Fancee Posted October 11, 2007 Posted October 11, 2007 What rock did you crawl out from under? Are you sick? Why are you telling me to support a leg spreading to pay rent good for nothing slut?? She is sleeping with her manager who is a 39yrold divorcee with no kids and she is 21 and almost 6 months preg. Anyways.. What do you guys think my chances of hooking up with Stefanie are? :-) she is only like 3 hours from me. I hate to say this but maybe destiny has brought me and her to a meeting place?? if you wanna view my pics and myspace it's http://www.myspace.com/bradbennett1 Stef if you are reading this then i'm not really the one typing it. I'm having an out of body experience... plus i think u'r beautiful (my out of body self talking) Whatever you decide you will be alright. I will checkout your myspace page.
woodsfield Posted October 11, 2007 Posted October 11, 2007 find out if the kid is yours...if not, run....run like the wind. if the kid is yours, you gotta do what you gotta do. you need to have a relationship with her only due to the child you have. i would steer clear from this one if at possible. this is not a stable woman and i'd be willing to bet the kid ain't yours. sorry for your troubles, man. i wish you, her and the kid the best.
Author peachfuzz Posted October 11, 2007 Author Posted October 11, 2007 find out if the kid is yours...if not, run....run like the wind. if the kid is yours, you gotta do what you gotta do. you need to have a relationship with her only due to the child you have. i would steer clear from this one if at possible. this is not a stable woman and i'd be willing to bet the kid ain't yours. sorry for your troubles, man. i wish you, her and the kid the best. I hope to God you dont make pabst blue ribbon a habbit. You will die quicker than the marlboro man did.. lol. Thanks for your input. I love this site it is like the best ever. I have been bitten by the love bug with another ms's. Dont want to disclose any names or how we met but.. ok hell with it. i met her online playing xbox. We share same personalities and seem to like each other. I do believe in fate and will never loose faith. God only knows how much turmoil i have been in since this has happened. Being alone sucks of course but attach that with not knowing if you are the father of a (excuse me plzz) basterd child really digs at ya and breaks you down and kills ur confidence as a person. I appreciate everyones feedback on my situation and i'm hoping and praying for a happy ending cause i still have faith and hope. If I were to loose those 2 things then all i'm left with is fear. Fear itself scares me cause once you loose faith all you have is fear and you guys have helped me to keep faith and keep me with a positive attitude in order to keep hopeful. I wish there was a way i could donate to this site (if i could afford it) and make this more broadcasted for help with people in bad situations!! I'm on a high right now cause i'm interested with someone else but yet the past is real. The past of not knowing if i'll be a father of this child is still there to haunt me. I dont want to part with you guys and I want to stay in touch and keep this post lively. I have learned some things from heartache and pain and would like to help anyone else who might need help. I'm hoping for a happy ending with my case but i still have 5 months left to linger. Love all you guys and hope is well with everyone. You are down to earth type people (members) that I want to stay friends with. Thanks for all. -Brad Bennett Greenville, SC
Author peachfuzz Posted October 11, 2007 Author Posted October 11, 2007 Whatever you decide you will be alright. I will checkout your myspace page. it's http://myspace.com/bradbennett1 If you would like my number i dont mind texting but that's if you have a good texting plan... i have unlimited through sprint and verizon send me a pm and i'll give you the numbers. I'm a cell buff used to work tech support for verizon wireless. Hahah. Truth me known if you have a prob with you cell phone you could always ask me and i could avoid you waiting on hold for 15 minutes... -Brad Bennett Greenville,sc
Fancee Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 Hello Brad, You need to go to your myspace page. I am with sprint. I didn't know how men be so exicited waiting on the baby(its a good thing). We just take our time eating and sleeping and having patience. We don't get impatient until the last month or two. I'm sorry about your job. This is where game plan is most crucial. She is telling you its the security. Nothing to do with the older guy as for as her feelings. Most younger women want men their own ages. Most older women want younger men. You need to find another job or 2 jobs. One for your bills and one for your baby. Don't you dare talk of taking the baby as long as you THINK you want that woman. Always say you want her and the baby to be happy together. Otherwise you are treating her just like the spider did little miss muffet. It will all workout and do try to contact her say how are you, be nice and complimenting. No demands, no stress. Because she is already crazy not at herself with those pregnacy hormones.
