EYECANDY000 Posted September 15, 2007 Posted September 15, 2007 so my friend and I have been best friends for almost ten years now, we are both twenty-five years old. Now, heres the situation. She has been in a serious relationship for about 7 years now.. just recently they decided that it was time to end it and that the relationship was going downhill. So after their break up, a period of about 3 weeks past by. So my friend (lets just call her penny) penny calls me and ask if i would like to go out so she can get her mind off of him. I said of course. So we call up my other friend who we are mutual friends with . and we plan an fun outing. So a few hours go past and i tell her that I am on my way to pick her up. She states that she doesnt feel like going, Im like huh? dude u called me to come out and now you dont feel like it. So , I say fine... and I go pick up my other friend who was going to go out with us originally (lets call her jenny) So Jenny and I go out to this bar/bowling alley/sports bar. And who do we see all hugged up? her ex bf (lets call him kenny) So kenny doesnt see me or jenny.. So to make a long story short I call penny and tell her that kenny is at the bar with a girl so it seems that he is over you. And this is the part where i would like to know if I was in the wrong.. She says well go and take a picture of the girl so I can see what see looks like, huh? then she says well go and tell kenny that I came with you guys and that she was so hurt that she seen kenny hugged up with a girl that left. huh? i was like uhhh no!! im not taking a picture of no one, and Im not walking up to him and out the blue say oh well penny was here but she was so hurt that she seen you witrh another girl she left. So penny bsiaclly told me I wasnt sh*t and that i wasnt a friend of hers if I didnt care about her feelings. Her theroy is that I shouldnt have said anything at all. I should have kept my mouth closed about everything.. What do u guys think? do u think that i was in the wrong for telling her? I thought that I was being a friend by telling her that he has already moved on and so should she.. so now I feel when it comes to friend to just keep my mouth shut
motorace1 Posted September 17, 2007 Posted September 17, 2007 In situations such as these, it is difficult to decide whether to tell or not to tell. Everyone's different, but in my opinion you did the one and only thing a best friend would do. Tell her the truth. I understand that you did not want to get overly involved and approach him, but it is obvious that you care for your friend and felt she had a right to know. I'm sure if you hadn't told her, and she had found out some other way, she would have been angry at you for that as well. My advice is to just let her have a cooling off period. Its sad, but we all take our hurt and anger out on those closest to us, and it appears she was hurt and she lashed out at you. Give her some time, then talk to here about it. You've been friends for ten years, something like this shouldn't end a strong friendship.
Raiatea Posted September 19, 2007 Posted September 19, 2007 I agree. Perhaps she was feeling down that day and to hear about her ex made her feel like trying to get back at him. She is still suffering after the breakup of a long relationship, just give her time. She will soon realise that you were totally on her side when you told her about her ex.
Liquinn Posted September 20, 2007 Posted September 20, 2007 No you probably didn't. My girl is been a pain, by terminating the relationship.
XxBacktoBlackXx Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 No I don't think you did the wrong thing. I agree with you, personally.
Liquinn Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 Thanks, in my past, they just didn't like me, well, want to like me.
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