marley_86 Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 Me and this guy met online, and went to the zoo last tuesday. We talked on msn every day and met on friday. Friday's date was amazing, we had a lot in common and i would catch him smiling at me. He held my hand and hugged me. Midway on our friday date, i asked when we can do it again, he said next weekend. On his profile, he stated right away that he is busy with work.And when i was leaving, he said we'll get together. The date was on friday, and i haven't heard from him, no phone call, or even msn. I know he had a good time, and we had so much in common. Was it because we kissed too early, or am i just being paranoid. I saw him on lavalife today, i was guilty of it too, but at least i was msn. Now i don't know what to do, is he playing hard to get or something? This is my first relationship since my ex that i have felt this way.
justme880 Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 I think it's too soon to tell since you've only gone out once. His recent lack of interest could be attributed to one of the following: (1) he's playing mind games; (2) he'd like to continue exploring his options; or (3) he's simply busy. Have you tried calling/emailing him? Try that first, so you'll see where you stand. If you don't get any response after leaving him a message, then I suggest you start lookin again. Good luck!
popey Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 First, you don't have a relationship. You went on two dates. Second, it can feel a bit suffocating to some to be asked about another date, while not even done with the one you are on. Feels like the person is on an agenda, rather than on a date. (not for all, but for alot of folks I think) Next, it is extremely normal to continue to date, and participate on date sites after goinng on two dates with someone. Can't tell if he is playin games or not. He may be. But nothing about what you described to me is evidence to that, or the contrary.
Author marley_86 Posted September 19, 2007 Author Posted September 19, 2007 thank you guys, looking back i didn't mean to write relationship, i guess "hanging out" would of been a better description. you both helped me out.
Author marley_86 Posted September 21, 2007 Author Posted September 21, 2007 Well i called him once last night, no answer. So i guess he's exploring other options or just not interested. its 9 pm here. I just thought we had a good thing going. Would be stupid of him to call on friday, for a friday date. Likely it won't happen. And its so pathetic of me to still be holding out, we did have an amazing time together. i just don't get it... He said we would get together next weekend, last week we hung out on friday. i hate men. a 5 minute phone call was all i wanted.
shoesies05 Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 i say jus forget about it and move on, because even if he was busy- he could have taken the time to give u a call or something and let you know wahts going on and not blow u off. u deserve better
Lyssa Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 Midway on our friday date, i asked when we can do it again, he said next weekend. Ahhh... you shouldn't have asked that. What's 'lavalife' anyway?? Now i don't know what to do, is he playing hard to get or something? This is my first relationship since my ex that i have felt this way. No idea but usually a guy would call if he was really interested.
Author marley_86 Posted September 21, 2007 Author Posted September 21, 2007 well i didn't think it was so strange, when we talked on msn, he said one sunday we will look at houses, when we are better dressed. And he kept making refrences about doing something later. He told me he wouldn't miss last weeks date for the world. Plus if a man gets scared b/c i ask him, then maybe he needs to grow up.
Lyssa Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 well i didn't think it was so strange, when we talked on msn, he said one sunday we will look at houses, when we are better dressed. And he kept making refrences about doing something later. He told me he wouldn't miss last weeks date for the world. Plus if a man gets scared b/c i ask him, then maybe he needs to grow up. Has he called you yet? Some guys DO need to grow up!
Author marley_86 Posted September 21, 2007 Author Posted September 21, 2007 nope no call. I don't get it, when i said "we'll were just hanging out" he replyed "is that all you want?" He told me i was really pretty and hoped it was okay that he liked me in that way. eta: he talked on msn with me, said he had fun on the weekend, and wanted to see if i would be up for it again! I'm pretty happy, thank you guys.
Author marley_86 Posted September 23, 2007 Author Posted September 23, 2007 Okay what the heck should i do about this? We were going to hang out on the weekend, sunday was i believe the day. But my msn stopped working when we were chatting, i called his cell and left a message explaining the situation and to call me back so we could set up the time. No call on saturday, so i called once again on sunday but no answer. I don't understand this, he said he had a good time last weekend, and wanted to see me again.
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