Star Gazer Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 I don't even think Hitch would be able to help DA. You're probably right.
2sunny Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 if he hadn't posted so much - i would swear he was a troll... maybe it is RossK in disguise!
Cobra_X30 Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 You're probably right. DA needs to help himself!
Author DateAnalyzer Posted September 21, 2007 Author Posted September 21, 2007 Have you ever had a girlfriend? And if so how long did that last? 5 months to be exact
Author DateAnalyzer Posted September 21, 2007 Author Posted September 21, 2007 OMG, I've had enough. *facepalms* Holy sh*t, in the process of getting to know her and what she's about, she mentioned her brother! OH NO! How dare she! She's supposed to focus allllll on herself. She must be crazy weird! And F-her for politely mentioning her amenability to going to another place if you wanted, how weird was that? (SARCASM, in case you can't tell.) You need serious, serious help, DA. Your threads are actually painful to read through. Have you ever considered getting a dating coach or something? Someone to literally hold your hand through mock dates and explain to you how NORMAL women behave during dates, and what are (and are NOT) reasonable expectations when meeting a stranger for a first date???????? It would be nice to have a pretty female dating coach, still looking
oppath Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 if he hadn't posted so much - i would swear he was a troll... maybe it is RossK in disguise! I think he is a troll. Notice he has never responded to anyone else's threads. 500 posts but they are all on his own threads. His reasoning is "I'm not a good dater so I can't contribute with advice." That excuse is so full of horse crap I wouldn't be surprised if his eyes were brown. Other people are in similar positions, learning how to date and struggling with it, and they contribute. No-one could possibly be so dense in real life as to ignore all the advice we give and consistently insult women unless they were doing it with intent. He has shown no desire to learn from the advice we give and implement it in his behaviors. None. We get sucked into it because we want to give people the benefit of the doubt because we are here to help. But trolls do exist in all shapes and forms. So DateAnalyzer, if you are for real, why not implement some of the advice we have given you on multiple posts? You pay no attention to our advice and antagonize us (and your dates). It you want to improve your dating life, you will do a couple things Find a therapist. Your cognitions about dating are out of whack and so are your behaviors. I'd recommend cognitive behavioral therapy.Find a dating coach. Stay away from seduction communities who use rehearsed pickup schemes and find one that focuses on genuine social interactions with all people (such as CharismaArts, or hire a female dating coach to walk you through mock dates).You need both of these things, and if you were serious, you'd respond asking thorough questions about them and how to find them in your area, cost, etc. You'd say "maybe I should consider something like that." You'd say "I called and made an appointment to see a therapist next week. What should I watch out for to make sure he is right for me?"
shadowplay Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 I don't think he's a troll. The reason he never gives anyone else advice is because he's completely self absorbed. The reason he never follows advice he is given is because he's afraid of failure and rejection and he'd rather wallow in a comforting puddle of self-pity. See if he actually TRIED, he couldn't use his lack of dating skills as an excuse for rejection. He'd have to face the scarier alternative that he was being rejected for something deeper and unfixeable about himself. I've known people like him and there's no use trying to help them because they have no desire to try. The only reason he posts these threads is because he enjoys the attention and getting a rise out of people in a slightly sadistic way. He also enjoys bragging about rejecting other people for silly reasons. It makes him feel bigger. It's a power trip. So I guess he is a semi-troll....except I don't think he's lying about himself. His threads are completely masturbatory, and we're all guilty of providing stimulation.
Replicant Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 I would say the weirdest part of the date was when I first walked up to her at the cafe we agree to go to and she said-"Hi, we can go in here or do you want to go somewhere else?? huh??? Why would I want to go somewhee else??? Date Analyzer, you over-analyze everything to death. What she said is a good thing, it opens options of going somewhere else in case somewhere better came up in your or her thinking during OR going somewhere else after. It's a open ended conversation which can lead to more conversation....thus more dates. Also considering you opened this thread in a more woe-is-me style asking for confidence boosters and dating tips yet you come back to drag this girl in the mud? Even if you did not like her, the whole wandering eyes bit is just dumb if you expect to have dates go anywhere. But coming back and running the girl down is just wrong.
sweetbutcheeky Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 5 months to be exact How long ago was that? How did you ever get to a second date never mind a girlfriend with you over analyzing and being so critical?
Star Gazer Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 How about trying out for Beauty and the Geek? Or even simply watching the show? You'd learn a ton about social interaction. Or simply read this entire board, expand beyond your own threads and read about what the rest of the world thinks and believes and behaves. Your expectations about dating behaviors are just...odd, at best.
Star Gazer Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 5 months to be exact When was this, and did you actually ever meet? Or was it only an online romance?
2sunny Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 his opening line says "open to any - want to do well" take your own advice as a suggestion be MORE open minded and have an INTENTION of doing well. i don't think you did either one...
