Andy11 Posted September 15, 2007 Posted September 15, 2007 Well, i wont go into detail about my breakup but here is the short version. We had met about 3 years ago and we got pretty serious. Things were pretty good initially but her true colors came out. She would be very demanding, stubborn, get angry for stupid reasons. Always insisting her way was the right way, get mad when i wouldnt call her on time, always blaming me for problems, raising her voice for no reason, lying to me. Well a point came where i couldnt take it anymore. I will not tolerate anything like that and I know i deserve much better. I put my foot down and ended things after numerous attempts to reconcile stuff with her. She wouldnt listen to me and always thought her way was the right way. No more! My point in telling my story is not for you people to feel sorry for me, but rather give hope to those feeling pain and suffering from a recent breakup. I cant tell you how light and relieved i feel. No one deserves to feel miserable everyday. A relationship is suppossed to make both people feel alive, hopeful, happy, warm, love....all good things. Not wondering whether the other person really cares for you. So with that being said....all those who are in pain now. You will get past it. Believe me you will. I feel so empowered you cant imagine. You can do the same. Meantime.....do the no contact thing (absolute must inorder to heal) and keep busy, dont feel sorry for yourself. Go out with friends......heal yourself. Go to the gym.....talk to friends. Bottomline is feel good about yourselves and be positive. Someone will come along again. You are worth it and you deserve better. Good luck to all and God bless!!!
Mitch R. Posted September 15, 2007 Posted September 15, 2007 I was in your same boat and did the same thing, enough is enough. For the past couple weeks I've been grieving the relationship as it was great before the true colors came out. You are right, I'm getting out there and meeting new women. Things do get better but I know I had to go through the dark pain to come out into the brightness. I too would assert what I was feeling and what I wasn't going to take. I've learned quite a bit about some things I need to improve on out of this relationship and in no way do I consider it "wasted time", as a matter of fact, I wish her the very best. Starting a couple days ago, my appetite returned and my whole attitude/outlook on life has changed. I can choose to sit on the bench or get back in the game, and I've chosen the latter. It's always darkest before the dawn Thanks for sharing . . .
katie82 Posted September 15, 2007 Posted September 15, 2007 congratulations! i remember when i broke up with my ex about 3 years ago, i felt SO relieved. the fact that i felt less pain after breaking up than i did during the relationship was a sign that i did the right thing. dont get me wrong, i still got sad and depressed, but it was no where near the depression i felt DURING our relationship. do you guys feel that way too? its a nice feeling, huh? congrats on a new chapter in your lives
Mitch R. Posted September 15, 2007 Posted September 15, 2007 Katie - Let's put it this way: Someone told me after we broke up that they thought I was using drugs when I was dating her because I looked so depressed towards the end. But yes, I agree with you 100%. I went through the grieving and now I feel great. I also chose action rather than sitting around thinking about it!
Author Andy11 Posted September 15, 2007 Author Posted September 15, 2007 congratulations! i remember when i broke up with my ex about 3 years ago, i felt SO relieved. the fact that i felt less pain after breaking up than i did during the relationship was a sign that i did the right thing. dont get me wrong, i still got sad and depressed, but it was no where near the depression i felt DURING our relationship. do you guys feel that way too? its a nice feeling, huh? congrats on a new chapter in your lives I initially felt depressed (already suffer from panic attacks to begin with), but slowly you get over it and you figure out that you did the right thing. Its very normal to feel sad. I have a question for you folks. Where can i go to meet a girl that fits my personality? Someone who is easy going but honest, devoted, sensitive..all the nice traits. Anyone try online services like E-harmony or anything like that? Thanks!
Mitch R. Posted September 15, 2007 Posted September 15, 2007 Not sure what you like to do, but you might meet someone just by being out and about. When I was grieving, I had a tendency to isolate but still reach out to family and friends to talk about how I was feeling. I've met a couple gals just being out and about in my normal routine. It's amazing how different things look when you have a good attitude. If you like the online dating scene, you could always start with something like the Yahoo! Personals.
Author Andy11 Posted September 15, 2007 Author Posted September 15, 2007 Not sure what you like to do, but you might meet someone just by being out and about. When I was grieving, I had a tendency to isolate but still reach out to family and friends to talk about how I was feeling. I've met a couple gals just being out and about in my normal routine. It's amazing how different things look when you have a good attitude. If you like the online dating scene, you could always start with something like the Yahoo! Personals. Thanks for your replies. I am going to keep my options open as far as dating goes. But my priority right now is to heal myself and figure things out. There is so much i want to do that i feel so free. I need to build up my confidence back to where it was initially. Amazing how much someone can pull you down. I know i did the right thing.
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