Author peachfuzz Posted October 16, 2007 Author Posted October 16, 2007 Hello Brad, You need to go to your myspace page. I am with sprint. I didn't know how men be so exicited waiting on the baby(its a good thing). We just take our time eating and sleeping and having patience. We don't get impatient until the last month or two. I'm sorry about your job. This is where game plan is most crucial. She is telling you its the security. Nothing to do with the older guy as for as her feelings. Most younger women want men their own ages. Most older women want younger men. You need to find another job or 2 jobs. One for your bills and one for your baby. Don't you dare talk of taking the baby as long as you THINK you want that woman. Always say you want her and the baby to be happy together. Otherwise you are treating her just like the spider did little miss muffet. It will all workout and do try to contact her say how are you, be nice and complimenting. No demands, no stress. Because she is already crazy not at herself with those pregnacy hormones. I now believe I dont want to be this girl anymore. I think I have finally hit my realization that they are good people out there along with bad people who just look our for themselves not caring who they hurt but just in what they can gain out of a relationship. i.e. $$$$ Clothes and Material things. I have recently met someone while playing the xbox that likes to play games and likes to do a lot of the same things that I find myself liking. I am more emotionally attracted to her than i am phsycially for now because I have not met her i person. Bad thing is that she lives 5 hours away from me and has a well established family and friend environment as that of mine and it's hard for us to come to a common meeting ground. I have a lot of things going on with me right now bt God as my witness I know Leah is not right for me. She is a gold digging whore who thinks about herself and got put in an awkward position when she got pregnant cause she had no plans of that. I have someone that i believe will accept me even though all the things i have gotten myself envolved with. Should I persue this relationship ? How do I really know my feelings and what to do? Of course I'm a guy and guys like sex but how do i know if I won't end up in a dead end relationship due to difficulties envolving by ties to a possible child from a whore? I really do like this girl alot. She makes me happy when i talk to her and the freaky things i dream of talking about she is down for as well.. it is simply amazing!! Guys.. respond please.. thanks!!
Chrome Barracuda Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 Great!!! The last question is the baby, You need to answer that question if only for your own sanity and your peace of mind. Good luck to you peachfuzz, Be safe and know thyself.
Trimmer Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 I have a lot of things going on with me right now bt God as my witness I know Leah is not right for me. She is a gold digging whore who thinks about herself and got put in an awkward position when she got pregnant cause she had no plans of that.... ...but how do i know if I won't end up in a dead end relationship due to difficulties envolving by ties to a possible child from a whore? Guys.. respond please.. thanks!! Brad, I'm a guy and a divorced father, and I will respond here. I know you are just calling it like you see it, but you need to understand that if you are going to step up to your role as a father, you are probably not going to be "taking" this child from its mother - you may get some kind of shared custody or visitation, but whatever happens, you will be connected to her by this child you have created together for the rest of its life. This child isn't an accessory that you will be able to just carry around with you, it will be a huge responsibility that you will have to rise up and meet, and part of that will be acting in the best interest of this child, both in its physical health and in its mental and emotional development. I believe a child has the best shot at a good life and healthy development if it is cared for and creates strong bonds with both its parents. I wouldn't dream of "taking" them from her - not that I could - as it would be devastating to them, at any stage of their lives. Parents don't always remain together (as in my case, too) but for my own kids, whatever I feel about their mother as a spouse is separate, and I don't let that affect my dealings with her or my support of her as their mother. So my strong suggestion to you is that right now, even if you decide you are not going to persue any kind of relationship with her, you need to start thinking of her as your child's mother, and thinking in ways that are at least civil - and I hope supportive - in that role as a new mother. Again, I understand that you are working out some strong feelings, but you are stepping into a role of big responsibility here - you will need to work past calling her a "whore." If you could go on and live your life without the child involved, I wouldn't say another word, but from one father to another, you'd better buck up and get that shiat under control, because I don't want to think of you talking, or acting, that kind of stuff in front of your child, now or in the future. Being a father isn't something you do just for the heck of it - if you're really going to commit to this, then you are also committing to having some kind of relationship - as a parent - with the mother, and for the good of the child, you'd better step up and be an adult (and we hope she will, too,) and do your level best at getting it right for your child. P.S. I still highly recommend a lawyer visit and plan for a paternity test. If it's not yours, then whoever is the father needs to step up.
Fancee Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 This is very true, good and bad ppl are out here. You say she is not for you and God is your witness. If you follow God you will not error. A very wise move- to try and move on. By all means necessary! Explore the universe! Pursuit of happiness is in the right directions. Its sounds like you are off to a great start. The feelings sound mutual. Lastly, but not least, You have made a conscious decision and so this new girl is not just fate. Its your choice. In other words destiny is not always left up to chance. Ck your myspace mail.
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