Montecito_Cole Posted September 16, 2007 Posted September 16, 2007 I am 29 and have been dating a 24 year old co-worker for a year now. We have been really close and had what I would consider to be a happy healthy relationship for the most part. About a month ago we started fighting a lot. I am not even really sure what went wrong, but I think it began to unravel because I didn't trust her enough. I have had some abandonment issues in the past and her ex-bf was constantly calling her. I am almost certain that because she is just one of those people who is "too nice", she just was trying to be friends with someone she cared about even though she never hung out with him to my knowledge. Finally I put the foot down and said if he wants to still be a part of her life then she should introduce him to me instead of pretending I don't exist for his sake. She actually agreed and did it. And he of couse had no interest in meeting me. Then we were in Las Vegas with friends and got separated one night, and I basically got stranded alone & her phone was not getting a signal. I had taken a $20 cab ride to the hotel and couldn't reach her...so I started calling her friends phone, and being drunk and frustrated, probably called it 10-12 times before giving up and returning home. Obviously this was not a good thing to do, and we had a huge fight. Then a week later, she pissed me off at work by being rude for no reason. So I was so angry I purposely did the thing she hated the most----pushing her. I emailed & called her phone constantly knowing full well she was on a conference call, just because I was angry. Later that day she broke up with me. But since then she has told me she loves me every day, made out with me a few times, and told me that she needs space, and when she is ready she is pretty sure she wants to give me another chance. I just have no patience and am hurting really badly, and I have called her every day since. I can tell she feels bad because she knows I am hurting, but obviously I am not giving her what she wants. How can I stop getting in my own way & get her back? It is so hard to sit here and take no action.....I have absolutely no patience!! Also, I see her every day at work in an office environment! This really blows and I have nobody but myself to blame.
Author Montecito_Cole Posted September 17, 2007 Author Posted September 17, 2007 Can anyone give me any advice on this situation? Since my initial post, we had another conversation today. She made out with me again, told me she loved me, but she says she needs 3 to 4 months to figure out things in her own life and wants me to work on my issues during the same time. Again, we work together and see each other every day. She said she is commited to us and does not want either or us to see other people. Is this worth waiting for? She is a great girl and I love her a lot, but I know if 3 months goes by and anything happens other than us resuming dating, I will be devastated all over again.
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