wookinpanub Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 OK, Ill make this as short as possible. Met a girl last saturday night at the party we were having at my and my room mates house. I was up on a beer pong, didnt have a partner so she jumps ahead of like 10 people to be my partner. Started talking, I think we hit it off (I was pretty drunk). Kinda kept talking after playing pong, went to a diff. party and she came along which didn't last long. we got back to my place (the whole group, not just her and i). out of nowhere, she was like im leaving with X (her freind) and told me which place she lived in and gave me her number to call her next weekend. my roommates were all like ooooh! that i finally got a phone number. they were all like you need to spit mad game on her... well, how do i do that? what is it exactly? obviously im not gonna ask them cuz that would be embarrasing. should i like call her up and tell her it was awesome meeting her or something like that? i dont know!!!
Trialbyfire Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 You seem like a good guy. Do you really want someone who will play games with you? If she's good at it, she'll turn you into an emotional pretzel. Not very healthy.
norajane Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 Spit mad game? She hung out with you all night, she gave you her number, what more do you need to make a move? Just call her up, tell her it was great meeting her, you'd like to see her again, and invite her to whatever you're doing next weekend. Make arrangements to pick her up or whatever, and then get off the phone. Next weekend, go pick her up and take her to next weekend's beer fest. Why do you have to make it any more complicated than that?
Author wookinpanub Posted September 18, 2007 Author Posted September 18, 2007 wait? how is she playing games with me? my roommates told me i need to "spit game". she's been straight forward from what i can tell. i mean she gave me her phone number and stuff. i dunno though, maybe she is.
Trialbyfire Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 Got it. I thought your mates were giving you advice about her. My above comments are withdrawn. Do call her and ask her out. If she's sincerely interested, she'll say yes.
norajane Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 my roommates told me i need to "spit game". You were doing just fine with the girl by being yourself. Don't start screwing it up now by listening to your roommates.
Author wookinpanub Posted September 18, 2007 Author Posted September 18, 2007 yeah, true. i guess the worst that could happen is she says no.
Author wookinpanub Posted September 18, 2007 Author Posted September 18, 2007 thanks for the advice, both of you!
Trialbyfire Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 No probs. Thanks for the explanation.
johan Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 my roommates were all like ooooh! that i finally got a phone number. they were all like you need to spit mad game on her... well, how do i do that? what is it exactly? obviously im not gonna ask them cuz that would be embarrasing. should i like call her up and tell her it was awesome meeting her or something like that? i dont know!!! I'm guessing your roommates are whities trying to sound cool by talking like they come from the street. They probably couldn't even find the street, and if they did by accident, they'd hurry out of there. "Spitting game" is slang for talking to her and getting her to like you. It's not playing games. For more information, you can read The Mack Within - The Holy Book of Game, by Tariq "King Flex" Nasheed. ha ha... I bought it, because it made me laugh. And also because deep down, I really am a Mack. ha ha... Here are a couple things for you to keep in mind: King Flex's 1st Commandment of Mackin': Mackin' is 20% talk and 80% attitude. If you game and your gear are tight enough, you can pull females without saying anything at all. or the 4th Commandment: Always Qualify Your Females before you Start Mackin'. Mackin' to a female who isn't qualified to receive good game is like speaking Chinese to a Mexican. No matter how tight your game is, she simply won't understand. Good luck! It's obvious the girl digs you, but don't invest too much in a girl who makes it that easy. She might be passing out her number all over the place.
tanbark813 Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 well, how do i do that? what is it exactly? obviously im not gonna ask them cuz that would be embarrasing. should i like call her up and tell her it was awesome meeting her or something like that? i dont know!!! Call her up. Make small talk for a few minutes. Ask her about her weekend, her day, whatever. Then ask her out for a SPECIFIC day/time/activity. Have something in mind before you call. Don't ask her out for "sometime". If she's interested she'll either say yes or, if she's busy, make a counter-offer.
Author wookinpanub Posted September 18, 2007 Author Posted September 18, 2007 I'm guessing your roommates are whities trying to sound cool by talking like they come from the street. They probably couldn't even find the street, and if they did by accident, they'd hurry out of there. "Spitting game" is slang for talking to her and getting her to like you. It's not playing games. For more information, you can read The Mack Within - The Holy Book of Game, by Tariq "King Flex" Nasheed. ha ha... I bought it, because it made me laugh. And also because deep down, I really am a Mack. ha ha... Here are a couple things for you to keep in mind: King Flex's 1st Commandment of Mackin': Mackin' is 20% talk and 80% attitude. If you game and your gear are tight enough, you can pull females without saying anything at all. or the 4th Commandment: Always Qualify Your Females before you Start Mackin'. Mackin' to a female who isn't qualified to receive good game is like speaking Chinese to a Mexican. No matter how tight your game is, she simply won't understand. Good luck! It's obvious the girl digs you, but don't invest too much in a girl who makes it that easy. She might be passing out her number all over the place. haha, that book sounds pretty funny. was there very much useful stuff in it though? As to my roommates, they are about as far from ghetto as anyone can be and they know. It's just a kind of common term around here that I never really figured what it meant. thanks for those tips, though! I'm gonna call her this evening and do what tanbark said to do.
