szq77 Posted September 20, 2007 Posted September 20, 2007 this whole thing is so surreal... Well the internet isn't really that big...
Author Krytellan Posted September 20, 2007 Author Posted September 20, 2007 Imagine my thoughts on the matter Shadow... I feel neked... EEK! I've been exposed.
szq77 Posted September 20, 2007 Posted September 20, 2007 Imagine my thoughts on the matter Shadow... I feel neked... EEK! I've been exposed. sorry...
carrotgirl Posted September 20, 2007 Posted September 20, 2007 I'm on the fence on this. When two people are in a dating or friends situation in which there is no exclusivity issue or talk, isn't the impetus really on the person that is more invested or that does want something more? Aren't they the ones with more at stake and therefore the ones responsible to protect themselves? I mean granted, I could do the "moral" thing (whatever that even means anymore) and bring up the talk ahead of time, but isn't the person in it for more really more in a position to have the talk? I'm new to the party and all but I agree that each person is responsible for herself or himself first. Even WHEN you have the talk about the future like I had with my ex. He was the one who had the talk actually. He'd had his eye on me for almost a year before he asked me out. He'd had a whole year of playing it out in his head and heart how he wanted it to be. After the first month together he wanted to be sure I understood that he wanted us to be married and have kids and the works. It was scary. It was exciting. It was fast. I needed some catch up time. It was maybe disappointing for him that I didn't say Great! Let's go to Vegas baby! I trusted us and the love enough to take my time getting to know him more before saying that's what I want with you too. But I did get there. We each were OK with protecting ourselves. Then it changed and he decided to protect me from himself? That's easily my one temper flare about his trying to "do the right thing" by me by breaking up with me instead of just enjoying the time we had together. It's NOT his responsibility to do my thinking and feeling for me. It's patronizing. I get that there is some major guilt going on in his head for whatever reason and he really did feel compelled to end it. I just don't like the idea that somehow it was for my benefit. Even if it partly was. Carrot PS If I were your mystery she (I'm not) and you were my guy I would say the injury I got was a broken finger and I 'm not saying how I got it.
Author Krytellan Posted September 20, 2007 Author Posted September 20, 2007 PS If I were your mystery she (I'm not) and you were my guy I would say the injury I got was a broken finger and I 'm not saying how I got it. Are you suggesting I'm a tight ass?
carrotgirl Posted September 20, 2007 Posted September 20, 2007 Are you boasting? First genuine smile I've had all day. Thanks K. Maybe I won't cry all night again tonight.
szq77 Posted September 20, 2007 Posted September 20, 2007 I'm new to the party and all but I agree that each person is responsible for herself or himself first. Even WHEN you have the talk about the future like I had with my ex. He was the one who had the talk actually. He'd had his eye on me for almost a year before he asked me out. He'd had a whole year of playing it out in his head and heart how he wanted it to be. After the first month together he wanted to be sure I understood that he wanted us to be married and have kids and the works. It was scary. It was exciting. It was fast. I needed some catch up time. It was maybe disappointing for him that I didn't say Great! Let's go to Vegas baby! I trusted us and the love enough to take my time getting to know him more before saying that's what I want with you too. But I did get there. We each were OK with protecting ourselves. Then it changed and he decided to protect me from himself? That's easily my one temper flare about his trying to "do the right thing" by me by breaking up with me instead of just enjoying the time we had together. It's NOT his responsibility to do my thinking and feeling for me. It's patronizing. I get that there is some major guilt going on in his head for whatever reason and he really did feel compelled to end it. I just don't like the idea that somehow it was for my benefit. Even if it partly was. Carrot PS If I were your mystery she (I'm not) and you were my guy I would say the injury I got was a broken finger and I 'm not saying how I got it. Carrot that's BS if he said he was breaking up with you for your benefit - don't believe him... Really he just wanted out but wasn't man enough to say that
Author Krytellan Posted September 20, 2007 Author Posted September 20, 2007 Carrot that's BS if he said he was breaking up with you for your benefit - don't believe him... Really he just wanted out but wasn't man enough to say that Are you hooked now? LS can be a tough addiction to kick.
Star Gazer Posted September 20, 2007 Posted September 20, 2007 That or I kicked you off the bed, remember? BED?? This is a new development...
carrotgirl Posted September 20, 2007 Posted September 20, 2007 Szq77, UH, I'll answer this for any who might get the wrong impression that my silence equals tacit agreement with your accusation. You're off base. I believe he said what he said because he believed it all to be true at that time. My ex is a decent man and in his way, yes, I think he was partially trying to do right by me. While it's my opinion his checking out on the relationship is cowardly, his subsequent actions during the week have been anything but. Don't be a hater. Carrot
Author Krytellan Posted September 20, 2007 Author Posted September 20, 2007 If only you knew everything... lol
szq77 Posted September 20, 2007 Posted September 20, 2007 Szq77, UH, I'll answer this for any who might get the wrong impression that my silence equals tacit agreement with your accusation. You're off base. I believe he said what he said because he believed it all to be true at that time. My ex is a decent man and in his way, yes, I think he was partially trying to do right by me. While it's my opinion his checking out on the relationship is cowardly, his subsequent actions during the week have been anything but. Don't be a hater. Carrot Oh, I'm not a hater, don't worry. I'm just telling you because I've been in a similar situation, that's all. I'm sorry for what you are going through, it sucks big time! Hope things get better for you - there's lots of fabulous men out there...
szq77 Posted September 20, 2007 Posted September 20, 2007 If only you knew everything... lol Um, are you forgetting that I am still right here...?
Author Krytellan Posted September 20, 2007 Author Posted September 20, 2007 Um, are you forgetting that I am still right here...? Hey, stalk at your own risk
dropdeadlegs Posted September 20, 2007 Posted September 20, 2007 Wow, I'm sure glad I had a front seat to this LS event. There's a privacy post pinned concerning use of personal info but I never thought about it coming to light right before my eyes. It's a small world, at least it is for Krytellan.
szq77 Posted September 20, 2007 Posted September 20, 2007 Hey, stalk at your own risk Whatever - you had fun...
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