gdguy07 Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 Hi i need some advice from you.I split with my ex 9 months ago she dumped me after 12 mths together we got on great there was no fighting,argueing etc but she just said she didnt want the relationship thingy. I was cut to bits but respected her decision we stayed in touch as friends off & on & got along really well. She got with a guy 1 mth after we split i was suss about it, off course i think she got rid off me for him.They have split a few times but go back together & he has come around trying to fight me on one occasion when my ex was at a party at my place,they were seperated at the time. After this episode i told her im going to leave her alone with this guy which i have done for the past couple of months. But her brother was in a house fire recently & is a day to day prospect, so when i heard of this i did the right thing i thought & rang her to see if she is ok & had a good chat. She is still with her bloke although i know she wants to get out but cant so a friend has told me. Now she wants to catch up with me & have a drink but i dont know if this is a good idea as i dont know how i will feel,all good or all the hurt & love side of it comes rolling back.I think i may still love her & i really want to see her just as a test for myself.I know she will not tell the boyfriend about seeing me cause he hates it. Do you think she is trying to get me back as a safety net again, although i know she is going through a rough patch with her brother & i feel sorry for her. Part of me says yes catch up its not going to hurt seeing her but the other part says ring her & say its not a good idea,best of luck with your brother & move on. I appreciate any advice as the healing is taking a while.
Curious139 Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 You are right to be cautious - don't set yourself up to be crushed again. If you do meet, you are going to want to hear what she has learnt, to see that she has grown as a person. Otherwise you'll just be used as a backup, an option for her. She won't think of it that way but that is how it could work. To be clean about it, she should leave the other guy, once and for all. Be careful. The other point is that if you act disinterested rather than enthusiastic, she will value you more.
Author gdguy07 Posted September 19, 2007 Author Posted September 19, 2007 Thanks curious i like your advice & will take it on board.I know deep down my ex & i will become close friends again as we do get on great but i am scared all the past will come rolling back.One thing that pees me off is she hardly ever contacts me but if i text her she will reply immediately or answer the phone if i ring,to me this is not a true friendship or does she only do this so she can say to the current boyfriend that she has not contacted me...just another of her games i suppose. I will meet up with her & try my hardest to not show any emotion or interest in her who knows maybe it has all gone anyway,i hope so. Ive got a couple of dates lined up this is going to help me i know & hopefully piss the ex off also. Cheers
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