macca_tony Posted September 16, 2007 Posted September 16, 2007 Hi, i have been wit my gf 18months and i found out on saturday she went clubbin and her ex bf who was with for 1month kissed her and she said omg i got a bf,, do it again and then i found out she likes him and he likes her and they met up yesterday and they kissed again its her best mate who wants them 2gether and trys setin them up bcoz she dislikes me, i found out all this by readin thru her work emails, i confronted her about this she cried sayin shes sorry and shes confused she says she loves me and dnt want to hurt me but she likes him as well and she dno wot 2 do be with me or split up and b with him and her best mate all the time, she also said to me she loves me but aint in love with me i think she mite be just bored and she said she wants to try new things her best friend trys her hardest to split us up, thing is we get on so good 2gether n act so lovey towards one and other thats why my heads messing up she said she only cheated on me because i always accuse her witch is true im very insecure i think ever since i loved her proper im just scared of losing her please help me what shall i do help me my heads goin insane lol
Ocean-Blue Posted September 16, 2007 Posted September 16, 2007 From what I read, the following are things might want to think about. 1. Stop caring about what the best friend thinks - this is your relationship, no one else should be allowed to have a say in what goes on - set boundaries with your gf (tell her that what her mate thinks should not factor into your relationship). If your gf doesn't like this, then perhaps you need to ask yourself if you really want to be with a girl who can't think for herself. 2. Did your gf have any qualms over you reading her work emails? No conflict over the potential invasion of privacy? This may be something you need to talk to her about (even if she hasn't outright said it, she may be upset about this). 3. The fact that she came out and told you that she's not in love with you is a cause for great concern. Take it from me, if she's not in love with you, this may not be worth your time. You are likely to get burned in the end. Ask her what she means by this. Find out if this can change (and for some people it can). However, realize that you may have to move on from this relationship (as painful as it may be, you may have to cut your losses and move on). You'll eventually find someone who wants to be with you and is in love with you - with no confusion. 4. The insecurity thing may be the cause of the issues in the above three points. I know it's easier said than done...but you need to get over this! An insecure guy is a big turn off (at least for most of the women I know). This leads to many problems (not trusting the partner, self doubt, paranoia, etc). Deal with it now!!! This is a personal issue (not just one that affects your relationships). I wish you the best!
Chrome Barracuda Posted September 16, 2007 Posted September 16, 2007 dump the bitch, The friend is toxic and trust me if a woman can't form their own opinion's about who they date and form they're own opinion about it. They're weak minded too easily preyed upon for manipulation. Do you want a chick who's easily manipulated? Or do you want one who's gonna have your back, no matter who from her past hops into the picture? Dump her, Dump her stupid hater friend, and move on. Trust me all those things she's saying is the thing's cheaters say to get out of the relationship because theyre cowards. Cowards who cant do a real commitment. She sounds immature as well. "I like it, I got a boyfriend, do it again." Oh please! dump her!!! She isnt worth the pain!
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