roxxi Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 I made the very hard decision yesterday to step back from a relationship I'm in with someone I care for very much, but could use some advice as to how to successfully do that. Right now, I'm trying to stop myself everyday from breaking down and calling him. I didn't think it'd be this hard...
dropdeadlegs Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 I made the very hard decision yesterday to step back from a relationship I'm in with someone I care for very much, but could use some advice as to how to successfully do that. Right now, I'm trying to stop myself everyday from breaking down and calling him. I didn't think it'd be this hard... Stay busy. Don't give yourself too much time to sit around alone with your thoughts. Connect with friends and family and have some fun. Keep in the forefront of your mind the reason(s) you decided you need to step back. I believe it is best to have no contact when disengaging. Contact can make you question your decision. In the initial days and weeks you don't need to be "friendly" you just need to move on. Be good to yourself and give yourself time to heal completely before getting involved with another.
vaguelette Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 Remember why you made the decision to step back. If it was merely to provoke a reaction, then you'll find it nigh on impossible to keep the distance. If it was because you need, for example, space, then you'll find it relatively easy if you remember that. I said 'relatively'.
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