon as I approach the age of 40. still 8 years left but i'm not sure if I can ever do that. I mean i don't want to be with a woman just to say I have someone. I hope it never comes to that because that would really be depressing I don't get it.. what happens when you're 40?
Author DateAnalyzer Posted September 19, 2007 Author Posted September 19, 2007 I consider myself a 7.5 and look for a 7.5 or sometimes a 8.0. I don;t want to start accepting 6.0's or lower. But i think my personality as been a 4.0 which gave me a overall 5.5 rating. I need to work on my personality so that it can be as even or slightly higher than my looks
a4a Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 I don't get it.. what happens when you're 40? Your weiner falls off.
Touche Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 oppath, your post made me laugh. What's with all the ratings? And what keeps you from being an 8? And how do you know you're not really a 7? And why do you think most women who are a 9, as you say would go for a 7.5? Not making fun of you but that was kind of a strange post. As for the OP. Look at yourself REALISTICALLY and maybe even write down what you have to offer and bring to the table. Are you expecting MORE than you have to give? Do an inventory of yourself. Don't expect perfection in a mate if you fall short yourself.
oppath Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 oppath, your post made me laugh. What's with all the ratings? And what keeps you from being an 8? And how do you know you're not really a 7? And why do you think most women who are a 9, as you say would go for a 7.5? Not making fun of you but that was kind of a strange post. As for the OP. Look at yourself REALISTICALLY and maybe even write down what you have to offer and bring to the table. Are you expecting MORE than you have to give? Do an inventory of yourself. Don't expect perfection in a mate if you fall short yourself. Well, yes, it is very subjective, I was merely trying to demonstrate that people tend to gravitate towards partners that most people would consider similarly attractive. You have to realistically assess your own looks and personality traits and calibrate them to the females you targets.
Cobra_X30 Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 DA, I think you are afraid of bieng rejected by women, so you Sienfeld some reason why the girl isnt good enough. It allows you to reject her first.
melodymatters Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 DA, I think you are afraid of bieng rejected by women, so you Sienfeld some reason why the girl isnt good enough. It allows you to reject her first. HA ! Thats exactly what I said in another post, even using the term seinfeld. So thats 2 of us now, DA, maybe you will at least THINK about it ?
a4a Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 Aye Cobra ye found the answer. So that makes 3.
jcster Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 you better hurry DA! Life ends at 40 - we're all lepers in the society of the young.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted September 19, 2007 Author Posted September 19, 2007 you better hurry DA! Life ends at 40 - we're all lepers in the society of the young. That's what they say
shadowplay Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 DA, I think you are afraid of bieng rejected by women, so you Sienfeld some reason why the girl isnt good enough. It allows you to reject her first. Yup, doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure that one out. Also, I'm curious as to why DA would consider himself an 8 lookswise given that he said he's fairly overweight? Not to rag on overweight people, but maybe he's being unrealistic about how much of a catch he is to the opposite sex...
sb129 Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 Dude look in the mirror...... if you see this written backward on your forehead you might want to do something about it. D-E-S-P-E-R-A-T-E If you come off half as bad in RL as you do here you will have to lower your standards to a woman who is a comatose vegetable. friggin' chill out! and their is always the preisthood..... there are some hot nuns. and maybe these women you date don't want to lower their standards so they keep pulling the - good luck lets be friends thing. :lmao::lmao: DA, you heard it straight. 32 is approaching 40? What about all those years in between? Dateanalyzer, by YOUR standards, I am probably a 7..ish. But to Wonderboy I am an 11. By most womens standards wonderboy is probably about a 7 too. But to me he is a 123978198479325823659817835......... LOVE IS ABOUT MORE THAN HOW HOT YOU ARE. The sooner you realise that, the closer you are to finding it.
oppath Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 Dateanalyzer, by YOUR standards, I am probably a 7..ish. But to Wonderboy I am an 11. By most womens standards wonderboy is probably about a 7 too. But to me he is a 123978198479325823659817835......... LOVE IS ABOUT MORE THAN HOW HOT YOU ARE. The sooner you realise that, the closer you are to finding it. True, but if you are consistently going after women most people would consider "out of your league" (let's not have another thread about that) and are consistently being shot down, either you have to keep on trucking, fix parts of your personality, or maybe realize someone more "in your league" would be better to approach.