Author DateAnalyzer Posted September 21, 2007 Author Posted September 21, 2007 Date Analyzer, you over-analyze everything to death. What she said is a good thing, it opens options of going somewhere else in case somewhere better came up in your or her thinking during OR going somewhere else after. It's a open ended conversation which can lead to more conversation....thus more dates. Also considering you opened this thread in a more woe-is-me style asking for confidence boosters and dating tips yet you come back to drag this girl in the mud? Even if you did not like her, the whole wandering eyes bit is just dumb if you expect to have dates go anywhere. But coming back and running the girl down is just wrong. I said that I can't control a wandering eye if i'm not attracted to the girl I met. What can I do? It's just one of those things in life that's uncontrollable.
Cobra_X30 Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 I said that I can't control a wandering eye if i'm not attracted to the girl I met. What can I do? It's just one of those things in life that's uncontrollable. DA, You said she was attractive! Yet she had no sex appeal? Please explain!
oppath Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 How about trying out for Beauty and the Geek? Or even simply watching the show? You'd learn a ton about social interaction. Or simply read this entire board, expand beyond your own threads and read about what the rest of the world thinks and believes and behaves. Your expectations about dating behaviors are just...odd, at best. I love that show. You can learn a lot from it, actually. I knew lots of guys like that because I studied physics and math in college. Great guys. It is unfortunate the girls on that show are so incredibly dumb. I don't know if it is all production, but I didn't think it was possible to have women that dumb in real life. Regardless, one of the best lessons from the show is: listen to your date and ask follow up questions to the stories they share. Essentially, when a woman tells you something about herself, reward it! Tell her it is interesting and ask her for more. Most people do that naturally. It actually helps keep your attention on the girl, to actively look for something in her story you can relate to and reward. If your goal, DA, is to become a better dater, yes you CAN control a wandering eye. That is utter crap! To be a better dater, you need to be better at social interactions with ALL WOMEN (and with men). It is mostly the same set of skills. Romantically, at some point in time you need to add a physical element, but the best way to become better at dating is to flirt with everybody (not sexual), male and female, of all levels of attraction. If you are checking out other women on a date, you aren't even trying to become a better dater. Your goal -- even if you aren't attracted to her and it is kind of evil -- is to get her to talk a lot about herself, for her to share personal stuff with you (such as her brother). If you can get a woman to share personal things, that is a good sign. You have to talk too of course, but this woman wanting to go somewhere else is good, because it shows she was INVESTING in the evening, and her talking to her brother shows she was revealing personal things about herself, things that are important to her. When she started talking about her brother, that would have been a good time to tease her..."so who beat who up as kids?" or any number of playful questions to reward her for sharing.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted September 21, 2007 Author Posted September 21, 2007 DA, You said she was attractive! Yet she had no sex appeal? Please explain! I said she was average, I like slightly above average
Cobra_X30 Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 I said she was average, I like slightly above average But you implied earlier that she was good looking enough that you would consider getting physical with her.... did you not?
Author DateAnalyzer Posted September 21, 2007 Author Posted September 21, 2007 But you implied earlier that she was good looking enough that you would consider getting physical with her.... did you not? yes, she is like a C, I usually for a B- or a B. Have no interest in B+ or higher.
2sunny Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 yes, she is like a C, I usually for a B- or a B. Have no interest in B+ or higher. get over yourself honey! i am so done with you and your twisted mindset! good luck buddy!
Author DateAnalyzer Posted September 21, 2007 Author Posted September 21, 2007 get over yourself honey! i am so done with you and your twisted mindset! good luck buddy! I consider myself a B- and I want a B- in return. what's wrong with that
Star Gazer Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 I consider myself a B- and I want a B- in return. what's wrong with that But you're failing in the performance/personality department, so you average out at less, whereas that C+ girl might have an A+++ personality.........
Author DateAnalyzer Posted September 21, 2007 Author Posted September 21, 2007 But you're failing in the performance/personality department, so you average out at less, whereas that C+ girl might have an A+++ personality......... Her personality was a D+
Cobra_X30 Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 yes, she is like a C, I usually for a B- or a B. Have no interest in B+ or higher. DA, you did not answer the question. However, what made her a C and not a B- or a C+? Have you ever had a situation where someone you thought was very pretty... then later you look again and she is not that attractive?
Replicant Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 I consider myself a B- and I want a B- in return. what's wrong with that This is absolute crap. You are obviously a fake here trying to play devil's advocate. Like said previously there is no way someone can be this dense after almost 500 posts of dating analysis. If someone were serious they would be asking for dating tips, APPLY them, then come back and say it was a success thanks everyone. Or if it did not happen then elaborate on the date itself and ask what might be improved on next time. While this dork comes back guns blazing shooting down the girl after only one date that he himself wanted yet had no idea how to approach yet while giving himself attaboy's in the process after the fact. The only B+'s this guy will ever have come with five fingers and a left and right model. Because women can surely see through such losers. Regardless of how you rate them, you cannot deduce such from just one date. The fact you are asking for help from the best people whom can give that help i believe being through every aspect of it (And they provided it) then you behave in this manner exposes you as a fraud. If you want to entertain some sort of comment, then tell me what makes a B+ girl? And how do you know for sure after one date....Dating of course something you suck at. That a C-, C, C+ or C++ girl in your logic would not turn out to be a mind blowing A+ hot?
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