katty774 Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 OK what is going on with Adam. He tried calling me this morning and it took all of the inner strength I had to not pick up. A part of me wanted to hear his voice but then I knew if I did he would hand me a load of BS and I would get sucked right back in, so I chose not to pick up. My whole body started shaking. Well after I didn't pick up he sent me a text saying he had bad service where he was at and would call me tonight when he got home from work. I did not call him back and I did not reply to his text. What could he possibly want? I had told him not to call me ever again so why is he trying to call? The weird thing is before all of this happened we were talking one day about how even when I am upset with him I always pick up the phone when he calls. I guess he thinks it doesn't matter what he does I will always pick up. I am really irritated right now because I am such a confusing mess. Obviously I don't know what I want because part of me is glad he tried calling and the other part is mad that he did. What should I do if he calls tonight?
vaguelette Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 If you want him out of your life once and for all, pick the phone up when he calls and tell him "Do not contact me again, in any shape or form. If you do, I shall have no choice but to call the police and take a restraining order out on you." Then hang up. It's really, really easy. However, if you're asking 'How do I let him know I'm really hurt by him without appearing to give in by answering his phone call' then say so.
Author katty774 Posted September 18, 2007 Author Posted September 18, 2007 I had already told him in a text that I was upset and how I felt but I guess the text was to long bc he text me back right after and said the text didn't come all the way thru. I didn't feel like trying to send it again bc obviously it was too long so I didn't reply back. This was the night that I sent the text about how I should not have said I hated him because it is wrong to hate but I hated his ways and would never forgive him, blah blah blah.
vaguelette Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 So which is it? You want him out of your life or you want a demonstration from him that he really does love you?
Author katty774 Posted September 18, 2007 Author Posted September 18, 2007 That's the thing. I know I don't need him in my life and I would be crazy to let him back in, however another part of me wants him to be miserable about what he has done and beg my forgiveness. I know it is stupid. I am just a confused idiot right now. I guess a part of me wants him to feel bad because it would mean that he did have feelings for me. See I am just a complete bundle of confused shattered nerves.
vaguelette Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 The best thing to do, when you're unsure of what to do, is nothing. Honestly.
Author katty774 Posted September 18, 2007 Author Posted September 18, 2007 please don't tell me to ignore your comments. You make a lot of sense. I just appreciate your not judging me for being so wishy washy. I am just thankful that I have you wonderful people to bounce my craziness off of without judgement.
jusschillin Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 Katty, I am new to this thread and don't really know your story, but I am currently standing your shoes and like you, am desperately trying to get out of a bad relationship and crumple every time I hear his voice and take him back in a sec. - the cycle then repeats itself. I know how hard it is, and how easy it seems for persons who have come out of the other side with minimal battle scars. Don't take his call. Once you do, all your hard work is lost and you get sucked in again. Even if you answer the phone angrily and tell him off, you will feel horrible afterwards and start missing him again. Whatever you do, don't pick up that phone.
Author katty774 Posted September 18, 2007 Author Posted September 18, 2007 Thanks, I am going to try my best not to pick up the phone. He probably won't call any way. He lies and so he probably will just wait a few days and try calling again. I wish he was out of my mind for good but I know it will take time. I will try my best not to pick up if he calls.
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