katty774 Posted September 16, 2007 Posted September 16, 2007 I know I am feeling sorry for myself and I need a big kick in the rear, but I can't stop feeling so sad. I am scared for the first time in my life that I am going to grow old and alone. I just can't ever seem to get it right. I always seem to get involved with men who eventually cheat on me or treat me like I'm not even there. I know it has to be me because it can't be everyone else's fault. I have just hid myself from the world the past few days because my eyes have been swollen shut. I get so tired of my friends telling me how I can have anyone I want because I obviously can't have anyone. I am a good person. I am in great shape for my age, which reminds me I am feeling really old right now. I am 39 and all alone. I usually try to have a great attitude and have a pretty good personality and when I date someone I really try hard to be a good girlfriend,. I am having a really rotten day and I keep dwelling on how everyone I have dated have went on to marry or knock up the next girl they date. I don't want to be knocked up but just once I would like to be the one that they wanted to marry rather than the one they cheated on. OK I know I am a big sorry sap right now but I am just feeling so very low.
Montecito_Cole Posted September 16, 2007 Posted September 16, 2007 Without too much info, I would maybe try and look for some guys with different values than the one you are dating. Maybe the ones you are attracted to are not the ones who are going to gives you the things you want. Maybe reassessing your priorities in a relationship can help guide you towards a little bit different type of partner, one who might make you happier.
Double D Posted September 16, 2007 Posted September 16, 2007 If it helps my life isnt great at the moment neither and I constantly feel sad. Im working on it day by day and continue to. We all have bad days but the sun will rise tomorrow and god willing so will we
Curious139 Posted September 16, 2007 Posted September 16, 2007 Katty - at 39 you are just a girl. There are plenty of good men out there who would love to know you. I don't know if this helps but many women look for men who remind them of their fathers. They then try to make changes in the men to fix whatever wasn't quite right with dad. So if a father was a gambler or abusive, instead of steering away from such types, many women are drawn to the same flawed characters. This explains why some lovely women seem to end up with such losers. Now this is not true of every woman and may be irrelevant to you but it can be a helpful insight in some situations. You need to look for different qualities in the men you are attracted to.
rockinbeyondrepair Posted September 16, 2007 Posted September 16, 2007 awww, babe don't get upset, there's something like 99999999 trillion blokes on this planet and the worst thing you can possibly do is shut yourself away.would you rather have a choice of 99999999 trillion blokes or one tosser and a pair of screaming brats. keep at it and may the force be with you!!!
Author katty774 Posted September 17, 2007 Author Posted September 17, 2007 I appreciate all that posted back to me. I am trying to feel better but I am just having a hard time of it right now. I just have had a lot of bad news this month and it is all getting to me. Just wanted to say thanks to everyone. I couldn't survive without all of you wonderful people on this board.
KunFuZed Posted September 17, 2007 Posted September 17, 2007 I know your older than me but I feel like I'm in the same boat as you. I'm 23 and I feel like I'm not even looking for Mr Right. I sit back and let the guys come to me and they are all wrong and if I go get them my self they are still wrong. So I don't know how to go about this myself. I saw one post that said most women look for men that are like their fathers. I didn't know my father so I guess I don't know what I'm looking for. I'm doomed too :-(
Green Posted September 17, 2007 Posted September 17, 2007 yes girls who dont know there fathers have it the worst. As for me im a 23 year old man wow life has never been better ... but I do have my off days and on one of these days I just say uve still got it""""
Chrome Barracuda Posted September 17, 2007 Posted September 17, 2007 Yeah me and my father was never tight. I just adhere to principals of right and wrong. truth or lies. I work on making myself feel better. I also have that problem finding good women who are gonna make me feel like im wanted and needed and give me a feeling of contentment. But there's alot of feeling knowing that certain things comes from within. Your near 40 it's not the end of the world. There's alot of good men out here for you to date. Go to lavalife or something. I've had no shortage of women, lucky me i guess. The problem with them and the relationships I entertain is trust. Alot of the women dont trust me. lol. I dont know why maybe they sense im a playa. lol. And kids you can always adopt, look at maddonna or angelina jolie. Good luck to you.
Author katty774 Posted September 18, 2007 Author Posted September 18, 2007 OK I am feeling a little better today. The shock of the lying and deceitfulness have subsided and I feel somewhat better. I really appreciate everyone's support during my little pity party. I couldn't handle too many days like Sat and Sun because I was a freakin mess. Now I am just pissed off. I know I will never get the chance to actually tell Adam how upset I am and that is fine. I just keeping thinking how when we were dating he probably was screwing around on me. I feel sorry for the new gf because it is still early in the relationship and he is already screwing around on her. It makes me sick. I can't believe I was a participate in his cheating. Well just wanted to let you all know that I am feeling a little better. Thanks to everyone who posted to me. Your help, advice, encouragement really helped me thru a hard couple of days. Let me know if I can ever return the favor.
Green Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 chrome looks like our work is done here, GO TEAM VENTURE!
Chrome Barracuda Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 chrome looks like our work is done here, GO TEAM VENTURE! LMAO!!!! That's my show!!!
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