sanyy Posted September 17, 2007 Posted September 17, 2007 Did I do any wrong?? How to get back to him if I can.. I really want to.. To make the story short here, Here was I married man I fell in love with.. I am married too. But we were not into sexual relation but into deep frndship. One fine day after 2 of off n on types during 9 months of relations, he pulled himself.. for simple reason he was not able to manage the things.. But I still love him a lot. I kept on sending him many msgs, texts, email, no calls though. But it was NC frm him. Its an year now. I want him back in my life.. I still send him mais sometime ( wishing him for some occasions) I still tell him how special he is.. Did I make any mistake.. No I don''t want the lecture on being married and being in another relation. I don't believe in that. I believe love can happe anytime in life.. I don't lve my husband neither can divorce him for some reason. He loves his wife.. And most importantly we were always more of frnd than anything.. what should I do, is there anyway I can get back him. I know I have screwed things already by sending him constant mails and msgs with no reply.. Please helpme..
on_my_way_out Posted September 17, 2007 Posted September 17, 2007 I know it is hard. Keep the NC with him. Focus on what you have, where you are. But I must ask a question.....Why stay in something with someone you dont love? Should you not allow yourself the ability to be happy and find someone also happy with you on all levels. A marriage is something shared between two people. Working at it is hard work. Working at it can be joyfull too. Find your true happiness in yourself and what you need. Good Luck
NearlyThere Posted September 17, 2007 Posted September 17, 2007 Did I do any wrong?? How to get back to him if I can.. I really want to.. To make the story short here, Here was I married man I fell in love with.. I am married too. But we were not into sexual relation but into deep frndship. One fine day after 2 of off n on types during 9 months of relations, he pulled himself.. for simple reason he was not able to manage the things.. But I still love him a lot. I kept on sending him many msgs, texts, email, no calls though. But it was NC frm him. Its an year now. I want him back in my life.. I still send him mais sometime ( wishing him for some occasions) I still tell him how special he is.. Did I make any mistake.. No I don''t want the lecture on being married and being in another relation. I don't believe in that. I believe love can happe anytime in life.. I don't lve my husband neither can divorce him for some reason. He loves his wife.. And most importantly we were always more of frnd than anything.. what should I do, is there anyway I can get back him. I know I have screwed things already by sending him constant mails and msgs with no reply.. Please helpme.. Unfortunatley, disregarding the fact of you both being married, you cannot win someone back who does not want to be won. This applies to everyone no matter what their marital status was/is in the relationship that they wish to try and re-kindle. Once one half have moved on, no amount of pleading or begging will make any difference. All you will accomplish is driving yourself insane and possibly worse, ie an injuction for harrasment, which in this day and age not so far fetched. Take a leaf out of his book and move on, post on here more about it to help you do so. Bear in mind as well, that all the times you contact him, he knows you are there ready and waiting to fall into his arms, so to speak, maybe once he starts to feel you have moved on he might change his mind and contact you once you are no longer there providing his ego boosting. However that is a long shot so dont count on it.
on_my_way_out Posted September 17, 2007 Posted September 17, 2007 Spoken so true and meaningful NearlyThere
whichwayisup Posted September 17, 2007 Posted September 17, 2007 He chose to end the A and go back to his wife. He has every right to change his mind, realize he made a mistake. Him ignoring all your calls, emails, text messages is the sign for you to accept that it IS over, he isn't going to contact you. He's chosen to move on and has asked you not to contact him. Respect that and focus on yourself. See my other reply on your other thread. Seek some counselling because if you don't leave him alone, you're only making yourself more miserable and not healing.
LucreziaBorgia Posted September 17, 2007 Posted September 17, 2007 You've started seven threads on the same thing I see, asking the same questions over and over hoping to get the answers you want to hear, I guess. If you are this persistent IRL, then I completely understand why MM cut you off and hasn't spoken to you or responded in a year. I would do exactly the same, and by this time would be considering a restraining order - which, honestly wouldn't surprise me if he and his wife took one out on you. You may want to check stalking laws for your area, and make sure you aren't in violation.
outofdarkness Posted September 20, 2007 Posted September 20, 2007 He chose to end the A and go back to his wife. He has every right to change his mind, realize he made a mistake. Him ignoring all your calls, emails, text messages is the sign for you to accept that it IS over, he isn't going to contact you. He's chosen to move on and has asked you not to contact him. Respect that and focus on yourself. See my other reply on your other thread. Seek some counselling because if you don't leave him alone, you're only making yourself more miserable and not healing. This is what my reply would have been...EVERY word...In a nutshell...MOVE on and leave him alone...ood
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