Ohio_isforLovers Posted September 17, 2007 Posted September 17, 2007 Well basically i can write a 5 page essay on the past that i had with my ex. We were on a break begging of summer and then i kept getting upset that were on a break. Which i know never works out at the end. Well during the middle of summer she was like i don't wanna be on a break anymore and we broke it off.Shes been my girlfriend for over 3 years and recently i found out she likes someone and they already made out. But there not in a relationship which is weird in my opinion because they've been talking for 2 months now. Well i recently decided to start that NO CONTACT strategy not just to get her back but to try and move on because she still wants to be freinds with me. Which i cant handle because i get emotional and sad when I'm with her for what she did. Well basically i try ed telling her this through Face book because i cant stand talking to her in person with out getting upset. So take a look at the convo... HER.. Omg like hi. your cool. i know i ignored you before but at least i talk to you but your pathetic. you cant even say one word to me when i was at your house. way to be mature.you were like in your kitchen slamming things around and i know you were doing it on purpose because you were pissed i was at your house. which is w.e because i dont care. i love your family they are so nice so deal with it. anyways looks like you have lots of lady friends ME.. responding Seriously whats your problem... Thanks for calling me pathetic...Yeah i did over exaggerate at the house and no it wasn't because you were in my house! It's because you've seriously changed as a person to me your not the same girl that i once knew. Just last week you ignored the crap out of me and out of nowhere you wanna talk again. I don't understand that? I was the one who kept trying to talk to you but kept shutting me down. Oh and I know you love my family and they love you too. I know that.. Seriously I just don't understand you anymore and why wouldn't u call me in person and tell me this... To be honest i love you and i still do and care about you alot but i gotta say this... i cant be friends with you or at least talk to you for awhile when your in a relationship with someone else or liking someone else.... honestly because every time we talk i remember what we had and its very hard to let go of those feelings that i have with you. i know its something you dont want. But I want this time off for me to change as a person and for you to think. I really don't care if i have alot of lady friends there just friends thats all.. Thats something i had problems with was talking to freinds. im changing that now. I don't wanna be in a relationship with no one cause i just got out of a serious relationship with you and i'm really trying to focus in school and get my car... HER... okay. and i would have said this on the phone but it was late and I was kinda upset about something. and plus i sent you a text and you didnt respond. so i wasnt going to chase you down by calling you because i didnt think you would answer. bye Me.. Hey i hope you take everything i said seriously because i really do meen it. Hopefully at the end everthing well work itself out okay. Her.. i do. that why i said okay and dont worry about it i wont talk to you if thats how you feel. plus i am the "past" soo its all good I dunno what to think or write back!!!!!! Its likes she doesn't understand what i'm trying to say!! Please someone ME HELP OUT!
CrazyPanda Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 you already told yourself you will stop contacting her. So just do it. If you keep on leaving messages to her back and forth you won't be showing that you really want to end contact with her. Leaving comments back and forth only allows her to keep you on tab. Stop this and avoid everything just like you wanted. If she comes over just to visit your family tell her that she cannot have that luxury anymore. She choosed to leave you and as result, she cannot be part of your family. She needs to understand that. If not...tell her that "It's MY family, SO DEAL WITH IT" Believe me, I;m pretty much parallel with you right now. My girlfriend of 3 years began having feelings for another guy at work and we were on a break for her to figure things out during the whole summer. Eventually she went with the new guy and left me heart broken and depressed for quite some time. I've tried to be friends with my ex but it was took quick (feelings for her still lingered) and even when I try to be friendly it was very hard and very very one sided. I found out she didn't want to be friends with me in the first place so I decided to go NC with her so I can get a real break from her and get some time for her to TRUELY be away from me and for myself to have my feelings for her fade away. You seem to be around the same age as I am since you use facebook, unless you're an alumni. Well... Just leave everything as is and move on. A fresh year has started so just focus on school and hang out with your friends. You're not looking for a serious relationship right now since you just left one, understandable because I'm not. Just do what you normally do and things will work out for you at the end.
Author Ohio_isforLovers Posted September 18, 2007 Author Posted September 18, 2007 Yeah I'm in college.. In case anyone wants to know i sent her one last message... ME.. Im doing this because i feel like we both need space from each other. I still have feelings for you and what you did still really hurts me and i need time to heal. I feel like the relationship that we had didn't meen alot to you because you moved on so quick and it really hurts me to see you with another guy and during this break i will mend myself and become open to the whole situation. I just need time alright...Bye this was her repsonse... HER.. omg stop! and i am not in a relationship get your facts right. and i am fine with you not talking to me because its your choice. and you need time to heal? yeah i get that but i already told you that i wont talk to you. and how dare you say i didnt care about the relationship. that bull of course i did. and yeah maybe i might like someone a little but that doesnt mean i forgot about what we had, because it was good. i just needed my own space to grow up and figure out what i wanted to do with my life and with school and work and ****. and you needed it too. but like i said i am the "past" so w.e dont be sad just move on.. w.e . wow now you want space? thats why we arent together because i wanted space and you didnt. and now you are all like leave me alone i cant talk to you i need my own space. yeah basically i don't know what to think anymore. Any help what shes like really trying to say with this i feel like she thinks I'm not gonna go threw with this..
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