shnny25 Posted September 17, 2007 Posted September 17, 2007 Well this is the first time I have ever done a forum but I figure the advise of people I dont know would be better than that of the people who know me... Okay here is the situation, I have been with my boyfriend for eleven years, since we were fourteen.. Its been up and down and all around. About one year ago we took a break, we grew to dislike eachother but after only two months we wanted eachother back...BAD...He had me over and let me know he wanted to be with me and give me the life I deserved...I want to get married and start a family...Things were great...The only thing after only a couple months back he changed his mind on the whole give me what I deserve part...Okay now fast foward to now... Still no marriage but we are good and happy, I say I am ready for a baby, okay not a bad idea so we are not very careful in not getting pregnant, no pregnancy, only one month later now he changed his mind about kids thinks they will make his life to hard and does not beleive in marriage. So fine we love eachother are happy but he thinks he missed out on something by spending the last eleven years with me, I know we have missed out on a lot we are both funloving attractive people who people like to be around but I also am happy with who I am and am ready to move on to the next stage in my life i.e Wife and Mother. So he won't leave me but won't move on with me...So I know I have to move on with myself I will be 26 soon and don't want to keep going back and forth with him.. The problem how do you move on from someone you love and want to be with.. I know if I stay I will always resent him, we both deserve to be happy and live life how we want to not how someone else wants us to.. So any advise on how to make the transition easier would be helpful..
halfarock Posted September 17, 2007 Posted September 17, 2007 It seems that around your age, mid to late 20’s, that most women tend to mature beyond men of the same age. That the woman is ready to settle down, have a family, while the man is still into being young and free, it is a common conflict. You came of age with him and I’m sure it would be a wonderful story if you could live happily ever after, but people change, its just the way it is. If he isn’t willing to share your dream then maybe it is time to move on. If he’s all you’ve ever known then it’ll probably be a leap into the unknown but you have to do what’s best for you.
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