i cheated, and told the truth, broke up with me..., what now

[HairMetalChik]

..ok im stuck in a very very bad situation right now, and i need some help or something, a couple months ago almost a year ago i cheated on my bf i have been with for 2 years 6 times. and after he left to go back to his home in mass. i started getting feelings of guilt and hurt really bad for what i did. a month went by and i got baptized and began praying about it and stuff, the guilt went away and i was happy again, well it started to come back and i couldnt take it so i had to tell him, i felt it was the right and fair thing to do, he called me a bunch of names and stuff, told me he never wanted tot talk to me again and that was that, i emailed him and he emailed me back telling me that he still feels like we could work things out sometime, but not now, maybe in a few years. and i dunno maybe i shouldnt of told him but ever since i did i still feel guilty and i dont know why, like i should tell him something else,im just soo upset and lost and dont know what i should do anymore...has anyone ever been through this before??? maybe worse??? please help me, atleast i told the truth:(

[Cobra_X30]

You did the right thing!

 

Now that you told him you can heal and move on... if he doesnt come back. You feel guilty because you did something wrong... you hurt someone you cared for. You hid it for some time, so it goes to figure that it will take a similar amount of time reset.

 

Try to just learn from this. You made a mistake, dont make it a pattern!

[LakesideDream]

Cobra's correct. You like did the crime, now you gotta do the time or something. It's like cool and everything that you like got with Jesus, and he forgave you and stuff, people are differnt though.

 

Your ex-boyfriend says give it a few years, so give it a few years. Remember too, good Christians don't cheat on their SO's... in fact good Christians aren't supposed to have sex with people they aren't married too.

 

You can look that up in your Bible under "fornication", and "adultery".

 

Which makes me wonder how thousands of priests over the years have raped and molested children in their care and been protected by their superiors and the Vatican... but that's another thread.

[zilverenvlinder]

Jesus forgives. People don't.

 

Sorry.

[DazedandConfused66]

Jesus forgives, but he doesn't make the consequences for your actions disappear.

 

Want proof?

 

The thief on the cross beside him in the Biblical account of the crucifixion...remember how the thief asked for forgiveness.

 

"Today you will join me in paradise," was Jesus' answer......

 

...but he didn't take the thief down from the cross, now did he? The thief died a long, slow, agonizing painful death.

 

You are dealing with the consequences of your actions. You may or may not have lost someone you wanted very much to have in your life. Forgiveness from him may come or may not. But you still have deal with the consequences.

 

Good luck...and you did the right thing given your religious convictions. I'm not Christian but I know what they are supposed to stand for and against. Honesty is a great policy no matter what your religious beliefs.