EYECANDY000 Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 Text Messaging has taking over!! Ive been seeing a guy for the past 3 months now and for the most part we hit it off very well. My text message inbox has sky rocketed from 400 a month to 2,500 a month just from him. We are basicly friends still in the getting to know stage. We became intimate within about 2 months or so of meeting each other . Now my thing is that he does everything through text messages. Which I dont have a problem with because to me I feel texting makes it a lot more easy to break dates, tell someone your late etc etc. I would rather someone text me and tell me that something came up instead of me not hearing from them at all. So, just recently he texted me and asked him: "how is my girl" Me: "im good" Him: So your my girl me: yes him: really? Me: R u ready for that? hIm: i think its cute so, some how we got on the subject of something else? So the next day , he says that he is going to a wedding next month and would love for me to come along with him, so i said sure ill go. Later that night I went over his house to hang out! He didnt say anything about it , so I didnt either! Has anyone ever had a similar situation? Like not exactly knowing where you stand with someone? I would ask him, but I dont want to seem like im coming on a little strong. ive expressed my feelings to him before , so I dont want him to kind of feel like Im pressuring him. I want to ask like hey were you joking when u sent me those texts, but , like I said if he dont mention it I wont either. I guess it just feels kind of funny because this is stuff that I use to do when I was 15 or 16. Like, write a note to a guy and ask them do u like me please circle yes or no .. We are in our late twenties for peaks sake!!!!
whichwayisup Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 You two need to start talking on the phone!!! Text messaging is ruining those late night calls in bed, and really talking. Having those intimate conversations online isn't the same as it is hearing his voice on the phone! Plus, neither of you were able to talk about the wedding or make plans BECAUSE it was orginally discussed online/text messaging. It's a way to hide...And, that's not good.
loveydovey82 Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 I text message my FWB because it keeps the distance between us. He just recently started to call me and I'm not really cool with calling just to talk or see how my life is. I think it is too boyfriendish. Honestly, in your case, I would just come right out and ask or say what is on your mind. You can't lose anything by wanting to breach a topic that is bothering you. You may not like the answer but at least you will know.
daZed&confUsed005 Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 you two do need to start talking on the phone ..but also text conversations are sort of like talking to the other person a less interactive though..but watever he wrote he did mean it and if you feel awkward askin him straight up..try asking him wat you should wear to the wedding or about the theme hope this helps..this is the best i could come up with from a guy's point of view
amber1 Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 I'm considering getting rid of texting on my phone altogether. Then guys will HAVE to call lol. There will be no other option! (Unless of course they have my email address, but then emailing would be too much work for them.)
code five Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 SMS / Text Messages are ok to an extent. A random one sent during the day can be nicely received and bring a smile to the other's face... Using this form of communication alone though is... well, BAD. As everyone has said, talk on the phone more... bettery yet, talk IN PERSON. I would ask him, but I dont want to seem like im coming on a little strong. ive expressed my feelings to him before , so I dont want him to kind of feel like Im pressuring him. I want to ask like hey were you joking when u sent me those texts, but , like I said if he dont mention it I wont either. Here's how I see it... Talk to him. If he isn't ready to take it to the next level - well, there ya go. I don't see voicing your feelings/desires/etc. as 'pressuring him'. Good Luck and kill that text message plan....
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