soulseeker Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 DA you are so f-ed up I almost cant believe it. Truly. Many people here have offered solid advice to you, but you choose to ignore it. If you would take some advice and perhaps get professional help, I could see taking your posts seriously. You need help. For now though, I regard your inquiries as my morning comics.
shadowplay Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 My question is why do people keep on responding to his threads? The guy is clearly beyond help and you're just feeding his ego/insanity. I know I'm somewhat guilty of doing it, but at least I've given up on trying to help him while some people are still dishing out advice. It's a waste of time. I repeat. It's a waste of time. Of course I fully expect this thread to go on for another 3-4 pages. Sheesh...some of you people are as dense as DA himself.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted September 21, 2007 Author Posted September 21, 2007 I plan to take the advice serously when I met someone I want. Why the hell will I put the advice to use and I'm not interested in the girl?
FleshNBones Posted September 22, 2007 Posted September 22, 2007 I plan to take the advice serously when I met someone I want. Why the hell will I put the advice to use and I'm not interested in the girl?Practice. Conducting yourself in an unseductive manner can be habit forming, and these habits can be hard to break later on. Avoid forming bad habits when possible. You introduce various stimuli when studying an unknown systems. She will probe your intellectual and emotional responses. She will guage those responses against some culturally dependent model, and determine if you are fit. My guess is she already determined if you are boyfriend material within the first minute (looks count), and is spending the rest of the time trying to eliminate you. You also need to learn the cues. If she starts talking about her family, she probably wants to learn more about your family. She might throw in some trick questions. If she loses interest, she will probably try to sabatoge the date.
sweetbutcheeky Posted September 22, 2007 Posted September 22, 2007 I plan to take the advice serously when I met someone I want. Why the hell will I put the advice to use and I'm not interested in the girl? Because the advice and point is that your never going to find a girl you like when your so critical!!! She is always going to mention something that you have a problem with, not be exactly in the right place of you "scale", not have the right voice or whatever you come up with next. Reality is, NO ONE IS PERFECT and your criteria of what makes you interested in someone is F*cked Up!!!
Krytie TV Posted September 22, 2007 Posted September 22, 2007 I just can't fathom why people still have any passion left when it comes to these threads. Doesn't anyone else realize this is purely ridiculous? How can you still care to give advice or to point out realities?
Author DateAnalyzer Posted September 22, 2007 Author Posted September 22, 2007 Because the advice and point is that your never going to find a girl you like when your so critical!!! She is always going to mention something that you have a problem with, not be exactly in the right place of you "scale", not have the right voice or whatever you come up with next. Reality is, NO ONE IS PERFECT and your criteria of what makes you interested in someone is F*cked Up!!! I know no one is perfect which is why I don't have a body preference
AriaIncognito Posted September 22, 2007 Posted September 22, 2007 Just to play devils advocate. My last two long term relationships were with men that after the first date i said "eh". Had I not given them a shot at a second date, I might never have learned the things I did. FYI both those relationships lasted 1 year. Not that you'll listen, but I'd suggest always giving someone a second date if they are someone you thought was nice but aren't entirely sold on yet. It takes time to develop feelings sometimes.
sb129 Posted September 22, 2007 Posted September 22, 2007 My question is why do people keep on responding to his threads? . Because they are entertaining! as someone else said, they are like my morning comics. I plan to take the advice serously when I met someone I want. Why the hell will I put the advice to use and I'm not interested in the girl? Because sometimes it takes more than one date to get to know someone and realise that you ARE interested in them. Duh. Back to the drawing board huh DA.
jcster Posted September 22, 2007 Posted September 22, 2007 if he hadn't posted so much - i would swear he was a troll... maybe it is RossK in disguise! Nope...he's a computer. Trying to learn about hu-man e-mo-tion.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted September 22, 2007 Author Posted September 22, 2007 Because they are entertaining! as someone else said, they are like my morning comics. Because sometimes it takes more than one date to get to know someone and realise that you ARE interested in them. Duh. Back to the drawing board huh DA. So femaes pushed me to the side after one date in the past so I'm not supposed to do the same if i DON"T FEEL THE FIRE???
