iFinix Posted September 15, 2007 Posted September 15, 2007 Why can't I decide for myself whether I like this girl or not? When she first started working at the office I thought she was very attractive but I have always been shy and never initiated anything with girls. Finally, after a week, she started initiating with me and since then we have chatted here and there. I know for a fact she has a crush on me. Others have said so and she even keeps asking me when we will hang out or when I will call her. I just keep telling her 'i don't know' because I really don't know if I like her or not. I think she's attractive, but I don't think we'd be a good couple because I'm very shy and she's very outgoing. She also plays with her cell phone a lot with I am finding unattractive at this point. I rarley use my cell phone (I have no friends anyways) and she is always looking at it or talking on it or something to do with it. The cell phone thing is only ridiculous though, It's not a big deal. Should I just hang out with her to find out if I like her or not as more than a friend? I'm thinking I should just say 'we can hang out at your house when I'm not working one day'. She has beautiful eyes and beautiful hair and I love how she is crazy and cute at the same time, but, parts of her personality are nothing like me... has anyone else experienced this? What did you do if you found someone attractive but their personality wasn't like yours so much? hang out or not?
amber1 Posted September 15, 2007 Posted September 15, 2007 I don't see anything wrong with going out with her just to see how well you get along with her. If you don't like her after that, then at least you know for sure that you and she aren't compatible.
Superglue Posted September 16, 2007 Posted September 16, 2007 take her out, she may be alot more desirable to you than what you think....just keep business and pleasure separate.
JCD Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 Don't bother with her. You've already identified that your personality is different from hers and that will be a problem. When you meet the right girl, you'll never have to ask these type of questions because you'll just know they're right for you. If you ignore your gut feelings then you'll regret your choice later on.
Saxis Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 This is kinda how it was with my STBXW. We had completely opposite personalities. We worked together, and she always wanted to hang out. Then we started to and it just developed from there... But yeah, in the end, our different personalities got the better of us, and she wanted to leave, ending in me being miserable, and our daughter stuck in the middle....
Krytellan Posted September 18, 2007 Posted September 18, 2007 has anyone else experienced this? What did you do if you found someone attractive but their personality wasn't like yours so much? hang out or not? I just went through this with someone. When I wasn't with her I found myself thinking fondly of her and wanting to be around her. When I was around her, I was having a good time but something just wasn't right (I dont think I was physically attracted to her enough to be real). So I couldn't decide what the hell to do. I just rode it out, knowing that sooner or later the answer would come. I just made it a point not to do or say anything too serious until I knew. It ended up working itself out, and I knew that I just wasn't into her enough. Let it ride. The decision will come naturally to you in a moment of clarity. Don't actively think about, it'll let you know when it happens.
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