Trialbyfire Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 LOVE IS ABOUT MORE THAN HOW HOT YOU ARE. The sooner you realise that, the closer you are to finding it. S'truth. Superficial valuation of person can be so insulting. It's like there's no valuation of substance beyond a two-dimensional picture. If someone likes and respects you as a person first and also finds you incredibly hot, that's the person you want.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted September 19, 2007 Author Posted September 19, 2007 Yup, doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure that one out. Also, I'm curious as to why DA would consider himself an 8 lookswise given that he said he's fairly overweight? Not to rag on overweight people, but maybe he's being unrealistic about how much of a catch he is to the opposite sex... I said i'm a 7
Author DateAnalyzer Posted September 19, 2007 Author Posted September 19, 2007 :lmao::lmao: DA, you heard it straight. 32 is approaching 40? What about all those years in between? Dateanalyzer, by YOUR standards, I am probably a 7..ish. But to Wonderboy I am an 11. By most womens standards wonderboy is probably about a 7 too. But to me he is a 123978198479325823659817835......... LOVE IS ABOUT MORE THAN HOW HOT YOU ARE. The sooner you realise that, the closer you are to finding it. That's not how it is in Philly, everyone wants a HOT GUY
Cobra_X30 Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 True, but if you are consistently going after women most people would consider "out of your league" (let's not have another thread about that) and are consistently being shot down, either you have to keep on trucking, fix parts of your personality, or maybe realize someone more "in your league" would be better to approach. Its called fear! Dont run from possible rejection! In my experience some of those girls who you consider "out of your league" only get hit on my self centered jerks... the super cocky type. They may find you to be more what they are looking for... if only you would try. Maybe hit on TBF for a while... get some practice in.
Road Rage Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 DateAnalyzer You should just focus on making a lot of money. Then it don`t matter so much if you`re 32 or 92. For he who has the money can get the honey;)
JamesM Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 That's not how it is in Philly, everyone wants a HOT GUY I am not sure what part of Philly you live in, but I have relatives in Philly, and that is not the impression I have gotten. These guys have had plenty of dates, and (not being critical) they aint no handsome hunks. One thing I learned while dating....women want men who are confident and fun to be with. They want men who will listen and converse. They want a compassionate man who will be their friend and partner. They are not looking for Fabio or Brad Pitt. While they admire these "handsome" men, this is not what they use as a measure for their dates. They like to be treated special, and they will respond. I was never a ladies man that could pick up a woman based on a glance or two, but I could get them based on the friendship we developed. I learned shortly after high school that even a nerd who develops confidence can have plenty of dates. Hey, I even dated cheerleaders...which would have been considered way out of my league before. Based on the many threads you have started, I don't think it is so much the standard you have for women as far as looks. It is your expectations as far as "action" and how YOU want to be treated. I rarely hear in your threads questions or comments about how YOU should treat a lady so that SHE is happy with you as a date. Most every time I read that you wonder how you can get a lady to treat YOU right. If I get this over the internet, I am willing to guess that women get it when they look you in th eyes. My advice would simply be...begin dating for fun. Enjoy each date as a friend. Do not analyze what will happen, what does happen, or what should have happened. Simply enjoy the moment. If it leads to another date, so be it. If it doesn't, oh well. I can also say that the more dates you have, the more practiced you get, the more likely you will find your perfect woman. Simply become friends with women and see where it leads. Expect little. Enjoy much.
Mz. Pixie Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 There's a difference between lowering your standards and just having them be more realistic. Think about it. Exactly. I had a friend once who was 28 and never been married. In fact she was a virgin. She was pretty- paid her own bills- had a college degree-worked hard in her field-but she had a bit of a sour attitude sometimes. She set her standards too high. A man needed to be handsome, have a college degree-preferably a masters- have a white collar job- never been married- no kids from other relationships-drive a luxury automobile- have his own home- and make six figures and not want to have sex with her before marriage. Ummmm, yeah- all of the men like that are taken or are looking for 10's! I would rate her about 7.5 but she thought she deserved a 10!! Not saying you should settle for less than you deserve but be realistic. While it happens sometimes that 7.5's catch a 10 in a mate there are usually leveling factors like money or power or fame. Sure, Howard Stern can get a gorgeous woman, but he's Howard Stern! How many millions is he worth?? I think alot of times people get rejected and feel terrible about themselves when they are just really shooting too high. There should also be a big difference in what you want when you are 25 than what you would want at 40- if not then the standards need to be adjusted.
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