allina Posted September 22, 2007 Posted September 22, 2007 Because sometimes it takes more than one date to get to know someone and realise that you ARE interested in them. I find it interesting that people have been saying that, I'm not sure if I agree. I think generally people know way before the 1st day ends if there is a spark or interest there.
allina Posted September 22, 2007 Posted September 22, 2007 maybe it is RossK in disguise! But DA has gotten a ton of criticisms and attacks which would have caused RossK to flip out then block everyone a long time ago :laugh:
Author DateAnalyzer Posted September 22, 2007 Author Posted September 22, 2007 I find it interesting that people have been saying that, I'm not sure if I agree. I think generally people know way before the 1st day ends if there is a spark or interest there. THANK YOU ALLINA!!!!!!!!!!!!. Why the hell am I going to let someone grow on me?? I mean who has that kind of time? If I don't feel the fire then I have to move on
sb129 Posted September 22, 2007 Posted September 22, 2007 So femaes pushed me to the side after one date in the past so I'm not supposed to do the same if i DON"T FEEL THE FIRE??? What is this? A competition? Are you trying to get even with all the females who have pushed you aside by pushing others aside? There is already on thread about a guy getting revenge on womankind, one is more than enough, thanks. I find it interesting that people have been saying that, I'm not sure if I agree. I think generally people know way before the 1st day ends if there is a spark or interest there. I quite agree with you Allina, in most cases, people do know. However, I think in DAs case, he has no idea what he is looking for, and his judgemental attitude and the fact that his social skills are so inept means that he may be passing great chances by without knowing it.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted September 22, 2007 Author Posted September 22, 2007 What is this? A competition? Are you trying to get even with all the females who have pushed you aside by pushing others aside? There is already on thread about a guy getting revenge on womankind, one is more than enough, thanks. I quite agree with you Allina, in most cases, people do know. However, I think in DAs case, he has no idea what he is looking for, and his judgemental attitude and the fact that his social skills are so inept means that he may be passing great chances by without knowing it. I'm not getting even with anyone, I just didn't feel the fire. Plain and simple
allina Posted September 22, 2007 Posted September 22, 2007 THANK YOU ALLINA!!!!!!!!!!!!. Why the hell am I going to let someone grow on me?? I mean who has that kind of time? If I don't feel the fire then I have to move on Wow I actually agree with you here I don't think you'd be doing the right thing by taking on the attitude of "I'm not attracted to you and I feel no connection at all but lets waste some time trying to squeeze out something that isn't there." I think the problem people are having is that sometimes your reasons for not liking someone or thinking they were weird are not rational to most human beings. Also, when you do things like call her "a potential indoor friend" you look like an a-hole and people will teat you like one.
sb129 Posted September 22, 2007 Posted September 22, 2007 Wow I actually agree with you here I don't think you'd be doing the right thing by taking on the attitude of "I'm not attracted to you and I feel no connection at all but lets waste some time trying to squeeze out something that isn't there." Absolutely! I totally agree with this, and I personally wouldn't go through the pain of a second date if there was absolutely NO spark at all. As you have put it so well here Allina: I think the problem people are having is that sometimes your reasons for not liking someone or thinking they were weird are not rational to most human beings. Also, when you do things like call her "a potential indoor friend" you look like an a-hole and people will teat you like one. I think he is in danger of not finding a spark with ANYONE due to his ridiculously superficial high standards.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted September 22, 2007 Author Posted September 22, 2007 Wow I actually agree with you here I don't think you'd be doing the right thing by taking on the attitude of "I'm not attracted to you and I feel no connection at all but lets waste some time trying to squeeze out something that isn't there." I think the problem people are having is that sometimes your reasons for not liking someone or thinking they were weird are not rational to most human beings. Also, when you do things like call her "a potential indoor friend" you look like an a-hole and people will teat you like one. Yeah I don't think I was supposed to give the secret away that most men put that label on a woman if he is not feeing her. I should have kept that to myself
allina Posted September 22, 2007 Posted September 22, 2007 I think he is in danger of not finding a spark with ANYONE due to his ridiculously superficial high standards. True, it shouldn't be that hard to at least have some connection with a woman. Another concern I have is that he isn't approaching this in a very fun way, dating is supposed to be fun, it is not a job interview of a science experiment. Yeah I don't think I was supposed to give the secret away that most men put that label on a woman if he is not feeing her. I should have kept that to myself That's not true. Most men aren't that silly or insecure. Plus calling a woman "an indoor only friend" implies that you don't think she's attractive enough to be seen in public with because it would embarrass you. If a grown man has these sorts of hangups that's just sad.
