MystifiedByMen Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 Have you ever noticed how you two get in fights right before he feels obligated to do something? Isn't it funny how you always make up after the event/issue is over and he can just show up and hang out again? This guy doesn't want the responsibility of a girlfriend, and he doesn't care enough about you to be there when you need him. You have put up with it, though, for so long that he feels like it's ok. Making him pay for your trip into the city is just another part of the game. He messes up, you make him pay...it will go on forever until you stop it. well said!
Author emmaUK Posted September 19, 2007 Author Posted September 19, 2007 we havent talked for well over 24 hours now. its the longest we have gone while together without speakin i have been tempted so many times 2 text or email as really missing him. nearly text a few times but then put the phone down again earlier on i notcied he has sent me a friend request on facebook. i havet accepted it yet and im not sure if i should or not. i think if i accept it then he will be able to see what im up 2 and who im chatting to and maybe ruin the fact that i want him to see what life without me is really like. do u think i should not accept the friend request or do u think that it sonly an silly internet site n there is no harm in accepting it???
Timberlane Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 Well, I met a girl last Sunday at a restaurant that was there alone on her birthday. It seems her male friend didn't care much about it being her birthday. All she wanted to do was go see a comedy at the cinema, "Superbad." So I paid for her drink, took her to the movie, and spent the rest of the night with her.
Author emmaUK Posted September 19, 2007 Author Posted September 19, 2007 sounds like u were in the right place at the right time then.
curiousnycgirl Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 Ignore the friend request and keep up with the nc! Spend time valueing yourself!
jcster Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 we havent talked for well over 24 hours now. its the longest we have gone while together without speakin i have been tempted so many times 2 text or email as really missing him. nearly text a few times but then put the phone down again This should be something that concerns you. If you can't go 24 hours without talking to your boyfriend without being overcome with the compulsion to call him, then it's a sign that you're life is not balanced. Why do you need to talk to him every day? Do you need constant re-inforcement that someone cares? Think about just what it is that you "miss." I have a feeling it isn't him, specifically.
jcster Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 we havent talked for well over 24 hours now. its the longest we have gone while together without speakin i have been tempted so many times 2 text or email as really missing him. nearly text a few times but then put the phone down again This should be something that concerns you. If you can't go 24 hours without talking to your boyfriend without being overcome with the compulsion to call him, then it's a sign that you're life is not balanced. Why do you need to talk to him every day? Do you need constant re-inforcement that someone cares? Think about just what it is that you "miss." I have a feeling it isn't him, specifically.
Trialbyfire Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 The last thing you want is a one-way dependency or a co-dependency relationship. Don't accept his facebook invitation. You need time to rebuild your internal reserves.
Author emmaUK Posted September 19, 2007 Author Posted September 19, 2007 i wouldnt say i need to talk to him.. thats just the way it has happend. he usualy texts me in the morning on the way to work to say good morning n then i text back n then he may text me again at lunch or in the afternoon n then we may talk in the evening when he is on his way home ir if not we will send each other a couple of texts in the evening to say good nite etc. when im in relationship with him i dont feel as though i need to talk to him we have jsut alays kept contact throughout the day but if i dont have contact with him all day then im not startin to freak out or anything but i will deffinetly text him in the evening to ask how his day was if i havent heard from hgim all day and vica versa... its just when i know we are not in relationship that i miss him loads n feel like i really want to hear from him. i dont think that is abnormal at all.
Author emmaUK Posted September 19, 2007 Author Posted September 19, 2007 and it is him i miss..... its the good things and good times i miss. yes i know we have had some horrible times but we have also had some really amazing times ... its all those i miss
Lishy Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 Emma what is your facebook name? I will add you
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