DrumMajor13 Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 well, my ex and i have been apart for about a year and a half... after being together for just as long. he left me and six days later was dating another woman, one of his best friends. he ended up cheating on her with me and saying that it was because he missed me so much... but yet, he stayed with her for another few months before they broke up. He became a partier... a typical phase after high school, but i am anything but a partier... i am more of a home body who's never even tried an alcoholic drink before and i really don't like his friends. anyway, but now he wants me back. he says he misses me and has been thinking about what we had and how much i meant to him and regrets leaving me. I really don't know what to do about this because i do have feelings for him but at the same time i'm somewhat scared of getting hurt again and i feel like i would be disrespecting myself by giving him another chance. any advice would be great.
shoesies05 Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 what does your gut feeling tell you about this? i wouldnt go back. there usually is a good reason why things ended, and you're just going to go through the stupid stffthat caused you to break up in the first place. Plus, it sounds like you two are in different places, him = partier you=not partier I just wouldnt go back with the guy- but then it would be good to have more info, to get a better idea of everything that happened. Why did u break up? Why would u want to be with him again? what is it you miss about him? what is it you dont? or do u just miss being in a relationship and not the person? Think about it all hun, im sure you'll make a good choice.
Author DrumMajor13 Posted September 19, 2007 Author Posted September 19, 2007 what does your gut feeling tell you about this? i wouldnt go back. there usually is a good reason why things ended, and you're just going to go through the stupid stffthat caused you to break up in the first place. Plus, it sounds like you two are in different places, him = partier you=not partier I just wouldnt go back with the guy- but then it would be good to have more info, to get a better idea of everything that happened. Why did u break up? Why would u want to be with him again? what is it you miss about him? what is it you dont? or do u just miss being in a relationship and not the person? Think about it all hun, im sure you'll make a good choice. HONESTLY, i don't know why we broke up. One day we were happy, the next he wanted to play the field... typical of an 18 year old guy (we're both 20 now). We were close to graduation and i was the only girl he'd ever had a serious relationship with... my opinion is that he felt like he was missing out on the dating experience or whatever. I (maybe) want to be with him again because he treated me really well... always telling me i was wonderful and beautiful... i really trusted him and he really trusted me... it was good. I dont know if there's anything i really didn't like about our relationship... we fought, yes... but we were pretty good at talking it out after a few days of fuming. BUT... i am still deciding whether i'm just missing a relationship or if i'm missing him. I am really confused right now. He says that he played the field but never stopped thinking about me and that he misses what we had together... i'm scared, after reading posts here that maybe he just wants *somebody* until he finds something better. But he says that there are tons of women out there that want to date him (and sadly, it's true) and that he only wants me. He says that he's tried to be with someone else but he just can't do it because he loves me... i have a hard time trusting people so i don't know what to believe.
shoesies05 Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 Give it time, you're going to be confused, but dont ever make a decision until you're pretty sure its what you want. And yes, really focus on the question : do you miss him, or just being in a relationship? and do u think him wanting to go out and party, while u would want to stay home would create problems between you two? especially since he ached to "play the field"?
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