spookie Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 I can't help but obsess over this, and I wanted some feedback from people more experienced. I went out with my friend Saturday night. We met up with a couple of other friends of mine at a bar, who were with some friends of theirs. There was this guy... I'm not sure how we got to talking, but he and his friend ended up attaching themselves to us. We danced and drank together, and, when the bars closed, my friend said she thought they were both cute and that she wanted to keep hanging out. We went to their apartment, where everyone changed into boxers and t-shirts and jumped in the pool. At this point I think everyone was sobering up, so it wasn't entirely a drunk experience. Anyway, we spent a couple of hours hanging out and talking, and then everyone crashed in my guy's bed, spooning each other. Eventually his friend moved to the couch, and as soon as there was more room my guy turned toward me and we started making out. My friend moved to another couch, so we ended up sleeping together. No sex but we got to second base. The next day, he asked if he could see me again. He also asked about my roommate (for info on that check out my other threads... we had a FWB relationship going for a while, now he wants to "give us a try" but I want nothing to do with him). I told him we weren't involved, which is the truth but in retrospect sounded like kind of a lie. Anyway, he drove us back home. Before we got out of the car he got both our numbers. On sunday he was going to a big music festival, so I knew he wouldn't call. He hasn't called today. But, he added me on facebook. Is he going to call tomorrow? Wednesday? On the weekend? At what point should I be pissed if he doesn't? How do these types of things generally pan out? I really enjoyed hanging out with him and would like to see him again.
popey Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 who knows when he is going to call, and who knows when you should or should not be pissed. But I would conclude that getting a chance to know you better, and see what might be possible between you is not a priority to him if he doesn't call within 3-4 days after gettingg your number. I know you had a good time with him, and are excited about the thought of seeing him again, and what might be. At the same time, you really might try to calm it down a bit, and not get so invested in a guy you made out with once- moments after a 4-way boxer swimscape followed with a group spoon. Take it easy, and enjoy yourself for what it is. If it turns out more- consider it bonus when it happens.
Author spookie Posted September 18, 2007 Author Posted September 18, 2007 who knows when he is going to call, and who knows when you should or should not be pissed. But I would conclude that getting a chance to know you better, and see what might be possible between you is not a priority to him if he doesn't call within 3-4 days after gettingg your number. I know you had a good time with him, and are excited about the thought of seeing him again, and what might be. At the same time, you really might try to calm it down a bit, and not get so invested in a guy you made out with once- moments after a 4-way boxer swimscape followed with a group spoon. Take it easy, and enjoy yourself for what it is. If it turns out more- consider it bonus when it happens. Thank you. I needed that.
Krytellan Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 He may never call you or he may only call you in hopes of getting past second base. You just never know, and I sure can't judge a person's character from a post. However, I don't think you should be pissed if he doesn't call. At least not at him... yourself maybe. It was your decision to go to "second base" as you put it. I hope you're not implying that he has an obligation to call you? He might have just been having fun for a night. On the other hand, he would likely call you by Wednesday if he was serious about anything. If he doesn't, I would wonder about him... especially considering you were active together.
Author spookie Posted September 18, 2007 Author Posted September 18, 2007 He may never call you or he may only call you in hopes of getting past second base. You just never know, and I sure can't judge a person's character from a post. However, I don't think you should be pissed if he doesn't call. At least not at him... yourself maybe. It was your decision to go to "second base" as you put it. I hope you're not implying that he has an obligation to call you? He might have just been having fun for a night. On the other hand, he would likely call you by Wednesday if he was serious about anything. If he doesn't, I would wonder about him... especially considering you were active together. In no way did I mean it was his obligation to call. I am just wondering if it's likely that he will, given that he asked me to hang out again, got my number, questioned me about whether I was involved, and friended me on facebook. I'm just wondering if people bother with all that when they have no intention of seeing the other person again. Despite all the horny craziness going on that night, I got to talk to him for a while and I really thought he liked me as more than just a sex object. But then, I've been in smiliar situations before and no one's ever called back... not that I regret making out with him. I really believe like and lust are separate.
Author spookie Posted September 19, 2007 Author Posted September 19, 2007 He called!! =) We have a date on Friday!
popey Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 cool. so enjoy your date. REALLY just enjoy your date.
MystifiedByMen Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 I'd wait to see if he calls this weekend. Guys seem to only call druing the week to spend time with a girl if they have more serious intentions. (Which is too soon for him to call since you'll only met). It's kinda early for his call. Just wait a few more days. Otherwise, call him if you really like him. If not, move on. Who has time for the waiting game? oh, i see he called. Good luck!
Krytellan Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 Yay. I hope all goes well. Guard home plate very closely for a while. Watch for the squeeze play
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