smketer Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 Hello everyone, I need a little advice… I have been dating my GF/ Fiancée for eight months. When I first met her I had no idea that things would go the way they did. She is one of the most amazing women I have ever met. We do get along great, everything is perfect for us when we get along. She is someone that I would bend over backwards for and do anything for. Things I brought into the relationship: My past is not the best, I have cheated on past Girl Friends, and I did lie to past Girlfriends, and was a good guy just did not meet the right women for me. I do have huge trust issues because I have been cheated on. Things she brought into the relationship: She has trust issues, because of her past, and she is too nice and won’t tell people off if they treat her bad. I did lie to her about my age, owning a house, past relationships and about a few other things. I do feel bad having lied to her, I am more of a people pleaser and really was not thinking when I said the things to her that I said. I have never cheated on her, never ever could do that. Its how I know that I know she is my sole mate, well its one of the reasons. We did have a miscarries of twins, this did hurt us both very bad. We were looking forward to having a family. I would lay in bed and talk to her little tummy or rub her tummy in where I can feel the babies’ fluder around. We were both very sad and hurt. We just found out a few days ago that we are now pregnant again. This has filled a little sadness that was in my heart. I do believe in god and feel that god has blessed us. She had her tubes tied 9 years ago, and should NOT have been able to get pregnant. She tells me that she needs time to think about things, she said she needs her space. Its kinda hard to figure out how to give her space, she goes out with her GF’s and does work very hard. I think part of the reason why she needs her space is that she also has some single girlfriends that are more single and I am not sure if she misses this side of life. I do know one thing, is that I feel horrible lying to her, I told her that this would never happen again. I have NEVER and would NEVER cheat on her. In my heart and body I truly do think that we do belong together. She is everything to me. I also think that her and I just need to get away from the stress of everything and work on things with out anyone else around.
Lauriebell82 Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 She may want space because of you lying to her. My ex bf lied to me repeatedly and I stayed in the relationship way longer than I should of. Obviously you both have issues, maybe you should try counseling. DON'T get married until you have worked these issues out, also for the sake of your unborn child. I'm not surprised she has trust issues, and they probably didn't get any better with you lying to her. Maybe you should try individual counseling in addition to couples counseling.
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