5 Days NC/ He called

[angie16]

Hey Guys,

My long story is all around this board.

 

So after my best friend got engaged last week, i realized i can't have any interaction with my ex. As happy for her and sad as i was for myself when she told me the news, it actually helped. Her boyfriend WANTED to marry her. She gave him a time frame for engagement (they had been going out 3 years, she gave him 10 months to propose or she was leaving) and he ACCEPTED that civilly and proposed 6 MONTHS before the cut off date.

 

So seeing and hearing that gave me new found inspiration to move on with my life. Its been 5 days NC (a new world record for me) and he called my work just now. I dont have caller ID, and its work, so of course I answered.

"Hey... i just wanted to say hi, and tell you that you got some more mail in. Can I meet you after work and give it to you?"

 

WHAT DO I DO? He said that one was an expense check from work (which i need), UGH.

I played it cool and said thanks for looking out but my sched is kinda busy but i wasn't sure and would let him know by the end of the day.

 

DO I MEET HIM? I have been really feeling better (only 2 boughts of missing him this weekend, both brief). But i still love him dearly. I am torn.

I guess i am torn between since all my addys are changed now this would be the last contact and the other scary thing that he would want to talk about the relationship which just freaks me out because of course at this point i miss him (even though i have promised myself i would never get back together with him unless he was ready to marry me ). And what if he's happy without me and he just wants to be nice and give me the mail?

UGH. THIS SUCKS.

[curiousnycgirl]

Can you just schedule a "drive by?" Meaning you tell him you will meet him at X place/corner at X time for a quick hand off but you are too busy for a real get together.

 

Clearly you need the check, so no reason to wait, however no reason to prolong the pain either.

[angie16]

Yes i know its possible just to do that, i am just nervous/sad/angry all at once.

I am really mad that i have to start NC tomorrow at day 1 ( i was really doing well) and i guess the realization that this could be really the last time we meet.

 

I have gone to the gym every day, got new clothes, a make over, and even got a promotion all in 3 WEEKS since he told me "we had problems that he didn't have the energy to work on anymore, and that he didnt know if he wanted to marry me" (after 1 and a half years of talking about marrying me and our children and growing old together).

 

Last night i was reviewing our texts from our last argument 9 days ago and i reazlied that he really thinks I BROKE UP WITH HIM. That he just "cut the cord" but i was the one that was unhappy with him and watned to leave.

 

Now he wants to meet to give me my mail (even though when we broke up i told him to mail it to my office).

I am just really freaked out. I want to move on, but i still miss and love him dearly. By meeting him either I'm setting myself up for a converstaion I'm not ready to have (about getting back together) WISHFULL BAD THINKING, or he's just going to be content to let me go which will re-open that scab of pain from the end of the realtionship.

 

ARRGHGHHGGHHG

[niceguy27]

Hey dont worry. I broke NC too. And now back to square one today. I finally blocked her number so if she wants to talk its on her now. I feel the same. I miss her dearly. Just a month ago we were at a wedding and danced and looked in each others eyes and said we cant wait till our day comes. Now...Nothing.

 

Look at today as something NEW! Say to yourself TODAY is the day I make an effort to be HAPPY! We've all tried in the weeks following a breakup to do all the emotional stuff to try to make things work out. After YOU know you tried everything, put a foot down and try something new. Thats what Im doing. Ive let everything out and now its time I start looking forward to tommorrow instead of dreading it.

[2sunny]

have a friend or family member pick up the mail for you....