amber1 Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 I find it interesting that people have been saying that, I'm not sure if I agree. I think generally people know way before the 1st day ends if there is a spark or interest there. Actually we wouldn't necessarily tell anyone else to do that, but with him it's like the first dates that he has don't count. So therefore he needs to at least have a second one with these girls.
sb129 Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 I agree. This is a website meant for advice. All the posters on here, if you read their post history, are totally clueless about love and relationships, that's why they're here (Stargazer and Krytellan being two of them), and they are the ones who do the most attacking and act like big know it alls on relationships. I totally disagree with this statement. There are alot of posters on here, myself included, who are in committed successful, loving relationships. I don't act like a big know it all, but I do have quite a bit of varied relationship experience and history which I think qualifies me to give advice. ADVICE is just that. Advice. People can take it or leave it if they disagree with it. If the advice on here was soooooo terrible, how come people keep coming back, or, like me, stick around after their problems are sorted out? The two posters you have mentioned above ASK for advice on Rs on a regular basis too, and accept advice without telling everyone who gives it they are wrong, which means they can't be such big "know it alls" can they? DateAnalyzer keeps coming back for advice here, and alot of people are losing patience with him, because he is getting the same advice over and over again (from "clueless" people ) some of it seems a bit harsher now, because he keeps ignoring it!!!!
Author DateAnalyzer Posted September 23, 2007 Author Posted September 23, 2007 I totally disagree with this statement. There are alot of posters on here, myself included, who are in committed successful, loving relationships. I don't act like a big know it all, but I do have quite a bit of varied relationship experience and history which I think qualifies me to give advice. ADVICE is just that. Advice. People can take it or leave it if they disagree with it. If the advice on here was soooooo terrible, how come people keep coming back, or, like me, stick around after their problems are sorted out? The two posters you have mentioned above ASK for advice on Rs on a regular basis too, and accept advice without telling everyone who gives it they are wrong, which means they can't be such big "know it alls" can they? DateAnalyzer keeps coming back for advice here, and alot of people are losing patience with him, because he is getting the same advice over and over again (from "clueless" people ) some of it seems a bit harsher now, because he keeps ignoring it!!!! What do you mean ignoring it? I haven't had a chance to put it to any use yet because I haven't been on a date with someone i'm attracted to physically. So just give me a chance to say thanks and wait for me to go on a date and see if I can keep in mind al the things people have told me
roxy_1980 Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 DA, Have you ever heard of "Seinfeld Syndrome"? In the show, the main characters rejected all their relationship based on some stupid superficial trait or quirk without getting to know who the real person is. They all ended up alone (well, together in jail for being so callous and unfeeling, but still ALONE.) This is your pattern too!
Krytellan Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 All the posters on here, if you read their post history, are totally clueless about love and relationships, that's why they're here (Stargazer and Krytellan being two of them) Zowee... like a dagger through the heart. That's very hurtful. You make me reconsider all that I am and stand for. Can you tell me more about you? I want to know exactly what I'm supposed to emulate. Don't worry Star, I don't think you're clueless. I got your back.
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