honestgirl Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 so this good friend of mine just ended things with his long-term girlfriend, partly because he had strong feelings for me (we talked and realized we have always really cared about each other), however, they had been talking about breaking up for a while, so it wasn't all b/c of me. (i knew him years before they started dating.) so here's what he does: when we see each other, he's really affectionate, caring, honest, etc... we really have a great time together... we have had sex, but b/c we were really good friends before this, i highly doubt that it's all he's in this for. anyway, after we hang out, i sometimes won't hear from him for days. he's TOTALLY not the player type, so it confuses me. when we first started getting a little more serious, he was smitten by me! now, he's been distant and the last time i talked to him was thursday (when i called him). we talked for a few minutes on the phone, but he was working a 14-hour day and had to go... which i totally understand. he was perfectly fine on the phone and said he was happy i called.... but what's the deal? he's also going to college and has a bunch of other **** going on... so i know he's busy. HOWEVER, i'm not stupid and i know that if a guy really likes someone, they will at least call... i'm just not sure how often... especially just after getting out of a long relationship. so i don't know what to do or think. should i just not even worry about it and give him some time or should i tell him that i'm wanting a little more than this? i want to just call him and see what's up... and tell him that it's ok if he doesn't want to date me... but just tell me! that's the worst part. or maybe he's just trying to figure things out and he still has strong feelings for me? (for what it's worth, that's what my other friends think)... i have no clue. i think i made the mistake of telling him that he could take his time to figure things out, but i'm not into games so i don't want to MAKE anyone be with me if they're not ready... that's why i said that. so what do i do now? we've become a little more serious than just a fling, but we're definitely not exclusive yet. i don't want to come off as crazy, but i also don't want to come off as not caring that i don't talk to him for days. i contacted him last, so i feel like it's HIS turn to show some interest... the wait is just driving me crazy. ugh, relationships suck.
shoesies05 Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 yea... guys can be so confusing. i just recently had this same problem with a guy, only he hadnt been in a relationship for a long time, hadnt even dated for a long time... anyways- i dunno what to say. but like u said, if he likes you he'll call right? he can take the time to make a 5 min. phone call just to say hello. good luck girl! <3
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