pandagirl Posted September 16, 2007 Posted September 16, 2007 as evident from the subject line... i tend to do this. not on purpose though! latest situation: a guy i've have a crush on for awhile kisses me, and i pull away saying: "sorry, i don't want to miss this taxi." then i flee into the car thinking WHY THE HELL DID I DO THAT? i just got flustered! so, i try to remedy the situation by emailing him the following monday, saying we should hang out, had a good time, et al. he writes back saying, essentially, "ditto" but he was leaving for a three week trip, so we'd talk when he got back. now, i know from friends he is back from him trip. i am apt to wait for him to call, but is that old-fashioned and even more self-sabotaging? help? : )
shadowplay Posted September 16, 2007 Posted September 16, 2007 Well how long has he been back? I'd give him at least a few days. Then if you don't hear from him in like a week, give him a call. If he never returns it, you know he's not interested. There are many reasons you might be sabotaging things. The most likely one is you're scared of getting hurt. If you sabotage the relationship you can always point to that as an excuse instead of dealing with the scarier option that you gave it your best and you weren't good enough for him.
Author pandagirl Posted September 16, 2007 Author Posted September 16, 2007 you are very astute in your observations! he's been back for a week, but was out of the country for a month. you're right, no pain, no gain. i should just call him.
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