johan Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 It's actually a pretty good book. Taking it too seriously could get you in trouble, but there's also a lot of truth in it.
jcster Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 you can read The Mack Within - The Holy Book of Game, by Tariq "King Flex" Nasheed. ha ha... So that's where it's coming from! I've run into a couple of guys who do this, and after the first one, I started to realize it's a fashion. It makes me laugh now - I really don't find it attractive.
Author wookinpanub Posted September 19, 2007 Author Posted September 19, 2007 weeeell i called and no answer, so i left a message. ball is in her court now, so to speak.
MystifiedByMen Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 Yes, do NOT listen to your friends. You're doing great on your own or she would not have given you her number. Just be yourself and don't worry about "game". I hate that when guys try to impress me and don't really act themselves. Keep in light hearted and have a good time! You'll see, you'll get farther with her (and I don't mean sex) doing this than listening to your friends.
Citizen Erased Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 Imagery of a bunch of 20 year olds standing around a girl spitting deer on her
johan Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 weeeell i called and no answer, so i left a message. ball is in her court now, so to speak. Nothing will ever happen with this girl ever. I'm sorry to say. Never call her again. Situations like this require near-instantaneous follow up. Waiting the requisite couple of days is almost always a mistake. It's a school-boy myth. My rule is if I'm feeling at all desperate, then I never call a girl at all. Waiting two minutes, two hours, two days, or two weeks won't mask my desperation. So I'd better just fix that before I bother. If I'm not feeling desperate, then I don't let her get away. I'll call her ten minutes after I get her number. I don't give a damn what she thinks about it, because I know what's right. If it's in your heart, you have to put it together on the spot. If it's not, then don't bother (and don't worry about it). When you're in the right state of mind and you find a girl you dig, you'll seize her without hesitation or doubt, and waiting any amount of time will feel like an intolerable waste of time. In this case, that's not how you felt, and so you're going to have to wait for the next one to come along.
Author wookinpanub Posted September 19, 2007 Author Posted September 19, 2007 She called back a little bit after I called her. We talked for a bit and I asked her what she was up to this weekend and she said she is going home for the weekend but that next weekend she would be around. I told her I would give her a call next week sometime to let her know what was going on. that was about it. Johan, that's some deep stuff, man. My problem is that I do always hesitate. Even if I am really into a girl, I can never just balls up and go for it. I'm too self-conscious like that. I mean this girl gave me her number and everyone is telling me to go for it but dude I was sooo unbelievably nervous when I called her.
burning 4 revenge Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 Don't be nervous. Just relaz. Some playa needs to show you how to spit game and then you'll be laffin at ho's
johan Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 Well, given it's going to be over a week before you can see her again, I still wouldn't be ready to say I was wrong. Do what feels right. Maybe something will happen. There's nothing to be gained by getting hard on yourself about being nervous or hesitating. Nervous guys who hesitate get girls, too. But I hope you have experiences like I described. Maybe with this girl. There's sometimes a chemistry there that tells you to follow your heart and what would be the purpose in waiting. Consider calling her and putting something minor together for tomorrow. Make it the easiest thing for her to do, just to meet up somewhere to do something inconsequential. Tell her you'll be somewhere and she can come meet up with you if she wants (and you hope she does). Don't worry about whether she says yes or no. Don't hang your future on this girl. Just see if you can have 10 minutes of fun with her. After you've done that, see if you can have another 10. If she digs you at all, she'll either say yes, or suggest an alternative. If she doesn't do one of those two things, then write her off.
johan Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 Also, I should mention that that was the final lecture in my series. KMT offers the advanced course.
Author wookinpanub Posted September 19, 2007 Author Posted September 19, 2007 Well the only thing I can think of is like seeing is she wants to go to dinner (not like a date). A bunch of us always go to the cafeteria and junk. See if maybe she wants to go with? Other than that, I can't think of much. I agree with the last part though. I made that promise to myself I guess a few months ago that if I am interested in a girl and she says no, it stops then and there and I forget about it. So when does this advanced course begin? I think I need it, lol.
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