kepners Posted September 15, 2007 Posted September 15, 2007 I fancy a woman at my work and we flirt. I just cant get her out of my head you know. shes 26 and shes been with her bf since she was 17... i havent met a woman i have wanted as much as i want her. I dont know what to do. I cant take my eyes off her. she so attractive and smart and presents her self perfectly. i just want to scoop her up. well we flirt etc, i just really want to say i want her so much and she on my mind so much. i have fancied her for months... i feel like i am coming to melt down. i have never fancied a woman at work before and i honestly dont know what the rule of enguagement are. i havent even flirt with a woman at work before, so this is a strange new world to me. any advise?
KenzieAbsolutely Posted September 15, 2007 Posted September 15, 2007 yes. leave her alone. she's in a relationship.
Author kepners Posted September 15, 2007 Author Posted September 15, 2007 yeah?! simple as that thank you. she flirts to, so i wont leave her alone, because i like her.
frannie Posted September 15, 2007 Posted September 15, 2007 She's 26, and how old are you, just out of interest...
whichwayisup Posted September 15, 2007 Posted September 15, 2007 I think you're setting yourself up for a big fall. She doesn't love you. Her flirting and having some fun doesn't mean she's going to dump her boyfriend for you. This crush aka deep feelings you have for her is just going to prevent you from finding a single woman. I know you like her and want her, but keep in mind not only does she have a boyfriend, MANY people that she works with ALSO knows she's in a relationship, so she more than likely isn't going to ruin her reputation by fooling around with a co-worker, (you) and also cheat on her boyfriend.
directx Posted September 15, 2007 Posted September 15, 2007 Hey, she is not married. It's open season on her. Get a plan together and go for something. Start working out. Get buff. And get a girlfriend, seriously. Or someone you can date often. Make she knows about it. She won't be jealous, but you will appear more valuable. Then you can discuss advice that you might need with the relationship. This should open the door so you can go fishing for information on her BF that is on the negative side. When you find something negative on him, exploit it. Also, joke around about going out for lunch/ice cream/coffee, whatever. Maybe she'll agree to go sometime.
Road Rage Posted September 15, 2007 Posted September 15, 2007 kepners For God`s sake don`t listen to what these people are telling you. All is fair in love and war. You want her, she`s been with this guy since she was 17 and is now 26. She is ready for a walk on the wild side. Give it all you got but you gotta remember the work place is no place to f*ck around. I`m telling you DON`T miss this one!!! One day you will be old like me and regret it most deeply if you don`t give it your all.
Je Ne Regrette Rien Posted September 16, 2007 Posted September 16, 2007 She is 26. if you dont mind me asking, how old are you? When I was younger, I met my second long term boyfriend after he pursued me (very gently with flirtation). I was in a R with my boyfriend since I was 19 and I was 25 when I met him. I dont think things are impossible... However, how much do you know about her? Do you think she might be interested? Are you interested in her for a R (honestly) or for a fling? Is it worth her jeoparidising one relationship for you - are your feelings so deep?
Author kepners Posted September 16, 2007 Author Posted September 16, 2007 i am 32 and emma is 36 i want her so much. i just dont know how you flirt with someone at work. i mean what are the rules of this. i would do anything to get emma. shes arty , smart , funny , quite , dresses so well , drives on and on i could go about emma, i want to spend time with her everything.
whichwayisup Posted September 16, 2007 Posted September 16, 2007 Is she 26 or 36? If she is 36 and been with her boyfriend since she was 17 years old, honestly, I would move on and forget her. Even if she is 26 years old and been with him since she was 17, I wouldn't bother. Now, if she breaks up with him at some point, then ask her out, but until then - She has a boyfriend. DO you think she feels the same way as you? Has she spoken about any feelings she has for you?
Art_Critic Posted September 16, 2007 Posted September 16, 2007 Ask her out for a drink after work... If she turns you down then you have your answer and you can move on.. If she meets you for the drink then you have your answer also.. Don't play flirty games with with her.. it will only make you want her more and if she is in a relationship that she is happy with then you would lose big time.. Ask her out... but remember the ole rule of thumb about not shi%%ing where you eat..
johan Posted September 16, 2007 Posted September 16, 2007 Go ahead and try to make things happen with her if you want. Having been in your shoes, I know a few things: 1) Messing around with another guy's woman is low behavior. Having been there, I can say that it's something I'm ashamed of. I permitted myself to do it, because it was exciting at the time and I was hoping for something more. In hindsight I saw it all more clearly, and it was a bad idea in pretty much every way. 2) Women who are taken develop "side" relationships with guys who they probably wouldn't get involved with otherwise. Part of the intensity and chemistry you feel is thanks at least in part to the guy she has at home. Without him in the picture, you'll be dealing with a different girl altogether. This didn't happen to me, because I ended up getting turned off by the whole rotten thing. But I've seen it happen a lot. 3) Be prepared to change jobs.
Meaplus3 Posted September 16, 2007 Posted September 16, 2007 I fancy a woman at my work and we flirt. I just cant get her out of my head you know. shes 26 and shes been with her bf since she was 17... i havent met a woman i have wanted as much as i want her. I dont know what to do. I cant take my eyes off her. she so attractive and smart and presents her self perfectly. i just want to scoop her up. well we flirt etc, i just really want to say i want her so much and she on my mind so much. i have fancied her for months... i feel like i am coming to melt down. i have never fancied a woman at work before and i honestly dont know what the rule of enguagement are. i havent even flirt with a woman at work before, so this is a strange new world to me. any advise? Kepners, NOT good! She's just having some fun with you by flirting back. Leave it at that and move on. Flirting IMO is the gateway to a Relationship and in the work force with a woman who has a BF, NOT a good idea! Forget her and look for someone who's not involved with another it will save you a load of C*** in the long run! AP:)
blowingthetrout Posted September 16, 2007 Posted September 16, 2007 I think you're setting yourself up for a big fall. She doesn't love you. Her flirting and having some fun doesn't mean she's going to dump her boyfriend for you. This crush aka deep feelings you have for her is just going to prevent you from finding a single woman. I know you like her and want her, but keep in mind not only does she have a boyfriend, MANY people that she works with ALSO knows she's in a relationship, so she more than likely isn't going to ruin her reputation by fooling around with a co-worker, (you) and also cheat on her boyfriend. when are you going to say "seek counseling" or maybe "think about seeing a counselor" your tired sweet cakes get some rest :zorro:
LucreziaBorgia Posted September 16, 2007 Posted September 16, 2007 Ah, the workplace romance. How delightful it is to know that you get paid to be around the one you desire. How utterly sh*teous it is to have to come to work every day and be around that person when it ends. Boyfriend or no, workplace romance is generally a bad idea, unless you are working in such a way that you don't have much interaction throughout the day. Are you two in separate departments? Is either of you in a supervisory position over the other? What is the policy at your workplace on fraternizing?
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