jr1012jr Posted September 15, 2007 Posted September 15, 2007 I have been in my relationship for 8 years and my girlfriend has become very dependent on me. We are in LA, but originally from another city. She moved down here 4 years ago for me; she's never been a "career-minded" woman. A few years ago I knew I wanted out and had an affair. And then my girlfriend's mother died, shockingly. She has not recovered from this event to this date and in fights blamed me for "taking her away" from her family. Much of the anger was focused on me for losing a family member, but it was a heart attack out of nowhere. She doesn't have any friends here in LA and has gone through job after job without success. There really isn't much of a support system for her beyond an inheritasnce. She awaits my return every night and even if i'm 10 minutes late, she freaks out. So now i really am trying to find a way out of this. We have an apartment in both our names and she has never been that responsible. I have immense guilt over this decision i'm trying to make, but feel it what i have to do not only for my personal happiness but also to help further my career goals.
MystifiedByMen Posted September 15, 2007 Posted September 15, 2007 I think you need to do what's best for you. The longer you stay, the harder it will be for her to heal. She is also wrong to blame you for lost family time. It was her choice to move there knowing she wouldn't be close to her family. Good luck!
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